After performing some massive changes to my business and project life, I am now earning more than I have ever earned in my entire life. My peak was during summer 2017 where I had multiple businesses, books, projects but after dropping half of them I have now surpassed that and so this post is something of a tribute.

Respect is the most powerful thing any male can have. It is arguably greater than power. People who respect you will be willing to do anything just because it involves pleasing you in any way possible. I have spoken before many times about how I mostly employ women but I always miss out the section of how I gained their respect. Let me tell you now, it is far easier to gain a man's respect than it is to gain a woman's. Men are logical and most often straightforward thinking. If you present them a situation, they will often see it and respect you for what you are doing or trying to do.

Women on the other hand are very wide. They have an innumerable amount of abundance mentality which makes them very specific in the choices they take. Though I was utterly terrible at this when I started, I have had to individually train up all of my girls to the point where they understand what kind of person I am.

My second closest girl who is one of my top artists and writer is a Russian girl who at the time of her employment was very desperate. She had no job and was barely surviving on art commissions. When I hired her she was completely devoted to gaining money and as such, she acted on her thoughts. Months went by with us working smoothly together until she started becoming more and more distant. Keep in mind that she is Russian citizen living in Russia being paid hundreds sometimes thousands of British Pounds. That was a ridiculous amount of money for someone doing very little. As such she began to disappear more, going on more vacations, ignoring my emails then increasing her prices. I was very new to this at the time so I let it continue until she just vanished for a number of months. She eventually returned, the process continued once more before she vanished again. This time I had gained a number of experiences and was now in contact with many different people who were much better than her and could replace her in every aspect. When she returned the second time, I firmly spoke to her about the situation explaining that I had zero interest in her behaviour. This was the first time and last time I ever saw her angry. She responded back, challenging me and seemed to be genuinely offended. I simply continued with my earlier statement and told her she could leave if she wanted. Of course she left only to return a month later. This is where the first rule comes in to play.

Pulling back always brings results

When she returned, she practically begged me for work. I agreed but told her that she would have to work for free while I deal with other workers. She instantly accepted and from that moment I understood that she was obedient. Artists are expensive and spend quite a lot of time working on their massive pieces. For good artists to accept work without payment, they would have to be either very desperate or very obedient. Since that day the girl and I have gotten closer and I have received many benefits from this. She understands that I could drop her at any time and in doing so, she reduced her prices ridiculously and allows me to pay her whenever I feel like it.

You need to put people in CHECK

In my local gym there is a man who is something of a celebrity. He has starred on a number of television shows and was even working on getting into one of the top reality drama series in the UK. He is an attractive guy who is very muscular. Prior to my self development and starting businesses, I used to be terribly jealous of him. Companies pay him to advertise their brands on his instagram, his parties were meant to be incredibly wild.

I won't spend much more time on this point but for perspective, the last time we met, he quite literally dropped all of his weights to come and give me a hug as though I were his brother. He asked me for tips with women, appearance and commonly invites me to hang out(I have never said yes).

All I did to achieve this was two things.

  • There is a girl in our gym who is very attractive. She is the type of girl who keeps to themselves and takes their lifting seriously. This girl quite literally has men parking their cars and crossing the street so that they can approach her. She also happens to be one of my close friends and is always by my side whenever I am in the gym and approaches me directly. The "celebrity" guy had been interested in her before I even joined the gym and was surprised to see her around me.

  • Whilst in the gym, I often stick to myself or sometimes with a lifting partner but despite that, I always have women approaching me for some reason. At least that is what it looks like from their perspective.

Now for those of you wondering how I managed to do that, all I did was approach these women at other times. I don't do any silly routines. If I see a woman I like, I approach her, talk with her for a little then get her details. The next time we meet in the gym, we will talk for a little and so the process continues until these women start approaching me. However from the perspective of someone who has never seen me do it, it may look like these girls are just approaching me randomly at will.

All I did in the above situations was making certain to pull back and challenge people. These two points can be used in dating situations, male situations and business situations.

"So how do I command respect if a person is massively above me?"

The things I wrote above clearly work well if the person you are discussing with is of equal, lower or slightly greater value than you. What if a person is ridiculously higher than you and has absolutely nothing to gain from associating with you?

In this scenario the person has to see your potential. Let me explain.

Last year before I took some months away from working on my projects I had contacted many big indie developers, big names and certain company leaders. I presented the idea of starting our own associate group together so that we can all do something to help one another. Now this was a very bold move. Compared to these people I was very small and had nothing to compare to them. At that point I was earning 1k per month whilst they were in the realm of 3 - 6k. Every single person I emailed accepted my request and joined the group whilst agreeing for me to be their general group leader.

Why did this happen? It happened because they could see my mindset.

This is a little known fact that mostly only successful and/or rich people understand. You can often talk to someone and find out if they will be successful in future simply down to the questions asked. I wrote a post about this referring to the idea of a "Group-like mentality".

Two people have the option to ask a millionaire a question.

Person A asks: "How do I do X so that I can achieve Y?"

Person B doesn't ask anything and just listens.

This video perfectly sums it up: https://youtu.be/HwXsFPZp3fQ?t=2m10s to 4.00

Gary asks the man what he wants to happen in future. The man then thinks about it and comes out with a textbook clean answer. He basically wants to have everything and has no idea where to start. You can see the confirmation of what I am talking about in Gary's facial expression. After the man has finished speaking he just says "cool" because he doesn't know what to say. Essentially the man gave a stock answer, he simply said what he assumed Gary wanted to hear. If you even continue to watch the video past the 4 minute mark, Gary goes on to tell him not to "front" in order to impress people. Just from watching that brief video I can almost tell you that the person asking Gary all those questions is not going to be majorly successful. By majorly I'm talking in terms of being on the multi-millionare level. The reason for this is that he already knows all fancy words and terms.

https://youtu.be/HwXsFPZp3fQ?t=1m16s

In the above section, Gary struggles to explain a concept to him whilst the guy tries to finish Gary's statement by suggesting that he was just "following his passion". Gary is thinking methods, the interviewer is thinking of all the words and statements he has previously heard on online motivational videos.

After watching and studying many successful individuals via videos and reading certain books, the one commonality is that they often ask less questions and just listen/observe the person talking. This isn't because they don't have anything to ask but because they can already figure out most things but just listening.

What do Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Dr Dre and Elon Musk all have in common? These men asked less questions and worked more. They all loved doing what they did and wanted to take it further creating something they believed was huge.

The only way someone of a much higher value will give you respect is if they can outright see from you that will improve sometime in the future.

Further examples: - If you noticed that a skinny guy has joined your gym recently but is always there from Monday to Friday and always has their protein pack and shakes. Compared to another skinny guy who is only in the gym on Mondays and seems to mess around every time he is there.

Both men are skinny and in the same level of value. Who are you more likely to respect?

Now for the one general rule that you should always keep in mind when interacting with anyone you meet; men, women, bosses, employees, post men etc. The one rule you need to keep in mind is that your words need to always mean something.

Your words and actions need to actually mean something. That is one of the strongest pieces of advice I can give to anyone here. Whether you are closing a business deal, seducing a girl or talking with your boss/employee.

Before my vacation I got in contact with a freelance worker who I wanted to create a few things for me. On his personal page he had listed that it takes 1 to 2 weeks to complete one piece of commission. After sending him the details, I specifically told him that I needed the work done by Friday. In the email I outlined that I had set a deadline for all my workers to finish their projects on Friday so that is when I needed his work to be done. I then added that I completely understood that if he was extremely busy and couldn't complete it.

He responded very quickly and explained that while he was very busy, he would make it a priority to finish the work by Friday. (3 days). He succeeded and even went over and beyond what I had actually asked him to do.

The reason my email worked was because I displayed three things. - Authority (The fact that I have employees) - Pressure (The fact that they all have a deadline) - Abundance Mentality (The fact that I wasn't begging him)

The abundance mentality section is most important. My email was very short and blunt, directly to the point. He knew for a fact that I meant every word of it - if he was not able to complete the task for the given day, I could replace him. He knew this.

For some resources I would highly recommend this site: http://westsidetoastmasters.com/resources/book_of_body_language/toc.html

The site covers every important aspect of the human body that you may not even consider. I would highly recommend reading through it to find something that helps you personally.

Lessons:

  • Pulling back always brings results - The person with the highest investment in an engagement holds the least power.

  • Check and Challenge people - TRP seems to have a better term for this; "Don't put people on a pedestal".

  • Your words and actions need to actually mean something. - Back to the situation above, imagine if after I emailed that man giving him a deadline of Friday he responded and told me that Friday was too soon and that I'd either have to wait or find someone else. Imagine if rather than leaving, I agreed to give him a longer period? If I did, he would immediately lose respect for me.

Business Advice:

A lot of people on this site often ask me for advice on starting a business, starting drop-shipping or following an idea they have. I will give one solid advice that should help anyone.

  • Do NOT quit your job.
  • If you don't have one, get ONE.
  • Work your job then work on your passion on the side.

Do you like playing video games? Find a way to make money from playing video games but do it in your own time.

There is literally no downside to this. If your passion starts to make money, you gain nothing but double income.

Off the top of my head, the "easiest" way to make money online is via Ebay Dropshipping but unless you sit down and treat that as an actual job, you will get sales every now and again. There are so many things you could get into; game development, writing, copy writing, creating apps, marketing, speaking, music etc etc. You just have to find it.

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Due to the messages and questions I have been receiving I decided to write a short book on the concepts I have learned if anyone is interested. It details everything from status to body language to confidence and business. You can check it out here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07V9KH48S