I'm not going to tell you that you should break it off. You've made your decision and only you can decide what to do.

However, your self-esteem is your problem. It comes from within you and external things like getting your dick wet should have no bearing on it.

You can and must turn this around if you want to have a happy and successful marriage. That starts with you getting your ass to the gym. It starts with you building your self up in a way that is independent of how someone else, including your fiance feels about you.

You are educated, make more money than most people in the US and deserve to be treated better.

Next time you want to have sex tell your fiance before you go to work that tonight you are both going to get it on.

She'll say something like, "No. I don't think so."

You say, "We'll see," with a wink and a smile.

That night you come home and if she's not ready to fuck you then you change you clothes and go out with friends or go to the gym or go watch Star Wars by yourself. You leave her in the home to stew by herself while you go out and hang with people who want to be with you.

She needs to know she can't control you with that pussy. If she wants you around then she has an obligation to meet your needs. If she doesn't want to meet your needs then you will get validation and companionship with your buddies or spend your time doing things that make you happy rather than being with someone who thinks you are a second class citizen.

You don't tell her your reasoning. It is enough that you suddenly develop an outside life that she is not part of and not welcome in. You don't have to threaten her or point out that whenever she refuses you that you are going to leave and do something else.

You just do it.

You don't get pissy and ask, "Why aren't we having sex?", because You Don't Give A Fuck. Fucking her is something you want but it isn't the only thing you want and not even the best thing you want.

If she refuses ever again then simply say, "That's cool babe. I'm not hungry so I'm going to go to the gym and afterwards have a beer with my college friends. Don't wait up for me. Love ya'. Bye."

In psychology this is called "extinction". https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extinction_%28psychology%29

She knows that sex is the way to control the relationship and by denying you sex she intuits that she can get you to work harder and give her more. She is training you like a Pavlovian dog to salivate every time she rings a bell.

She may not and probably doesn't know she's doing this. It's a learned behavior and she probably got it from watching her mother and father interact.

Extinction means you don't give her the desired response. You give her nothing. That is, you leave and there is an absence of interaction.

If you were to get angry and fight or threaten or break something then that would be somewhere along the lines of "punishment" which is another conditioning method.

You don't want to punish because that damages the relationship. But extinction by leaving and doing something else instead is more subtle and has fewer negative potentials.

That said, I want to caution you. A woman will marry the man she wants and then convince him to work harder and harder. Then one day she divorces him because he spends all his time at work and she doesn't even know him anymore.

That's where you wife is going to drive you if you let her. Find a balance between your work, your marriage, and yourself. If you don't you will create self-esteem issues within yourself. When that happens she will move to fill the power vacuum when you become weaker with self-esteem problems.

And she will hate you for it. Sooner or later she will realize you are weak and she is strong and then it's divorce time.

And I know this is already mentioned but you have to have your head checked for marrying a lawyer. I hope you've got a good prenuptial and have agreed to split all expenses 50/50.

In fact, if you propose this now it will probably mitigate her problems with how much money you make. The reasoning is that if you make more then she gets more. But if you split everything then when you make more that's your money (after family expenses). She gains nothing if you make more because that's your money. Therefore, psychologically her pussy won't shut down.

Why? Because you have all this money that she doesn't get but still wants to get ahold of. If you reward her every time she fucks you like crazy with a little gift or a new pair of shoes then you are now "rewarding" good behavior. Since it's your money and she can't feel entitled to it then to her this is all gravy and a good relationship.

Or put another way. A man can't be generous when generosity is compelled. By marrying she already owns you. That was your choice and not a good one by the way. Therefore, she feels entitled to your money and therefore you really have no leverage.

If you buy her gifts with your income then that's nice but techically she's entitled so it's nothing she has to reciprocate.

If you buy her gift's with your income and you both have separate finances and keep the extra after marital expenses then that is you being generous. It is extra and she is compelled to be appreciative to you.