I met my ex for drinks (at a place I've never been with people I've never met) on St. Pat's Day. She was the reason I went down the RP rabbit hole. Hadn't seen her in 10 months. Good idea? Bad idea? Doesn't matter. Curiosity makes people do strange things.

Of course, I'm having some beers, talking to other people, on top of my shit, and just having a good time. At one point, the ex turns to me while no one is around and says: "I invited you out to give you another shot, but you're kind of being a douchebag."

That's when it hit me. You will always be a beta to your ex. They cannot process the change to having frame and being confident. They think it's an act.

You cannot escape the Sarlac Pit. I wasn't being douchey AT ALL. She just couldn't wrap her head around it. I wasn't being a NiceguyTM, wasn't being clingy, and was dividing my attention amongst other people while having fun.

She will not like the NEW YOU. Don't try. Don't dig in the dumpster to see what is salvageable. She'll do outlandish things to try and get the old you to come out/break your frame. Don't participate in her goofy shit. Have fun and chalk it up to a test that you passed.

I did meet some cool people that day. I don't think I paid for a single beer.