I have been self conscious, unsure, unprepared and unknowing of what to do around women for most of my life. I’m 26, an only child raised by a single father who never had relationships as he was equally as bad with women.

Since my childhood I’ve done many things. I've bought a house, a dream car, had a great relationship that lasted just around 4 years and also got into my dream career working professionally as a DJ 2 nights a week.

Recently I have had a big break and have entered into the biggest night clubs around. At first I lacked confidence and was nervous, after weeks of playing in these clubs my confidence has gotten higher and higher. I also realised that being a DJ only gets your foot in the door with women. You need to be up to speed and walk the walk and talk the talk. I soon learned that if I was going to get anywhere with women, I needed to practise and work on bettering myself.

Up until these last two weeks I had always felt inadequate around women. I’m just below average height and have always felt like an imposter in the night club scene even though I’m the main DJ. Everyone around me appears to be cool when I feel like I’m pretending...

I have just ended my 4 year relationship and decided to put myself out there. For the first time in my life, EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED FOR ME. It's been night and day, and all I did was tweak a few things after reading some posts on this reddit sub. I thought i was boring before and that even though I was in a relationship women didn’t want to talk to me, that made me feel rejected, I wasn't sure of my worth and often felt that If I ended the relationship, no girl would want me, but I just realised that women weren’t talking to me or giving me attention because I had been in a relationship...

I was so wrong!! How could I have not known!? LOL

After reading a few tips on here, I changed my approach and the last two weekends have been crazy!

Here’s what I’ve learned.

You are the prize: Literally, you are a MAN. And at first glance that's exactly who you are, women are insecure and they worry about looks AND they live in a paradigm where women everywhere are being absolute fucking trash bitches to them all the time. Literally, a peak into a woman's world, especially in a night club is like a fucking war zone. Hats off to the girls who put up with it.

After going out and speaking to women I have noticed a few things, you are judged straight away. Correct me If I'm wrong but single, horny women will want to fuck most decent looking men right up until these guys open their stupid mouths. Does that make sense? You are a YES right up until you make yourself a NO, and it only takes one stupid sentence to fuck up your chances. I noticed this because last Friday night I had spotted an instagram model who had actually been on the First Dates TV show in Australia. I approached her and asked if she was the girl from TV. Then In the conversation I dropped that I was the DJ. I didn't have much experience at this point with women and this was a learning curve for me (hence the advice). Looking back I could tell she was scanning the fuck out of me, subconsciously scanning my frame, level of eye contact, confidence levels etc. I'm a handsome guy when I am done up but I wouldn't say I'm hot and I especially don't believe I am the Chris Hemsworth character that these 10's usually desire to fuck. Looking back now I can tell I could've fucked her if I had played my cards right. Instead her friend came up and joined her and I, I got stuck talking to her friend (who, mind me was absolutely gorgeous but was in no way was a hot, down to fuck, instagram model who would let you do lines of cocaine off her tits while you fucked her in the her ass). After talking to her friend, who was completely oblivious that she had cock blocked me, the model had found a tall meat head that was nearby to latch onto. We all ended up hanging out and I made out with her flight attendant friend. I got her number, messaged her the next day, never got a reply. That's okay, lesson learned.

What to make of that?

Confidence is everything.

Eye contact is everything.

Frame is everything.

It is also absolutely important to not have your blinders on when going for a girl, make sure to take care of her friends first and for god's sake don't let your guard down around her friends or they will take her away from you even if you have done everything right with the girl you're after.

Also, don't get stuck in conversation with women you DON'T want because the girl you're after will most likely think you want her friend.

More advice: You will know within the first 30 seconds of meeting someone if they’re attracted to you or not, you can pick up on the subtle cues and body language pretty quickly. You are white noise to some women, you don't exist, that's okay, you do the same thing to women every day LOL. Other women will spend time scanning the fuck out of you, which is what happened with the IG model. I believe she was thinking (He's not my usual type, but he seems important, which is weird, so I would fuck him because he's important, but I need to shit test and validate this guy to make sure he walks the walk and talks the talk if he's going to get any piece of me).

Also, some girls are more confident than others, obviously, but in this sense, some will make it obvious that they like you and others will just want you to lead the way. I mean, some girls are outspoken and will tell you that you're hot, and others, more shy girls will make it obvious that they like you by continuing to talk to you, by finding your jokes funny, by subtle body language cues etc, take her company and her levels of engagement as a compliment and a 'yes' signal.

I also noticed last Saturday night that at nightclubs a lot of women there are complete trash, the hotter ones are trashier and will do anything as long as you go about it the right way. I mean in those environments everyone is young, boys and girls are horny and everyone loves sex. It helps to know and understand how absolute Trash women can be, most men never realise this but the epiphany is the difference between dating a woman and having the same girl on call for sex whenever you want. - You ever watched porn? Hot girls get hot so they can be fucked, be nasty and use their looks and superior social skills over beta men to withdraw money and get spoiled. Don't ever be the fucking BETA. I am telling you from a guy who has been a short, porn watching Beta right until I broke up my 4 year relationship and started putting myself out there. Go to the gym, eat healthy, save your sperm, don't watch porn, don't put women on a pedestal, don't glorify them, be nice and lovely to be around, but also act in a way that you know they are complete trash and that you will fuck their brains out once they get over their stupid fucking games of trying to shit test you. (Never indulge in bullshit shit testing).

In Nightclubs it pays to know people, and have validation by people you know walking by, it props your status and worth up. I can do this because I'm meeting more people as the DJ. This helps. But I would suggest meeting some people throughout the night, remember their names. Then, if luck is on your side, you'll be talking to a girl and someone will walk past and you can say 'hey bro, let's still go for that drink later' signing off with a bro handshake. You might never see him again, but she will think you're connected.

When meeting chicks it helps to bro down with one and have her want to introduce you to her ‘single friend’. Massive help, but this just another card in your arsenal.

Previously, I had been unaware and been doing the opposite to all of these things..... I've always gotten close as a DJ but had never been able to secure the end goal.

Two weeks ago everything changed. I met a chick, I knew she was attracted to me, in fact she made it obvious and told me I was hot etc, I had no idea how the fuck I was going to go from that comment to fucking her, but alas I did my best. After chatting for a while, and dancing with her and her friend we eventually went and did cocaine in the bathroom, she was a dental nurse and wanted to see my teeth, she put her fingers in my mouth lol while checking out my smile, 10 seconds In i thought fuck this and I grabbed her chin, her hands were already around my head so we were in the perfect position to make out. I mean, as well, everything was there for the taking, two people in a bathroom in a night club doing cocaine and the female already has said I'm hot, I just needed to get my shit together and make it happen. We made out, we then ended up in the back of my car doing coke and fucking for 2 and a half hours before I made her catch a taxi home. I got her number but never messaged her back. Why? She was hot, good ass, good pussy, great blowjob but she was looking for a fuck buddy and I could tell this girl was going to be a 9/10 clinger. It doesn't take a moron to know that fuck buddies are only good if they don't need you because they're unable to get laid. So, that weekend was a wrap!

This weekend, even better. I was at work, a random girl off the street walked in, came up to me, started dancing and rubbing her ass on my dick. She put my hands on her ass and it was clear as day that I couldn't fucked her. Her breath stank so bad and she was a 5.5/10 in her drunk state at best, complete trash, security kicked her out, but it boosted my confidence for the rest of the night.

Later that night these girls entered the venue. This girl was coming up for 'song requests' (As a DJ you soon pick up on if they actually want a song or if it's just an excuse to come and talk and to scan and validate you for a potential fuck). She was a 4/10, her friends were gross too, but I wanted to see if advice that I read here on reddit would work and If I could get her to 'want me'. We started talking and I could tell she had started trying to shit test me. Asking me where Im going to next, I said another night club and mentioned which one. She said she would like to come but doesn’t want her or her friends to pay entry. I stared at her and said “I’m not gonna to get you in for free, I actually have no idea who you are, I’m getting other people in for free but definitely not you, I don't know you” I said it while looking directly in her eyes with a big smile at the end, the 'cut your fucking bullshit' smile, the 'you're not winning that easily' smile. She took a step back and said 'Rude' with a puzzled look and the she walked back to her friends. This was the first moment I had realised that 'I am the Prize' and it was up to me to leverage that. Guys previously I would've been a pushover and offered her and her friends a free ride and free entry etc. I would've put myself out there just to have any chance with a woman... NEVER do that!! Literally after reading this thread I realised that I was the prize and so I acted like it. Boys she could not make it anymore obvious how much she wanted me after that. She was dirty dancing right beside, bending over and shaking her ass in my direction, coming up to ask for song requests, trying to get really close to me in the process, then failing and walking back to her friends while they all had a communal chat about me, staring at me constantly. I had WON. This chick NEEDED my validation after that and I know she would've used her pussy to do that.

LOL I did not rock up to the club with a group 25 to 35 year old 3's and 4's. But I did learn about what it meant to value yourself and that you are the prize. Thank you reddit!

So, at the club I was on the dance floor when I noticed this hot 10 by herself, she didn’t know I was a DJ or anything which makes me more happy about this. She was absolute model material, my exact type, tight butt, tight tummy, long brunette, tanned, European and exotic looking. I started dancing by myself, fuck it, I did like the music and I wasn't there with anyone else anyway. She saw me and bumped into me and told me how ‘drunk she was’, I just looked at her and said ‘cool’ with an unimpressed look in my eyes and tone of my voice. I mean, what the fuck would I have done with that information.... Say 'Great, let's go back to your house so you can spit into my mouth and I can lick your asshole'?. No, that information gives me fuck all... I went and got a drink from the bar and came back, I saw some people I had met last weekend walk by and we shook hands etc, had small talk, kept dancing, (That was the moment of having women see that you know people and realise you're not a random alone loser but that you're connected). At this point she was still by herself, all of her friends were dancing but she wasn't. I could see her glancing over, I went up and asked if she had any cigarettes, she didn’t. I stepped back and kept dancing and she came over and told me she was ‘drunk’ again, I had my hands around her waist, I then grabbed her hand and spun her around. 5 seconds later her friends came in for the swoop and took her away. I didn’t give a fuck, I was just happy that a woman as hot as her was interested in me regardless of anything else, more of a confidence boost than anything. Remember when I said, deal with her friends but don't fuck yourself over in front of them, well I had actually done that, I was too friendly too one of her friends and she was the one who swooped in... Meh...

I went downstairs to a smoking area and was sitting down there when this woman asked for a lighter, I let her use mine and then we began talking. She was a single Mum and I wasn’t at all interested in her but I dropped that I was the DJ. I needed a cue into her group and that's my go to now LOL. She introduced me to her group and said she had a single friend who’s outside that she could introduce me to if I was interested. Of course I said yes.

I met the girl, 10/10.. Nice 29 year old Greek woman, bit taller than me, FIT! Physiotherapist who doesn't ever eat take away food. We sat on the couch, had a pretty relaxed conversation, I made her laugh etc then I thought to myself that my window was closing and that I needed to call the elephant in the room. I told her that her friend said to me that I had to kiss her or I’d be in big trouble. (She never said that lol) the girl laughed as if 'oh of course my friend would say that' I grabbed her chin and we made out, (Fuck me guys she was the best most erotic kisser I have ever been with) the club was closing and I wanted to keep making out with her so I suggested we go to my car. I took her out, drove around the block, we both jumped into the back seat and started kissing, it got heated, I ripped her pants off and ate her pussy out, she gave me most amazing head while I had my fingers in her ass, she swallowed and everything. Amazing! Bliss! I gave her my number and said I’d like to see her again, and would like to go on a date. She was happy and I dropped her back home. Reason why I gave her my number is because I got the vibe that she never really did things as bold as what we did and I wanted to give her the decision on whether or not she wants to meet up and fuck or if she wanted to decide that it was a once off for her. Which is okay in my books.

The next night rolls around, Saturday. I’m doing my thing then I spot two girls in a DM in the smokers area. I approached anyway and asked if they had a lighter. I borrowed it, asked if I could sit down then I turned my body away and let them chat. Eventually I turned back and interrupted their conversation. (It was boring as fuck, I could hear it HAHA) I started talking to them. One girl was a 4/10 and the other was a 10. I read this situation so well. Thanks again to Reddit and advice I had read. I dropped that I was a DJ and I instantly got open body language from the 10, boom her whole body framed up towards my direction. I flirted with her a little and then I turned to the 4 and gave her some attention, I could see the 10 getting absolutely frustrated, her inner bitch wanted me and couldn’t handle her ugly duckling friend having my attention. I played this so well. I mean, imagine being a chick, who gets all done up, perfect body, perfect ass and tits, gorgeous face, to be talking to the main DJ in the nightclub to then be in a position where her ugly friend is getting more attention, way to drive a girl fucking nuts!!! Eventually when I started talking to the 10 again she managed to mention her vagina several times in the conversation. Good on her, set the tone well. I could tell she was absolute trash as I offered her some of my beer and she said that beer gives her vagina thrush, great one, now I know you're nasty as fuck too.

At this point I had to go and DJ so I left, i went to the bathroom, went and got a drink then headed to the stage, I spotted her with another guy while walking to the stage, I touched her head and made eye contact with her and gave her a smile, she squeezed my arm and I rubbed her arm back as I was walking off. It's that subtle, we both find each other attractive and no one else knows technique. Guys that combined with our conversation earlier was pretty much an Instant ‘fuck me’ cue. I didn’t see her when I finished my set but I know that she will find me there some other time and I’ll take her 10/10 trashy mouthed girl home and fuck her brains into paradise. One for the books.

After the club I met some girls outside. Of course their guards were up high. Any guys who approach at that time want one thing, SEX. Women at that time are extremely suss on anyone who approaches. At the same time if they meet the right guy, and they're more horny and not tired and aren't held down by tired friends, then game on. So I started talking to this girl, eye contact was everything here. We had good banter, she was attractive but I felt no chemistry. That was okay. I validated my manliness too her through good eye contact, good frame and keeping a stable and deep voice. I ended up driving her and her friends to another club and I decided I was going to use those girls as leverage to meet other women. That completely worked. Thanks again Reddit! I never wouldn't thought this way beforehand... I ended up meeting this 10/10 stripper. I didn’t know she was one until the end of the night. To me she was a hot as fuck bimbo doll, the type of woman I had only seen in porn and had never had luck with previously. She asked me who I was there with, I said I'd finished DJing and that me and a group of my girl mates had come to the club. ( I had only just met those girls but I painted the right picture) I tried to play it as if I was the prize again, that I have value and status because look at the girls around me, and that if she wins me, she will be able to take me away from those 4 girls (Hot girls love to fuck up other girls nights)... Anyway, I successfully let that play out, we hung out for an hour before I made my move. Girls like that trust no man as they only ever attract fuck boys who fuck them over... To get anywhere I knew I would have to validate myself as a potential partner, but I also knew I had to validate myself as a genuine guy, one who is not from the crowd of dickheads that she usually meets. To be fair, we ended up just making out in the club for another hour and I got her number after. She was staying at her friends house and I could tell they had plans for the next day so it wasn’t a situation I could force in my favour. All good! Plus, she is a stripper, she knows the game well. She know's most men just want to fuck, I tried a different angle, by being sexual but also nice, hoping that it will either go one of two ways, one - we hooked up and that was fun. Two - when I message her, she messages me back even though she is sober and I meet up with her again and on a night where I can take her back to mine. I'll absolutely need to play my cards right to make sure I can fuck her regularly, so this one is in limbo right now...

For me, It’s been a great two weeks. For someone who was shy and insecure who lacked social skills as his life; to being in a relationship for 4 years and sticking with the one partner, and feeling the whole time that nobody wants me, to coming out of it, realising my worth, realising that confidence is everything. To realising that a lot of women are actually trash and that I am the prize. To no longer putting women on a pedestal. To reading a few tips on here and going out and pulling all of that off. I feel fucking great!! Two weeks boys, I've had a lot of fun... I'll sign off on this note, it is a numbers game as there were many times in between where I experienced the 'white noise' feeling, but if you hold out, and keep pushing along, your chances of finding someone is still 100% until you decide to go home alone.

My next step is to master the follow up, so that it isn’t just a once off thing on the night but that I can have these women on call for dates, sex and banter. If you have ANY advice on this then please drop it in the comments. Thank you reddit for making me realise my worth! I hope I provided some good advice from the field!

Good luck boys!