Summary:

This is going to be another tidbit I picked up from my recently completed coaching course. I've also heard this repeated by the interim coach of the USMNT, Dave Sarachan. I never related it to TRP until last night when I was thinking it over. I think this connects very well to TRP since there are a lot of things that work for some people and not for others. This is going off of that idea.


Body:

"The answers are in the game."

One of the alphas of my fraternity is a really extroverted guy - he will talk to anyone and doesn't care about what he says. He can say the weirdest things, but it will come off as funny and confident, and women love it. On the contrary, I am pretty introverted. Since becoming Game-aware, I've been a bit more confident and outgoing, but still introverted. I've attempted to be an extrovert, but I don't find it to work for me or feel natural to me.

If I were to say or do certain things that he does, it wouldn't look right coming from me. This is due to the fundamental difference in personality between me and him. What works for him most likely doesn't work for me. How does one find this out? Testing it out.

I recently watched him playfully insult a massive group of freshman girls who showed up at a party recently. They could tell he was fucking around with them, but if I were to do something similar to this, it wouldn't have the same effect, again, probably due to personality.

This is what I'm getting at with the title. If you want to find out what works for you, you will have to field-test it and see. We all have different ways of dealing with shit tests, for example. Most guys will use A&A to counter one, others will use a pressure flip. Finding what works for you is one of the best ways to fine-tune your game in accordance with your natural personality. AskTRP proposes various ways of dealing with certain issues (how to use dread game, how to kick oneitis, etc.), but it's not a one size fits all deal. Some things that work for the person answering the question may not work for the person asking it... but some will. You won't find out until you put it to practice.


Lessons Learned:

  • Lesson 1: Always field test what you learn.
  • Lesson 2: Reflect upon your results and adjust accordingly.
  • Lesson 3: Work in congruence to your personality.