## Females and their need for male validation

As we all know, women have two main reproductive goals:

  1. Get impregnated by the highest value male (alpha) she can find.

  2. Secure support for herself and her child from a provider (beta).

Evolution created in women some powerful emotional incentives to promote the achievement of these two goals. They feel good when their reality is that they are likely to attract the attention of high value males, and secure a provider - or several - should she need them.

What kind of feedback can induce this good feeling?

Obviously as a woman you can get this feedback in various forms: you can study your own reflection, or get compliments from your girlfriends. However, attraction is a complex process, and none of these alternative forms really guarantees that you can attract a suitable alpha, and/or secure support from a beta. Your girlfriends might be lying to you: women will manipulate the shit out of each other to improve their own reproductive odds. You might be lying to yourself about how young and beautiful you look. Or maybe you do look nice, but there's some complex social reason that alphas or betas will be repulsed by you, such as low social class.

Therefore, the most powerful way to trigger these good feelings is by **direct unambiguous proof that you can attract alphas and control betas**.

That is what validation is.

## The two categories of validation

Have you ever seen these two wildly different behaviors exhibited by the same woman:

  1. An attractive man gives her some mild compliment, maybe throws her half a smile, just a tiny scrap of attention... And she literally melts. She starts smiling uncontrollably, and goes into an emotional high that lasts for hours.

  2. An unattractive man dedicates his attention and resources to her benefit for an extended period of time, often multiple years. All this investments produces is mild contentment whenever the woman feels secure in possessing it. On a rare occasion, the man does not deliver all that the woman believes herself entitled to, and in response she freaks out, exploding in rage and malcontent. She will calm down when the man caves and renews the investment at the level the woman expects, otherwise she will either embark on a campaign to subdue him by pain and emotional violence, or end the relationship entirely.

**These two categories of validation are geared towards her two different reproductive goals**.

If a man is an alpha, she doesn't need much from him to be validated. All she really needs is evidence that given the opportunity, he would fuck her. If he takes a moment of his busy schedule to pay her the tiniest bit of notice, or show her any sign of attraction - her need for validation is quite satisfied. An attractive man indicated that he would give her his seed. She has done well to fulfill her reproductive role, and her motivational system will reward her with a positive feelings.

A beta man is another story. His job is to satisfy her provision needs. His seed is subpar and by itself - worthless to her. He can only satisfy her by showing that he would invest and support her at her request, at any level she demands or thinks she needs. Which he can only show by **actually investing and supporting her at her request**. Ever heard a woman complain that words are cheap, and you need to actually _invest_ - your time, money, energy, etc - to demonstrate your devotion to her? That's beta validation in action.

From a alpha man, she needs proof that he would fuck her. Obviously the best proof is to have him actually fuck her, and of course women will often do what it takes to obtain this proof, given the opportunity. Getting fucked by an alpha man is the ultimate rush of validation for a woman.

From a beta man, she needs proof that he will provide her with the sort of substantial support that can make meaningfully secure the survival of herself and her offspring. That's a whole different ballgame, folks. We're talking about years of heavy, constant investment. She can't have him wander off at random - such fickle support is worthless. She also can't have him potentially spend his precious resources on other women. Her policy towards him will be **jealousy** and **control**. He must be devoted to her, and her alone. Of course, this policy does not apply to her own self - equality and fairness are *rational* concepts which mean nothing to women. It obviously doesn't apply to alpha men. As long as she can get his seed, she couldn't care less how many other women the alpha is currently fucking. In fact, if she chose well, it should be quite a few!

Now you understand why getting the slightest bit of notice from an alpha is validation crack for women, while getting years of serious investment from betas is - at best - just enough to keep her content. Rather than make her satisfied, beta validation will instead make her focused on constant relentless control, and very sensitive to any lapse of investment on her victim's part. This is a negatively-oriented mindset, a game in which she can lose a lot, but cannot really win.

**The crucial difference between alpha and beta is that fucking an alpha validates a woman.** Fucking a beta does not. In fact, the typical beta is desperate for sex, and by fucking him, she is validating him, while her own validation level and social status plummet. That's why sex is so important in this context, and why any woman would easily rather lose than fuck her friendzoned orbiter. Fucking that orbiter provides her no validation, and instead only lowers her status. It takes validation away, since she can't keep a beta around without sex. It's proof she failed.