Does Anyone Have an Explanation of the Science of Oneitis?

BrutalMan420 · 2018-11-14T06:19:56+00:00

the scientific terminology is “scarcity”. people with oneitis have it.

[deleted] · 2018-11-14T09:24:35+00:00

Hey, I'm a student of Psychology and experienced oneties multiple times in the past month alone, and I could humbly say that I know enough of Psychology that would help me tackle this topic from multiple angle.

The first angle is psychobiological which is the product of evolution. Sexual strategies in men and women differ and in hunter-gathere society, the longest evolutionary period in the human history and is the period that shaped the minds we still carry in the dark vaults of our skull today, mating with the best potential partner and giving birth to the best potential offsprings was the main objective for women, and for men producing as many offsprings as possible was the main goal of their sexual strategies.

However, in doing so, one party can undermine the productive and surviving capacities of the other. Meaning if men cheated on their wives and neglected their offsprings, both the woman and her little bastards will die. If the woman cheated on her partner and left her husband alone, it'd be a backstab to the man's reputation as sexually incapable to produce healthy children.

So the best evolutionary path both sexes could take is to stay attached to each other. Stay together. Therefore, oneties is a byproduct of evolution. You were right when you said that it's mere chemical rush that happens in your brain after an intense/arousal involving another partner. Sex in particular. Several studies have shown a certain neurotransmitter (which I can't sadly recall its name) released in the brain and it gives you a chemical euphoria similair to that of drugs. With the release of that neurotransmitter in your brain, some brain regions are deactivated and your mind becomes cloudy af. These brain regions, as turned out, are the brain regions responsible for your decision-making and conscious thinking, i.e pre-frontal cortex and some parts in the lower brain (what a fucken coincidence). So when you're on oneties, you're also on drugs, and know that whatever decision you took while you're still feeling the rush, it's probably irrational and bereft from reason and totally inconsiderate of the circumstances and the environment you're in.
The third angle is manosphere, scarcity mentality and how men love idealistically. Rollo Tomassi on his blog therationalmale made it clear that men love idealistically and women love opprtunistically. Because of the feminist way of rising our boys, we're so immersed into beliving in the myth of the soul mate and giving our evolutionary nature, we become ideal lovers just like you see guys in movies. When a guy loves, he goes all in. Oneties in the manosphere has a different meaning. It's not the feelings of love that you have to your partner, it's the irreciprocal feelings of intimacy that you're giving to your partner. A typical case of oneties is one guy hooking up with a girl and then start giving her much attention than she's worth and it results in her pulling hard on him because her hamster is taking a nap and the guy has become obvious, beta. They feel like shit because deep inside we know that it's wrong, we know that we're giving our attention to the wrong whore, yet we can't do shit about it because the chemistry in our mind is telling us that she's the one and we should stick to her and because we can't think straight, we can't come in terms with these thoughts and end up feeling like crap.

Fight chemistry with chemistry. That's why a lot of people tell you to fuck other women if you're on oneities. Easy as that. If the chemical rush resulted from your first interaction with the girl gave you that rush, fuck another woman and experience the same rush to attenuate the first one. When you're scarce, you're kinda imprisoned in your own chemical prison and unable to get out.

Talk about it with someone else, a bro is always advised. Gaining another perspective on the matter from someone who can think straight will always knock some sense into you. It makes you understand that you know everything the guy is going to tell you BUT YOU DONT WANT TO ACKNOWLEDGE IT. I've experienced this many times and it's true.

For instance, I'm banging a girl right now and she's my first ever friend with benefits I ever get this far in game with. After sex, I always feel attached to her and she only starts pulling hard on me and then hit me up when she needs sex again. Don't be mistaken, we still have fun together doing some shit and all, but there is an undenable fact that her boyfriend sucks at sex and needs a good dick to satisfy her desires.

When I'm on oneties, I always think that I should talk to her about this and see where we're going. But she's already seeing other guys and probably fucking them as well. So if I do that, all she needs to do is to simply pull hard on me and go seek dick somewhere else. A fact a bro raised to my attention. So the best thing to do is to fuck her good and lay low while trying to fuck other women, something I'm still working on.

InformalCriticism · 2018-11-14T09:02:46+00:00

All you need to see is a woman treat you badly and get away with it. After my divorce rape, it wasn't some magical chemical reaction, it was jaded disillusionment with the benevolent sexism in western jurisprudence.

You learn which women are trash by falling for trashy women, and you learn from it, if you're smart. You'll quickly realize most women aren't worth a second glance.

I do not miss the days of ignorance.

What you're doing when scrolling IG wannabe models is wallowing and languishing in ignorance.

You should be figuring out why girls aren't approaching you.

BigDickEnergy123 · 2018-11-14T06:22:32+00:00

So I ended up looking up more about it and everything and here's why girls come back when you "next" them

It’s an ironic and not pleasant fact of human social life that not everyone is in a position to engage in social rejection, but when someone does, it’s immediately attractive. That person sees himself as having options

TheGoldenLeprechaun · 2018-11-14T10:02:29+00:00

Rocketship lit, going super matrix level deep.

We're not talking about an intense crush here. Not just some super hot HB10. It's the girl you thought you fell in love with at first sight or some shit. Just this one bitch you can't get out of your mind, no matter how many times you've smashed her or not smashed her, or smashed everything in sight that wasn't her. The one bitch. The Oneitis, the Neo of all the bitches you've ever met. The rom com "soulmate". The One Bitch to rule them all.

And here is the "science" but more like metaphysics. Everything seems to have a geometrical shape, molecules, cells, fields etc.. We're all made up of a bunch of shapes and fields and who knows what the fuck else. It's possible, even common for your "mind" to "know" things you don't. Happens all the time with even the most basic biological processes, like breathing. You barely even think about breathing. Your body "tells" you when you're hungry, you don't normally decide that shit. Your intellectual thoughts don't tell when when something smells bad or when something is hot, it's the interaction of these fields and shapes that set those kinds of "thoughts" in motion.

Given that. And given that sex / reproduction is so closely tied to (at least conceptually but definitely in cell division, and even "photon/electron" interactions) the fractal doubling sequence of nature, it's not impossible to take one more leap and say that perhaps, our genius level but chaotically insane unconscious can "know" that someones DNA or even the very "essence" of their "being" will "sync" well with our own.

This isn't to say YOU are THEIR oneitis, theoretically it could be unidirectional. Another metaphor could be when you smell a perfectly sauteed steak, especially when you're starving. No one needs to tell you that it'll taste delicious in your mouth. You smell and "know" that shit immediately. And here's the but..

BUT. There are plenty of poisons you can't smell or taste. There are so many factors at work when it comes to abstract thoughts like love that we forgot just how complex even the simplest shit in nature can be, and how super weird we are as the most complex objects in the known universe. When you propagate even the most basic fundamentals we know about reality into human social interactions related to the higher thought process. Maybe it's better with a joke.

"Two of the most advanced beings in the known universe walk into a bar..."

Hmm ... I'll put it another way. We're at a point in time where 1 moron and 1 fool could potentially lose his/her shit for a moment and cause irreparable damage to the planet through some simple interaction with a keyboard. Our minds are now locked into technologies that allow us to abstractly AND directly know that true Armageddon is a real possibility. I remember a documentary I was watching a few months ago about the close calls in the cold war. At some point two fools had their keys IN the control mechanism. The two man rule LOL FFS.. And I'd be typing this from an underground bunker if any of us were even still alive. And we wouldn't be.

TL;DR Your unconscious mind / body likes the shape, "knows" bustin a nut in this One chic is guaranteed to produce 1 or more of the most advanced beings in the universe, and then tries to trick you into dedicating your life to do it. This entire theory is under the premise that the subject in question is already getting laid and not suffering from hallucinatory levels of thot thirst.

Note: You unconscious mind is a fucking shitshow most of the time, and "knows" all kinds of micro details deep within memories your ass has long forgotten. Not even gonna comment on the "will" of all the other organisms "homo sapiens" have assimilated into symbiosis over the eons. GL piloting this spaceship you call a body.

Side side note to justarandomguy15 - Oxytocin

christophertracy92 · 2018-11-14T10:56:31+00:00

The conditioning we are receiving to suppress our Male sexual strategy is immense.

- It starts within your family, because we are not the first generation to be fed that lie. Your own parents will teach it to you.
- The Disney movies you will watch as a kid will teach it to you. Princes marrying zeroed out girls that have ONEitis for.
- Then you will go to school and all the teachers will let you know how you should be a gentleman. By 10 years old, before you can even get an erection, you already have the idea of monogamy established in your mind.
- As a teenager the thirst will begin , every dude will be hitting on chicks. Girls will say that they want a gentleman and guys around you will become Betas searching for their ONEitis.
- Movies , TV Series, Advertisements, Social Media. Literally everything around you will enhance the idea that you will have to serve women in order to be worthy of one of her eventually to accomplish your ONEitis dream.

It goes on and on..

It's not a chemical reaction, it's a brain reflex caused by the brainwash we undergo during our lives. It's 100% opposite to the male nature and a sickness that serves the females in terms of picking whoever they want for Alpha fucks or Beta bucks.

The Cardinal Rule of Sexual Strategies:
For one gender’s sexual strategy to succeed the other gender must compromise or abandon their own.

BigDickEnergy123 · 2018-11-14T06:12:03+00:00

No but Google does

https://www.google.com/search?q=why+people+get+obsessed+with+someone+psychology&oq=why+people+get+obsessed+with+someone+psychology&aqs=chrome..69i57.6295j0j7&client=ms-android-verizon&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8

It's basically drug addiction apparently. And it relates to your attachment style and shit.

Title	Does Anyone Have an Explanation of the Science of Oneitis?
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