INTRO

Base your self-worth on the internal, not on the external. This is the key to true confidence, and confidence is the key to a true masculinity.

To forge the internal, you must conquer.

BODY

Self-worth should not be determined by what you currently have (the external). It should be determined by what challenges you have overcome (the internal).

The external may very well determine how fun your life is (who the fuck doesn’t love women, money, expensive cars, etc.), but it also may very well determine your sense of self-worth. It shouldn’t.

It shouldn’t determine your self-worth, because then it has direct control over your confidence in yourself. In order for a man to be happy, he must have confidence in himself.

Thing is, most don’t realize this until they lose what they have and it leads to spiraling depression.

For example, oneitis is caused by intense overvaluation, part of it being the woman you’re fawning over determining your sense of self-worth. If she’s into you, you must be good looking/smooth/funny/whatever. When she ultimately shuts you the fuck down, you feel worthless. You let her determine your self-worth, and by doing so, give her direct control over your sense of confidence in yourself.

Never, ever, let anything that could be ripped away from you hold a substantial amount of value to your sense of self-worth.

Your self-worth should be built on challenges you have conquered, aka the internal.

By conquering challenges (picking up women for example), you build confidence in yourself (the internal).

With an internally fortified sense of self worth, you are reliant solely on yourself for confidence. Ever wondered how dudes who live shitty lives can be pick up hotties at the same time? Most of these guys don’t know game. They don’t know how to fake it. They don’t even try to fake it.

It’s because their self-worth and hence confidence in themselves is internally fortified. It’s not based on their possessions. Not on their looks. Not on their height. Not on how they stack up against others. Not on what a hottie thinks of them. But by the challenges they have had to face and conquer, likely due to being born in shitty conditions and living shitty lives.

Now, this does NOT mean you need to live a shitty life to be confident.

After all, we self-improve to live better, more entertaining lives. The point is, you can retain high self-worth/confidence in yourself at rock bottom or at the very top, as long as you have faced and conquered challenges in the past which have internally fortified your self-worth.

Being a man is about facing challenges and conquering them. The beauty of self-improvement is it not only improves your quality of life (how much fun you have), but it also permanently increases your self-worth and confidence in yourself by putting you through various trials and tribulations that challenge your spirit.

If you’ve climbed mountains, is climbing a hill gonna seem so hard anymore?

To have a truly developed masculinity, sense of self-worth, and confidence, you must go defeat all sorts of challenges to fortify real fucking confidence in yourself and your abilities so you can have something concrete to base your self-worth on, instead of basing it on something you could easily lose.

This is why “fake it ‘till you make it” only works to an extent. You will never have a true sense of self-worth/confidence until you have a sense of self-worth/confidence that is reliant on the internal. And to be reliant on the internal, you must forge the internal. And to forge the internal, you must conquer.

CONCLUSION

In order to have real self-worth, real confidence, and a real masculinity, you must go out and defeat real challenges to build your confidence/self-worth/masculinity. You can try to fake it, but you will never truly have those things until you have actually earned them.

After all... Boys are born. Men are made.

TL;DR

Base your self-worth on the internal. Build the internal by conquering the external.