Some Men Just Aren’t Ready.

KeffirLime · 2018-09-06T12:37:53+00:00

I never tell people what I think unless they ask, and when I do, they agree, but almost never listen.

And then almost every time they come back later and say you were right.

They need to be whipped and shat on multiple times until they're finally ready to listen and even then some would rather bathe in the shit than ever take a shower.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-09-06T13:14:53+00:00

The Thirst is Real.

Really, though, she did him a favor.

Time to get that boy on a steady diet of Red Pill steak, Red Pill veggies and pie a-la Red Pill with Red Pill sauce on the side.

He’s lucky he is still comparatively young. In six months, he will hate himself for having been such a faggot.

SpiderAlpha33 · 2018-09-06T12:53:19+00:00

The only real hope here is that after a couple more let downs Daryl will open his eyes to the reality of it all.

We have all been Daryl. We are no longer Daryl. Or no longer have to be him.

As the great Pook said in one of his posts, that behind every successful man there is a woman who rejected him.

themanthemythebeast · 2018-09-06T12:38:49+00:00

I‘m sorry for Daryl, but everyone has to experience this. After seeing you fall so deep, you won‘t do the same mistake again. Experience is worth the pain.

Hot_Pink_Knob · 2018-09-06T12:15:28+00:00

Ah Daryl, we've all been there. Let's just hope he shelves this red pill sooner rather than later.

NikGrd · 2018-09-06T12:38:22+00:00

To be honest, the fact that he is going to have his heart broken and his BP nature questioned is great for him. You are already doing a great job with helping him, if you persist, you might change his life for the better. Good luck and great job OP

blackleaf31 · 2018-09-06T13:58:35+00:00

Yeah, I am Daryl right now. Wish I wasn't, but I can't escape it. I keep reading red pill stuff, and working on myself. Yes, I lift. 5x a week. I enjoy it.

Haven't been able to save myself yet. You don't want to know how long ago she broke up with me - it would make you disgusted. I can only hope that someday, somehow, I might yet make it.

Cum_Victor · 2018-09-06T15:34:41+00:00

"Why do we fall? To get ourselves back up."

Daryl is me 13 months ago. Some men open their eyes and begin using them for the first time; other men open their eyes and close them shortly after; and most men keep their eyes closed at all times.

Perhaps Daryl will find TRP, perhaps he will not. Deleting that email from his oneitis is about the most you can do right now for him.

Wheysteve · 2018-09-06T12:11:42+00:00

Reminds me of one of my own friends, the rebuilding process for a man in this situation either goes slowly up or crashing down; I've seen both. He is very lucky to have you.

omega_dawg93 · 2018-09-06T14:09:47+00:00

daryl was busting off in her raw dog.,. got caught up.

he'll be ok when he gets some young tender girls. he needed to go thru this pain.

oytrp · 2018-09-06T14:24:17+00:00

It happens to the best of us when we're young.

He'll see the light when he finds out she is fucking the next desperate 20 something that smiles at her.

SKRedPill · 2018-09-06T17:11:25+00:00

We have been sold an illusion that if you're in love, you must literally hook up a life support system to the other person and suck it all out of them and if you lose that, you crumble and suffer. If you aren't neurotic all day about someone, it probably means you don't love them, right?

This has NOTHING to do with love in abundance. There is no strength in this love either. Speaking of which, we have kind of devalued the virtue of strength altogether in favour of silly romanticism that's anyway vaporized at the slightest stress. This is simply hooking up a hose to the other person and totally losing one's frame in the process. Romeo and Juliet sounds emotionally intense, but is logically bullshit. No really, when you look at it, even murder-suicide can be made to feel really romantic, but it's still BS nevertheless. It was a kick, and for women any kick of emotion works, but for men, that's destructive.

This is in fact the way the moon works - living on borrowed light. The sun doesn't work like this. We have been fed on a diet of feminine correct forms of 'love' for so long we've totally forgotten the masculine dimension of love altogether - it certainly won't sell a romance novel if I wrote about a hero who came home to find his girl whom he totally loved dead, was shaken by the blow, but picked himself back up and shared his abundance with the next lucky person who came his way will it? I mean this sounds more like detachment than love, the kind of thing that a Buddha is likely to do, but there it is. You publish a book like this, and your editor will think you're crazy (and the women will totally hate the idea due to competition jealousy, but will far for a guy like that in real life almost all the time).

The closest women ever get to that is with their children.

Every other movie in my country goes like this -- Guy has love failure, turns to the bottle or the syringe or something else, and is brought back from the streets by his friends while the girl cries over it for a while and then becomes 'strong woman who moves on' (for a while, it is a movie remember) - or he goes mad and kills himself. The consolation is only if the woman was a complete bitch, and the guy finds a girl who's really 'worth it'. We forget that nearly all movies are written keeping female viewers in mind, and the whole masculine dimension of love has been forgotten. Now if you want to find it, you need to read spiritual stuff, where you will more often than not find the realized one having started out as a blue pill who eventually went red pill.

KrissVectorEOC · 2018-09-06T15:10:45+00:00

Daryl should check if one of her kids is of age and a female and fuck her daughter to establish dominance. /s 😂

itsyaboyfman · 2018-09-06T15:25:43+00:00

O man this takes my back to when I was redpilled, looking for that spark of hope and clinging on to it for your dear life. I guess just like muscle we have to be broken first before we can build ourself up again.

atomic2797 · 2018-09-06T16:57:43+00:00

Question: do you take your boy Daryl out with you to show him how you pickup and close girls? or is he simply a gym buddy? perhaps he needs to be dragged out so you can show him your ways and he can have an eye opening to TRP.

Rbot_ov3rl04d · 2018-09-06T13:31:24+00:00

Dude, I need a friend like this in my life. I constantly find myself being Daryl, and cringe hard whenever I think about it. Makes me ill.

JaFaRr9 · 2018-09-06T15:38:49+00:00

Solid post, the email part reminded me of this SNL skit

halfback910 · 2018-09-06T16:05:54+00:00

Slightly off topic but is he black? I've noticed black guys aren't as bothered by children and that sometimes they're even really into pregnant chicks.

Ages back I worked in an office attached to a warehouse. Lots of black guys worked in the warehouse and there were two chicks in the office who got pregnant at one point or another and they were just swarmed by these black warehouse guys trying to chat them up while they were pregnant.

I didn't understand it. Is it because they know she can't get pregnant if she's already pregnant or something? Like I could see that.

volvostupidshit · 2018-09-06T16:24:58+00:00

We had a buddy in this same boat a few years back, a young lawyer with the world at his feet hung up on a glorified 6.

We were at a rooftop patio bar and you could easily read the tea leaves that this was going to derail the night (which happened to be a reunion of old highschool pals).

The most Alpha amongst us grabbed the dude's phone and nonchalantly chucked it off the building (workphone too) and just kept talking, didn't miss a beat of conversation. Buddy's lip trembled for a moment and then he had the best night of his life.

The dark irony is that even the Alpha in question would later relapse into chronic oneitis years later... this shit is a process, boys.

TruthSeekaaaaa · 2018-09-06T21:30:07+00:00

I used to be a beta bitch back in the day. Never in my most blue-pilled days though would I ever have fallen for a woman 17 years older than me. That is quite simply the most pathetic thing I have ever heard.

T7773 · 2018-09-06T13:59:00+00:00

The Caesarean way:

I have washed my hands. This man’s blood is not on my hands. Take him away!

ahg1008 · 2018-09-06T16:17:16+00:00

All because we were raised on this hippy love bullshit. We need to realize men are only ever appreciated for what value they bring to others' lives. There's no love.. men can only hope for appreciation. Never get hooked on to it though. Appreciation is fickle..

Y_Chromosomal_Adam · 2018-09-06T16:27:44+00:00

Sometimes you just have to be hit over the head with it. This is something I know from experience. The worst part is when you know what you are doing wrong, but you just have to be punched in the gut a couple of times before you truly implement anything. I got divorced, which should have been enough, and in the immediate period following the separation, I was doing just fine. What do I do? I let my dumbass fall in love. I agreed to exclusivity. Now, that is probably something I could have managed just fine if I would have done the things I knew I had to do. I broke so many of the principles. This wasn't out of ignorance; I knew what I was supposed to do. I just didn't do it. That all went as you might expect. Losing a relationship you value is bad enough. The whole thing being so predictable is just a kick in the head. On the bright side, I have another practical experience now.

ArdAtak · 2018-09-06T16:53:51+00:00

Very similar experience with by buddy and teammate. Got his heart broken and now instead of doubling down on living a good life he's quitting our ball league to hold bible study sessions in his house. Pisses me off, but he's not ready.

Fyrjefe · 2018-09-06T17:06:54+00:00

All I have to add is that you appear to be a great friend. I admire your patience and frame control throughout. The takeaway from your post for me was to push through emotions and keep doing simple things to improve. I hope your buddy looks back and can appreciate that you, instead of placating the feefees, powered through at the gym and then spent time afterward to enjoy eachother's company. That is the best we can do for others and ourselves. Get out of our heads and look at reality.

For the record, I expected Daryl to spiral out and bail at the gym. There is hope for him yet. He realises the importance of the work you do together. Maybe he will be the prize, too, someday.

Valenx_Ackerman · 2018-09-06T17:08:40+00:00

We've all been there. Sooner or later... the sooner the better imo, so you can realize about it, swallow the pill and move forward at a young age

dDiegoDLV · 2018-09-06T17:32:18+00:00

Daryl just fucked himself. How do you get over oneitis when you have to talk to her at work? Maybe OP will post an update in the next few weeks.

RotYeti · 2018-09-06T17:40:55+00:00

Wow he got off easy. I thought it would end very differently. Should be happy.

ProFriendZoner · 2018-09-06T17:58:44+00:00

Took a psychology class. Professor was really high on Milton Erickson and his "metaphors" and how they implanted themselves deep in the mind. He'd get the client in a hypnotic trance then use a story or metaphor if you will about whatever the client came to see him about. And yes, we come to it when we need it, but when you get this guy in the middle of HIS workout start dropping the lessons. "I remember a time I had oneitis. Blah, blah, hurt like hell, blah, never again, blah since then i've blah ..." He'll be distracted with the weights so it will go straight in.

alex_b98 · 2018-09-06T18:12:43+00:00

Pain is weakness leaving the body. He'll come around

tempolaca · 2018-09-06T18:27:07+00:00

I'm Daryl right now. My LTR left me because of my SMV dropped suddenly for a personal problem and (coincidentally) she met another guy with much bigger SMV than me (He's a huge beta but a local celebrity nevertheless). Yeah, oneitis, I know. It can happen to you, don't come at me all cocky because it will happen to you.

She sent me that email, didn't even read it. It will say some excuse, I already knew what happened.

Thing is, I know if I increase my SMV, parade with other girls, etc. she might come back some day. She will likely not. Knowing what's happening to you, and why happened, didn't really help as I feel like shit anyways. TRP is not the path to happiness, but the path to knowledge and enlightenment and those things are often mutually exclusive.

I'm obviously a blue-pill, with RP knowledge, but hey, it takes time.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2018-09-06T18:29:09+00:00

I had a burrito after heavy benching yesterday, shit was amazing.

CowboyEpicurus · 2018-09-06T18:36:38+00:00

On the one hand, there is the “elitist” (or I would even go as far to say Nietzschean) view that says RP is for those who can truly overcome themselves and attain a sense of “master morality.” On the other hand, there is the egalitarian view which supposes that everybody can overcome regardless of how they are by nature.

Leading by example is important because it doesn’t necessarily imply that one has to settle on one view of the other. While I do believe that “overcoming” is a self-selective process (that is, one has the freedom to choose to overcome, as opposed to divine dispensation or even receiving passive, circumstantial social selection which is ostensibly democratic), this does not mean necessarily that there are some who outright will never be suitable to take the Red Pill.

What is usually troubling to people is when they become conscious of their freedom. This is when emotions such as guilt arise, as people are often taught from an early age to feel guilty for doing wrong, and it is easy to do wrong when one is free. So there is a socially received doctrine of morality as well as an armature to guide one in how they ought to feel when behaving coupled with a strong yearning to avoid feelings of guilt.

Indoctrination is incompatible with TRP. So, when you advise someone about RP, they are not your disciple. Rather, they are your interlocutor, for what is occurring is a dialectic, not indoctrination. If someone approaches TRP with the presupposition that they are a disciple, then they are also admitting that they cannot find truth on their own. Hence, we see RP-robots parroting this or that platitude.

How does this connect to the two views?

One must inavitably choose to participate in dialectic with their interlocutors. More so in person than on the internet. So there is a sort of guild or “elitism,” but it is predicated on encouraging others to find truth for themselves. Searching for truth is not reserved for the few.

I wonder if a noble lie in this case would have been best? What if you told Daryl, “yeah, dude, you can win her back blah blah blah?” What would be necessary then, in dialectic, to encourage him to find the truth on his own from his experience?

redpotatoszszszsz · 2018-09-06T18:38:41+00:00

hold my theory text i’m heading in

WoodWizzy87 · 2018-09-06T19:01:20+00:00

Holy fuck.........

He’s at the breaking point. Just give him a push

kylerosa21 · 2018-09-06T19:22:37+00:00

This is the main reason I usually tell my fraternity brothers to never settle down at the age we're at. Not settling down minimizes your chances of catching oneitis (though some still catch it from fuckbuddies, me having been one of them) and you get to have sex on a consistent basis with multiple women. Better than settling down with one girl at a young age.

You'd be surprised that even the alphas of the group still don't abide by this. They question why I aim to only settle down in my mid-30s when I have my shit together. They either have fuckbuddies or are consistently "on and off" with a single girl.

drkinferno72 · 2018-09-06T20:05:12+00:00

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink

toolate4redpill · 2018-09-06T14:26:12+00:00

I would have asked him when shopping for milk does he buy an expired jug of milk?

That's what he did, went after a expired jug of milk when fresher milk is available.

U-94 · 2018-09-06T12:37:50+00:00

24 is way too old to be getting like that.

_Last_Man_Standing_ · 2018-09-06T13:24:06+00:00

we've been there.... took me 2 oneitisses (is that the word?) to get ready...

Bear-With-Bit · 2018-09-06T16:55:56+00:00

You have to be red pill before you become red pill. In other words, you are your own teacher. No one can change you except yourself.

KimJungUnfukstrump · 2018-09-06T22:47:00+00:00

Wow. That guys sounds really beta. Maybe you can help him find another female fuck buddy or something. Not sure if hes attached to her. or just attached to the sex.

DesperateTomato · 2018-09-06T23:08:43+00:00

I'm basically half a Daryl. I have oneitis. I put myself out there, try to improve myself (gym + uni), but she is always in my mind. I get with women but I can't commit because they are not as good as her. My brain won't downgrade and finding an equal or upgrade is proving difficult so my brain is stuck on her!

Sometimes, we know stuff is shitty and we know we shouldn't feel or act a certain way, but we can't help it.

rossiFan · 2018-09-07T00:01:42+00:00

Moral to the story: Daryl didn't make as much as this bitch's husband.

confusedguy911911 · 2018-09-07T00:54:24+00:00

You guys are too sensitive to comedy ,it’s like watching the view or something?

red_philosopher · 2018-09-07T05:36:53+00:00

Heh. I lost a friend this way; he wasn't ready and no matter what, he held out on hope. He's going to call me in 2-3 years and tell me that I was right, and I'm going to laugh at him and hang up the phone. LoL

[deleted] · 2018-09-07T19:18:30+00:00

I have a bro just like Daryl. I convinced him to start lifting. I've been working on his confidence. I've showed him this sub and I assign him stuff to read. He trusts me because he sees how much I slay.

The unexpected benefit of lifting up your bros is that they will also lift you up when you stumble. There was a time this summer where I started to get oneitis for a particularly hot chick I was banging. I stopped seeing my other plates. My bro called me out on it. He told me where it was going and what was going to happen. It was like a "student becomes the teacher" moment. He was right. Not long after, shit crumbled because the girl was on a pedestal. He was there for me when I fell. Now I'm back to spinning plates, and the hot chick even came back. My feelings are back behind the wall I built, and I'm back to feeling like the confident person I am.

PM_Me_OK · 2018-09-06T15:16:40+00:00

Dude you try too hard to look n sound cool. Its easy to spot. Its funny how so many guys let women tell them how to be. Womwn like this...so you gotta be that lol.

Nergaal · 2018-09-06T21:06:06+00:00

In my darkest moments, things like this read cheer me up

Leonidas_79 · 2018-09-09T05:30:50+00:00

It’s nice having been Daryl and not being Daryl anymore.

Always remember lads, she’s not in love with you - she’s in love with the emotions you make her feel.

yammyha · 2018-09-12T05:17:13+00:00

Daryl lost his sense of self worth. How can a women play on his emotions that hard. Don't be a Daryl. Be a great f*cking trp guy and live in the moment for yourself LOL

Aazaad · 2018-09-12T16:27:26+00:00

I think she did your friend a favor..and she's right you know. She's too old..wtf is he doing with her? I wouldn't do her even if I was 40 and your friend is lusting after her when hes 24?

Kosms_Labyrinth · 2018-09-06T21:36:27+00:00

Maybe you could have just given him a hug and comforted him so he knows he doesnt have to go to some vampiric woman twice his age just to get his emotional needs met. Or is that too "gay" for you "bro"?

littleboyblu13 · 2018-09-08T02:59:32+00:00

Its less about him being unable to be saved and more about him lost in unexplored territory. He went far into the wilderness. Eager to explore for as long it bore fruit for the taking. His inexperience with potential crippling chaos of the unknown territory, despite the warnings from others, and the positive reinforcement left him unprepared to be cautious of hazards and act as if there was something in the unknown waiting for him to be in a position where he couldn't see it sneaking on him to pounce while he's vulnerable. One negative position would be possessed by your own animus.

I'm not religious, but the 10 commandments and virtues that opposed 7 deadly sins weren't accidents. And they weren't arbitrary, but he crossed all of them and know he's in a kind of purgatory and death. They were some major meta guidelines. In fact, they were some B.asic I.nstructions B.efore L.eaving E.arth. 😅😅

Title	Some Men Just Aren’t Ready.
Author	TrenGod37
Upvotes	711
Comments	157
Date	06 September 2018 11:22 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	TheRedPill
Link	https://theredarchive.com/post/52299
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/9dhimq/some_men_just_arent_ready/

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