Never be an "employee"

It's been a while since I made a post here but I'm one hundred percent sure most you will be interested in hearing this.

Quick background about me, if you've seen my posts before you'll know that I started a business at a young age and made myself financially independent since the age of seventeen. That said, I often have these strange moments where I sit and study a subject just to learn more about it. This is how I've become who I am today. Something interests me or something seems strange to me and I begin researching and studying it. Lets begin.

I started watching a TV show called Better Call Saul, the breaking bad prequel. It's essentially about the world of Lawyers and other criminal activities. It was this show that first brought my attention to the difference in position just by body language and clothing.

Please note that I'm condensing a full essay down into a simple reddit post. I had prepared image examples for this but I honestly can't be bothered posting them. I'll stick with explaining.

Essentially I have been studying the concept of status in the workplace. Why was it that certain people were often treated better than others? I'm not talking in terms of friendliness. Most of the time people will be at the very basic, kind with each other. However why was it that the nicer people are more often stepped upon or disregarded for interest.

I then came to the realisation that how you dress and how you present yourself i.e the employee mindset, is what defines the position you have. This may sound like something simple which everybody knows but it's much more heavy than people realise.

The Employee Mindset:

• You see yourself as an employee doing a job

• You rely on a single paycheck for income

• You see your bosses as people of higher status

• You need to work hard to follow in their footsteps

• You wait for instructions

The above is the employee mindset in my perspective. You should never ever be like that. I don't care what job you are doing, always be the opposite.

With this in mind, I sat down and thought about this. If my theory is actually sound then it should work flawlessly. I always test my concepts out before revealing them to others. I decided to apply for a high level job.

Keep in mind, I have never worked before. I have no CV/Resume. I had to make one on the spot and list zero experience. (The only thing I had in that section was the self employment work). I also listed a few programming languages in the skills section.

I then went ahead and applied to big companies. Law firms, business firms etc. I have never studied these subjects in my life. Within 3 days I received responses. All asking for interviews or on the odd case, a little puzzle to solve via email.

There was one that actually got my attention. Honestly, I would have taken this job if I genuinely had the time. It was a huge business firm in the city with their own massive building. It actually looked like one of the big buildings in the TV shows.

I email back and forth with the recruitment lady who informs me of the process; a telephone interview then if successful, a live interview.

We set a date for the phone interview and I decided to do my research on the company.

They day came and the phone interview began. Skipping the unnecessary details, I got the job. The only problem was that I'm currently finishing my degree and they would like me to come full time. We scheduled something for next year.

So how the hell did I do it?

• The recruiter listed a youtube link in her email which I assume was the standard deal in all their professional works. The thing is, I actually clicked on the linked and went through their videos. I then went onto their website and studied every damn tab and section. There was even an events section for those interested in attending an event.

• During the interview, when talking about why I applied for the job I used the word "Selected" not "Applied". When you apply for something, you are pulling a string hoping that you get the thing. When you select something you choose it because you had so many others.

Example: "I applied for a car."

"I selected a car."

Selected implies that you have many options, this is what job recruiters are not used to. In their view, they have the power over you because they have the job and you often need the job. Saying that you selected their job erases that power.

• I told her that I would like to provide value to their business. I even went as far as to tell her that I signed up for a few of the events so that I can go and learn more. This completely surprised the woman. Again, recruiters are often used to your average person standing on tip toes hoping that they get the job. They are always interested in how much of a paycheck they will get and how long their hours will be. The word "Value" is never used. By using that, you will instantly separate yourself from everyone else.

At this point she had already told me that the job was perfect for me if I was willing to take it. She had completely skipped the live interview process.

Now even in a live interview, the same concepts still apply. All you need to do is speak to them on an equal level. Be realistic. If you come in there sucking their feet, it doesn't guarantee you a job, all you would have done is sucked some feet only to be rejected.

Being in my position, I have hired people before. I have my own employees and that is exactly how I treated the situation. I spoke to the recruiter in an Employer to Employer way. Not Employer to Employee.

Another thing I made certain to do was to speak to this woman by her first name. Again, most people you speak to on the phone or in an interview don't expect you to remember their name. To them it isn't important, they are there to interview You. Using their name hits them with reality. (I have often used this when talking to paypal/ebay workers. It makes them go the extra mile to help me.)

Example: "Hmm that's a very good question Sarah. I became interested in this subject since..."

^ That was an actual line I said to the recruiter on the phone. Reading that carefully does that look like a desperate man hoping for a job acceptance?

Here is a mock Interview that shows the basic power concept. The guy is completely subjecting himself to the woman. He is essentially saying "Here is what I can do, please hire me." He is trying to prove himself https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R_dxlajqA4s

When you get into the interview, you don't need to prove yourself. Assume you already have the job and be confident in that stride.

I hope this was beneficial to at least someone. If you would like to read my full study which goes into body language, High Status, High status seating and even NLP (neuro linguistic programming) just drop me a message.

Here is also a great article on high status seating that I believe everyone should read: http://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/chap17.html

Cheers

EDIT------

A few of the groups I mentor have recommended that I create some sort of blog where everyone can come and read what I have to say. I decided to also share it here.

https://absentmasculinity.com/

It's a basic WordPress blog with no bullshit popups, course nonsense or motivational speeches. I give methods not motivation. You won't find tips on how to text girls so if that is your interest, the blog won't be for you.

I should also add that this blog is partly catered to the groups I mentor in which I teach them ways to be successful and stand out from the crowd. You may find my terminology there to be a little harsher than it is here on Reddit. You are also free to contact me over there if you have any direct inquires.