It’s a fairly simple point but one I feel I need to expand on the thinking behind it.

Over my years of dating I've gotten to the point where it’s a lot of fun for me, and a lot of fun for the lucky lady who gets to share it with me. Approaching dating the way I do has yielded a lot of success for me, builds strong attraction, not only in the amount and quality of sex, but also in generally enjoying the time spent together. More often than not it ends up with the lady hooked, happy, and eager to please in all aspects of the relationship. I still get regularly hit up by past flames, most of them dissatisfied that every relationship after was stale in comparison. It;s no quick fix special formula it’s simply an approach that involves understanding how the female mind operates and working your approach around this.

It’s one particular style of dating and certainly isn’t for everyone. I’m going to break it down from first date until deeper in the relationship.

There’s a few things I’d like to cover before getting into it:

All women start out as a potential prospect nothing more, the amount of guys I see who start talking to a girl with the intention of LTR’ing is astounding. Upon meeting a girl I have no expectations or hopes of future plans, I take it as it progresses. Even if I’m only plating at a particular point in time, the approach remains the same. The more I find out about her and how she behaves dictates how I behave towards her.

In all aspects of dating I lead. I dictate where we go, I tell her what we’ll be doing, I control when it begins and ends. It immediately sets the tone for the relationship going forward. She’s comfortable knowing that I have her safety at heart and all she has to do is show up and have a good time. More often than not this results in her spending her time thinking how she can add to the date-sexy lingerie, a surprise for me, blowjob in the car etc. This is not to say I’m not open to an idea from her. When she does this it’s good because she’s thinking about you and things she’d like to do with you. Even on her ideas though, I lead in all other aspects. She gets used to you being the leader, and her supporting you.

The purpose of my dates is to have fun. If I’m not having fun, then it’s a futile waste of time. And if I’m not having fun then more than likely she’s not having fun. When you’re leading, her enjoyment is generally a factor of how you lead. I generally try to do things that I enjoy or find entertaining. This means I’m comfortable and confident on my dates. As much as dating is about getting to know each other, the main thing it is about evoking a feeling in her. She might remember information about you, that you have two dogs for example, although that’s not what builds attraction, the feeling she gets when she remembers the date is.

First Dates

I’m a chatty confident motherfucker(never used to be) so by the time I head on a first date I’ve already built a bit of rapport or even hooked up with the girl if I met her out. I only do cold approaches, no tinder or anything like that although this should still work regardless.

First dates in my books are the tamest, adventure is for later, but it’s also the most important. They set the tone for the relationship and provide you with the information needed to know whether this has any legs or not. I try not show too much investment on the first date, she needs to work for that. I also don’t know her from a bar of soap so there shouldn’t be deep investment. I keep it casual, comfortable and relaxed, so as there’s not too much pressure on her. I also like to keep it public but secluded, so we can talk comfortably while still doing something fun. My go to options are:

Casual Quiet Bar (Close to my place) – It’s casual, doesn’t require much effort, doesn’t convey that she’s a special snowflake. I go for a quiet place so that I can converse and at a bar so that they can lubricate with a drink or two, I never drink too much on a date.

Sunset on beachfront – I often take them for a walk on the beachfront, Sunset’s already set the tone of intimacy. It’s beautiful and evokes emotion in her. She’ll then associate these emotions with me. I walk and talk so it’s not as tense as sitting at a table and I always bring a bottle of wine, it relaxes them a little more.

A good view – A good view for the same reasons as the sunset. I sit and talk with a bottle of wine. These are also all fairly cheap dates.

More often than not the date goes well and if I like her, I’ll escalate and go for the lay. Personally I always go for at least a kiss. Over time you get a feel for what kind of vibe there is. If it’s just a kiss then I’ll go for the lay on the second or third date, but continue building tension on those dates.

Now this is where different strategies come in. You can now progress with this girl or keep her as just a plate. I’ve had plates where I keep things simple, mostly just inviting over for a bang and nothing more, and some that I spend a little more time with, but I keep it somewhat stale and simple. You can go ahead and progress with my method of dating with a plate although you run the risk of getting attached or somewhat emotionally invested. If you manage your emotions well and logic still prevails be my guest to do this with your plates. Although she will inevitably want more, and that’s when your plate will start to crack.

Wonderland

First dates are my least favorite, after that is generally where the fun starts. Once you’ve reached the point where you’ve fucked her brains out, you have an endless possibility of things you can do. Women are as game as you are. Remember, when you’re leading, they’re trusting that you’ve done the calculations and everything is safe. I do a lot of crazy shit, a lot of naughty shit, but mostly I make sure it’s fun and I evoke emotion in myself and her. I’ve yet to meet a woman who wasn’t keen and wasn’t excited by what we do. This is where the fun starts, the more fun stuff you do the more they begin to build a strong attachment to you. I still get texts from old hook ups and ex’s messaging me “remember the time we did this” or “remember the time we did that”.

I’m not going to go into too much details on the specific dates I do, but more going to expand on the philosophy behind it.

After the first date, and once again only after I’ve banged her, I usually start doing more adventurous stuff. I’ll take her wine tasting. I’ll go for a short hike. Take a day trip somewhere. Go to a gaming arcade. But it’s not the activity that matters, it’s how you do it. For example if I go wine tasting, ill fuck her in the vineyards on a tractor. If I go on a hike I’ll smoke a joint and get lost in nature, also fuck her with an amazing view. If I’m day tripping I’ll stop next to a lake that says no swimming and go skinny dipping. Go to a festival and get fucked up together. If I go to the gaming arcade, I’ll cheat on all the machines so I get a bunch of tickets and get her a huge teddy bear (These are all things I’ve done).

Now I’m not advocating doing anything Illegal, I’ve been caught doing some of these things most I got was a laugh and a slap on the wrist. What I am advocating is giving her a thrill. A point of excitement. A rush. I’m advocating evoking emotion in her, going to dinner at your favorite restaurant for the 3rd time in a row and talking about your day isn’t going to do that. Most relationships I see are so stale and repetitive. I do something memorable every time we go out. It’s not that I’m actively thinking what and trying every time, it comes as second nature to me. I’m simply having fun, and because I am, and leading, so is she. It’s a habit to have fun. Women in my experience are naughtier than men. As time goes on I find that they are coming up with ideas and things to do on a date. It’s almost as if because I’m very wild, they feel comfortable showing their wilder side, everyone around them still thinks they’re an angel, but for me they let out their inner animal. I like this and I’m sure you will too.

I never ever push for commitment. No matter how long our adventures go on. It’s up to her to bring it up. Even then I don’t just give in. I say I’ll think about it and let them feel all nervously excited waiting for some big news. I’m genuinely not concerned if we have a label or not, I’m only concerned with having fun when we see each other. If I accept the LTR T&C’s are set and then I continue dating her exactly as before. Nothing changes.

I never ever say I love you first and only ever say it back if it’s genuine.

Dating with the approach I do has always ended up in them asking for commitment and saying I love you first. I have a 100% hit rate in this regard. I only introduce them to friends and family at this point. As there is something substantial and she has earned it over a long period.

I don’t slow down on this approach past the point of LTR, this is when most get comfortable and stagnate. I have a genuine excitement for life. I enjoy living. They want to be a part of this. They feel alive when they’re with me. They have an endless list of memories with me and I continue to build them, that makes the bond stronger. I go on frequent road trips to beach or snow. I go skydiving and bungee jumping. I tell her to take her panties of when were out at dinner. I’ll fuck her in the movie theatre. Sure work can get busy, but i make an effort to do something atleast once or twice a week. At this point we have a deeper understanding of each other, so it just flows, it's natural. We're basically partners in crime (with me as the lead criminal).

It goes for aslong as it goes, and if it ends it ends (and it has) but I’ve always been able to walk away saying damn I had a lot of good times, and the same can be said for her. Not everyone will want to operate their relationships like this and that’s fine. I feel I’ve gotten the most out of my women and It’s always been great for me. They’ve never cheated (as far as I know and that’s all I care about) because they’re far too busy having a ball with me. I’ve always been the one to end it. Hopefully there’s some points in here to use, or, at the very least some motivation to enjoy your relationship a little more.