If you marry this woman, do not ever blame her for what happens later. She just told you EVERYTHING you need to know about her and her feelings about you. You got more warning than most guys.

Dude, I hate to have to say this, but do NOT marry this woman. Do not date this woman. Do not call this woman. Do not answer her calls.

Biggest mistake of your life, unfolding right before our eyes.

This is gonna be some cold hard truth here buddy.

You are marrying a lawyer?

Ouch you are fucked buddy. She is working in one of the most alpha work environments there is out there. She is going to be surround by men who have built practices with there own toil and sweat but in addition to these are competitive business men. In law you either succeed by being aggressive and getting rich or die in the archive room. You aren't going to be compared to the salary that she makes. You are going to be compared to the salary that the senior partners make.

Not to mention she has studied law knows how to read and how it can be enforced. You are in for a serious divorce rape. She is already giving you ultimatums and your not even married yet. This shit is going to get far worse before it gets better. She might have already lost respect to the point that you might not be able to come back.

Take a serious look at this relationship. If she is using sex as a bargaining chip now what is going to happen in a year? How about 5? Your in for a dead bedroom followed by a cheating wife and a huge divorce settlement in her favor once you start making more than her. Healthy relationships don't make sex a transaction let alone a ultimatum.

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Let me give you an analogy here. Your 28 male and in IT I'm going to assume you play video games and I am going to assume you have a steam account.

If Gabe Newell started a conversation with you and said "Hey /u/stulk2fade that's a nice steam collection you have there. You know if you put more money in your steam wallet I am going to remove this temporary ban I put on your account."

Would you do it?

Then when you didn't put enough money in your steam wallet and Gabe locked out your account, would you be pissed off?

Cause that's what she is saying and threatening to do.

Drop this broad like a cell phone call in a tunnel, now.

I take no pleasure in saying this ; your fiancee is already banging someone else. Women operate on a very specific principle when it comes to money: if her man makes equal or less then she does, she rounds to zero.

As far as your fiancee is concerned you're a leech who makes nothing, because she brings more to the table then you do.This is not merely my own conclusion- scientific surveys of women in relationships always find that women correlate money with relationship security. The more money her man makes the more secure and thus greater emotion she has.

Given that the primary reason women date is money, this spells bad news for you. Further, unless she's taken a vow of celibacy, process of elimination and logic suggests if she's not getting off with you she is doing so with someone else.

She also works in law, and went to private school. Rest assured she's got some backup man(men?!) In her phonebook who makes more then you do; I'm wagering she's only hanging around because of the European honeymoon, the pending Real Estate purchase, and the marriage.

She wont kick you to the curb yet, because in sticking around she gets social status (I'm.getting married!!!!5000 Facebook likes!!!!!) and the fact she gets a house and a European vacation.

Think we're just a bunch of kooks on the internet? OK. This is an easy one to prove. Walk through your door and tell your fiancee there's a delay in the honeymoon and house purchase due to a paperwork issue.

Watch her reaction. If she really loves you, she won't care.Love is all you need, can't buy affection, and so forth correct?

If she's like every other woman alive, shell turn cold and/or start a fight immediately. If the latter happens, there's your answer. A stop at the liquor store may be in order before doing this .

Remember; no man here, myself included, can say we've never made errors where women are concerned. All men fall to crafty females in some way . It's the question of how you get back up which decides your future.

Run away as fast as you can mate, while you can.

I love my fiance, but she obviously doesn't love me like i love her.

Right.

You think you're sexually unsatisfied now? Wait until you're married and have no other options in life.

You'll probably still marry her. You'll go through with all this, for some blue pill reasoning (I said I would! I love her! It will all be fine! I've paid for the honeymoon!)

Look... there's alpha and there's beta. Very very very few marriages manage to combine both. And those that do involve the man being extremely alpha, knowing what he's doing from the start, and being insanely strong in the face of female shit tests.

You on the other hand... are starting on the back foot. You've made all this commitment to her, and you've asked her to hold up her side of the deal. To which she did not answer "of course I will honey, I love you, I adore you, I deeply crave hot sex with you!" ... no, she said "you must do more".

It's not even true. If you did earn more, you'd have more sex for a week after your pay raise. Then it would go back to how it was, and she'd be saying "well, it's not that big a raise is it?". And if you did suddenly make enough... she'd turn round and say "I'm not a whore, money can't buy sex with me!".

Thing is... there's always a reason with this type of woman, and the reason (I am said to say) is this: "I hold all the sexual power and you must do my bidding". Sex is used as a weapon and as a negotiation, you must always pay for it, and you'll never get enough.

Welcome to TRP, make yourself at home, read the sidebar.

DO NOT MARRY

Why are you buying a cow that gives no milk? This will get worse once you get married. Run for your life, man. It will never be easier to walk away than TODAY! Yes, you have sunk costs in this. You want to get an MBA? First test question: How should sunk costs factor into decisions?

We are buying real estate, getting married and have our honeymoon to Europe booked

Now here are three life decisions that you should probably reconsider.

She's a lawyer? Time to speak her language.

"Tying our sex life to my salary is a deal-breaker. Let's move the discussion from wedding planning to how we can cancel the event and separate with minimal damage."

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Duuuuuude. DUUUUUUUDE. Run the fuck away while you still can and make sure she won't sue for palimony. Fuck, man, she's already making it clear that she wants you for your money, or at least, it's big part of your value to her. It's already implied, of course, but if she's so open about it she's colder than the average woman and truly doesn't give a shit. You lost confidence? Happens to all of us who date a manipulative woman. It happened to me and I crashed and burned pretty hard. She loved the way you made her feel, but not anymore.

Game over. This bitch has weaponized her sexuality. Cut and run. Anytime a woman uses her sexuality as a utility she is not worth it. Ever heard any married person say "im having way more sex now that im married". yeah, me neither.

Good luck

Married guy here. OP. Run! Everyone is telling you the truth.

You have a face-saving move here. She tells you you don't make enough money for sex. You told her you need sex. Just tell her you thought about things and she's right and she will slow down your career right now. You don't feel good about having sex with her since she doesn't desire you and you're going to have sex with someone who does. Say that she'll probably make some rich guy very happy some day and you're sorry that it didn't work out.

AND THEN RUN!!!

You've already had the real honeymoon. You got all of the sex you are going to get from her for the rest of your life. Now she thinks she owns you and you're about to become the plow horse in the Manipulated Man, her Beta Bux.

Please read what people are telling you here.

When someone like this has shown you who she really is, believe her!

First try singing this in Bruce Dickinson's voice:

"Run to the hills, run for your life..."

Then ask your fair maiden for her pricelist. It's pretty clear she's a working girl, and this is good news, because it should make your sex life much easier from now on. You'll know what you're paying for.

I'm not even sarcastic.

I will teach you a meditation exercise.

First of all, imagine yourself running. Second of all, imagine a timeline, where there is no tomorrow. third and final, fuse the two steps.

Now seriously bro, I wish I could sit with you, have a whisky and a bro conversation on how you would get your life ruined by staying with this girl.

For real, it will HURT A LOT, but leave. NOW. Hard Next her and go lift. Substitute her for lifting.

Dump her you dumb idiot what the fuck

This post is making my Troll Senses tingle, but I am going to leave it up because it has already spawned some good discussion threads.

Forget about her, even if you don't dump her right now, and focus entirely on yourself:

Step 1: be attractive. Get lots of sleep, drink lots of water, lift lots weight, eat lots of healthy food, and run lots of miles - in that order (Source: lost 110lbs, 10" off waist, been fucked countless times, since)

Step 2: be alpha. Demand more of yourself in the workplace, in your career, in your path to fortune - and move, move, move (source: increased my income by 50%, nabbed a director role)

Step 3: be fun. Discover or feed a personal activity, preferably a sporty and masculine one, like rock climbing or kick-boxing. (Source: built a forge, started blacksmithing, feel like Hephaestus)

Step 4: be social. Go to parties, or join groups/events where you will meet new people and get invited to them, and use MALE friends who you trust for ALL your emotional outlets, venting, and any other potential loss of frame. (Source: used good friend as an outlet whenever I may otherwise have lost frame in my work/plate-spinning life, made friends in concert parking lots or on the floor between bands)

Step 5: be carefree. Now that you've followed steps 1-4, you can comfortably not give a fuck - about your wife or anyone/anything else. And you know what? Only might you be in a position where you can rationally decide whether this marriage is worth saving. (Source: for the first time in my life, I feel free)

You MUST follow these steps, and if you feel that you cannot, get out now, as it will only get much, much, much worse. (Source: went through divorce after finding RP too late)

If you bail after following these steps (and continue following them) you WILL find happiness and satisfaction. (Source: just had my first - and certainly not last - threesome, and feel stronger and more satisfied than at any point in my BP life)

And you need to bounce from that relationship like yesterday

Anyone wanna point OP to a hooker? He needs one to bash a pussy pedestal & getting an escort is one of the brain-dead easy baby steps to do that.

Look,here in TRP & other sites that make up the Manosphere,we give enough of a fuck about our bros to not get ass-raped by Divorce Rape & Alimony Rape.

What you see right now is just a preview of what's to come.This will only get WORSE.Not an exageration,not a joke,but literally it will get worse. Once your chained by the ring,she can cheat as much as she wants and(especially so since she's a lawyer),she'll know EXACTLY how to rape you financially in the courts while having dead bedroom. Suicide or fleeing to another country is one of the few options you'd have when your trapped.

Don't be mad at her btw,since your lucky enough that she admits that BEFORE you married her.

When the others in the Manosphere warn you to RUN.LIKE.HELL. You do it.

I am married. I understand what it takes to remain married.

Do NOT, under any circumstances, marry this woman. Do NOT buy into the sink cost fallacy. If your parents seem disappointed, just tell them what she said.

That is the largest red flag I can think of.

And most travel places and wedding venues well give you some of the money back.

Honeymoon already paid for and you can't get a refund? Bring your dad/brother and have a fine fucking time.

Do NOT tie yourself to a woman who only fucks you for money. There is a word for those kinds of women...

Your fiancé or your prostitute?

What you're seeing here is a red flag the size of a galaxy, call off the marriage and cut her off, she's going to say that she's sorry and that she loves but don't believe that shit, just fucking leave.

So when we were talking tonight, I said to her she put's me down to much and I think it is hurting me psychologically, I have lost so much confidence. I don't even feel confident about getting a higher paying job.

Girls don't want a weak man, keep that shit to yourself, or go tell your guy friends. This is why you aren't getting laid. She's done nothing but tell you what you needed to hear.

I don't date a bitch, but I can't say that, so I'll make up a bullshit excuse about money.

Also, the guys are on point about the lawyer bit, but their 'cut tail and run' approach is a pretty bitch move also. she won't need the money if she is half way competent, she will need an alpha in the house. An alpha doesn't get psychologically damaged when a little girl runs her mouth. An alpha puts the little girl in her place and runs the fucking household.

I know the theme here is 'Women are shit' but in reality, it's 'women are as shitty as you let them be'

This is on you man.

Lawyers are also on my lists of don't date/fuck.

These are women who chose a profession based on adversarial dynamics and will bring that attitude home to the relationship.

I'm normally all about the "improve yourself and she'll get in line" school of thought, but this is bigger than that. I'm not worried about your relationship. I'm worried about you.

You're a decent guy, pretty young, with a decent job in a decent field, decent money, on the right path toward getting a degree and starting another. And you've spent the last however-long you've been with your fiance getting bitched at and emasculated about jobs and money, rebuked for sex, and your fiance is so comfortable with what a loser you are that she doesn't even bother hiding her disrespect for you. She's expressly said she's whoring herself to you for your paycheck. Having sex with you because she wants to and thinks you're a worthwhile guy to fuck? Pssshaw.

This goes beyond agree and amplify. Tell her to go fuck herself.

Break the engagement. Don't buy the house. Cancel the honeymoon and get back whatever money you can, or just go yourself, or go with someone else.

ABANDON SHIP!!!

It's not too late to get the fuck out of there. Don't ruin your life.

Men are still trying to get married in the west. Wft is this? Dude prepare to be divorced raped and cheated on if you get married in this climate.

After being on this planet for a half century and being in a number of relationships I have naturally come to recognize certain red flags. Your fiancé has raised a huge one. We all need sex. It's inescapable. For her to use it as a bargaining chip is a huge, serious problem. You shouldn't feel guilty for wanting sex - or more sex with her. You need to question why she doesn't want more with you. Are you incompatible? Is she being influenced by the alpha males in the office?

It comes down to this: Anytime a woman feels she is doing you a favour by having sex with you, your going to have a bad time. It needs to be a two way street. You need a relationship where you're both doing each other the favour of having sex. She should be honoured that you would give her your attention.

Anyone who can deliver a home, wedding and a European honeymoon while being a student is doing way better than 99.99% of the population. More money won't fix anything - nothing should be broken. I would love to hear how she can justify even having the thought.

Sadly, I have to tell you that this situation is unfixable. There is no bargaining or change you can make that will fix it. You either have to come to terms with the fact that you will never have the amount of sex with her that you want or move on to someone else. In fact, things are only going to get worse. There are plenty of upcoming downward pressures such as:

• Having babies/kids

• You gaining weight at a desk job

• You not being able to maintain the larger and larger homes you are forced to buy

• You losing your hair from the stress of having to provide more than you are able (my hair came out in clumps the month after our huge wedding from the stress)

• Her needing external validation as she starts to lose her looks

• etc.

Understand that you will be facing this scenario in the future... You will suddenly get more sex - for a while. It might even be as amazing as daily adventurous sex but it won't last - maybe a week or a month. You'll feel great. But afterward you will look back and realize why it happened. Perhaps a reward for that last vacation or for the larger diamond. How will you feel then? Will you feel used and manipulated. How will you feel when you can't figure out what the trigger was? Chances are it was out of guilt for the guy at the office that she slept with. That guy she was mentioning a bit too often and then suddenly stopped mentioning at all... How will you feel then.

Why on fucking earth is this woman still your fiancé? Marrying in general is a bad idea. Marrying a woman lawyer is a fucking horrible idea. Think about it; when she tires of you, she already has the legal skill to know how to clean your clock in a divorce.

Wake up. The only reason you won't dump her is because you're scared you can't get anyone else "as good".

That is a red flag the size of fucking mars. It's not worth it, take the L now and save yourself years of sexless unhappiness before getting reamed for all the rest of your assets and dignity by her law firm.

This is all really difficult for me. I read the red pill on a daily basis (I lurk a lot) but I feel so crap at the moment -_-

Please don't marry her. Have some trust on your internet friends. It will end bad for you. And if you end up having kids ,you are royally fucked. Please don't marry her!

Get some fucking game. Who do you think you are saying things like this- "I said to her she put's me down to much and I think it is hurting me psychologically, I have lost so much confidence. I don't even feel confident about getting a higher paying job. I said we need more sex and I need a woman who I feel wants me"

I went through law school. I remember the family law course. We could see the girls scheming as they jotted down notes. The basic rule here on TRP is to never marry, at least not under US law. I would never ever consider taking a woman lawyer or sollicitor as a wife.

To marry her, when she has also made it clear she is using you as a walking wallet, is like playing russian roulette with a 50 BMG machine-gun.

At 28 you have loads of options, pick any 20 something at the bars on saturday night and enjoy. Dump that bitch, bro.

• Cancel the wedding.

• Cancel the European Honeymoon

• Buy an investment property, not a house in the burbs.

Look how much your cash flow opened up by dropping just a little dead weight.

Man, you are talking too much.

I said to her she put's me down to much and I think it is hurting me psychologically, I have lost so much confidence.

She must have had the tingles after that.

I said we need more sex and I need a woman who I feel wants me

Dude.... you can not negotiate desire

Work on yourself, lift, and stop talking about your feelings with her before you dry out her vagina for good.

Hey buddy, you're in danger. You may not think so, but you are.

You've likely been raised a certain way. To think that marriage is the be all and end all for a man. It's not.

Here's the choice: believe your instincts and act in your own self interest or marry this woman and become her slave.

Something drove you to post here. You know what you have to do. Your ancestors, the men who fought and bred and died so you could be here are watching.

Are you going to disappoint them?

Wow, you are in SERIOUS trouble. You MUST dump this woman immediately. Even though red pill says a woman can't love you, she can love the way you make her feel. If she is already treating you like this then if you get married you are screwed. She is going to make your life hell. Even if you are crazy enough to ignore the first commandment of red pill "NEVER GET MARRIED", then for god's sake do not marry her.

She is a lawyer!! I am also a lawyer and let me tell you some things. Even if she does not have the skills to fuck you over legally, she works with people every day who do have the skills. She is surrounded by people who know people, who know other people, who can refer her to other people etc - you get my meaning. she has tried to make you fell small and force you to be a beta bux. She will cheat and make you into the bad guy. Run my friend, run. I am begging you.

i have very little faith that op will do the right thing.

"Can woman make a shit test so big OP can't see it?" Yes.

We're all itching for you to ditch this woman but a part of me knows you won't. Most likely you need to go through the suffering for real before you understand why everyone is telling you to quit while you're only slightly behind. If you do go ahead with the marriage, it will be one of the most painful and expensive lessons you ever endure, but it will make a man out of you. Good luck.

Kicking her to the curb is literally the most attractive thing to her you can do at this point. Go absolutely no contact, and when she reaches out to you reform the relationship on your terms. You have to be willing to show her that you can walk away and truly mean it. I learned this the hard way. The strongest negotiating stance is the one that can walk away and never look back, and trust me this will change the way she sees you and acts around you if you play it right. Stay strong, stay abundant.

I'm not going to tell you that you should break it off. You've made your decision and only you can decide what to do.

However, your self-esteem is your problem. It comes from within you and external things like getting your dick wet should have no bearing on it.

You can and must turn this around if you want to have a happy and successful marriage. That starts with you getting your ass to the gym. It starts with you building your self up in a way that is independent of how someone else, including your fiance feels about you.

You are educated, make more money than most people in the US and deserve to be treated better.

Next time you want to have sex tell your fiance before you go to work that tonight you are both going to get it on.

She'll say something like, "No. I don't think so."

You say, "We'll see," with a wink and a smile.

That night you come home and if she's not ready to fuck you then you change you clothes and go out with friends or go to the gym or go watch Star Wars by yourself. You leave her in the home to stew by herself while you go out and hang with people who want to be with you.

She needs to know she can't control you with that pussy. If she wants you around then she has an obligation to meet your needs. If she doesn't want to meet your needs then you will get validation and companionship with your buddies or spend your time doing things that make you happy rather than being with someone who thinks you are a second class citizen.

You don't tell her your reasoning. It is enough that you suddenly develop an outside life that she is not part of and not welcome in. You don't have to threaten her or point out that whenever she refuses you that you are going to leave and do something else.

You just do it.

You don't get pissy and ask, "Why aren't we having sex?", because You Don't Give A Fuck. Fucking her is something you want but it isn't the only thing you want and not even the best thing you want.

If she refuses ever again then simply say, "That's cool babe. I'm not hungry so I'm going to go to the gym and afterwards have a beer with my college friends. Don't wait up for me. Love ya'. Bye."

In psychology this is called "extinction". https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extinction_%28psychology%29

She knows that sex is the way to control the relationship and by denying you sex she intuits that she can get you to work harder and give her more. She is training you like a Pavlovian dog to salivate every time she rings a bell.

She may not and probably doesn't know she's doing this. It's a learned behavior and she probably got it from watching her mother and father interact.

Extinction means you don't give her the desired response. You give her nothing. That is, you leave and there is an absence of interaction.

If you were to get angry and fight or threaten or break something then that would be somewhere along the lines of "punishment" which is another conditioning method.

You don't want to punish because that damages the relationship. But extinction by leaving and doing something else instead is more subtle and has fewer negative potentials.

That said, I want to caution you. A woman will marry the man she wants and then convince him to work harder and harder. Then one day she divorces him because he spends all his time at work and she doesn't even know him anymore.

That's where you wife is going to drive you if you let her. Find a balance between your work, your marriage, and yourself. If you don't you will create self-esteem issues within yourself. When that happens she will move to fill the power vacuum when you become weaker with self-esteem problems.

And she will hate you for it. Sooner or later she will realize you are weak and she is strong and then it's divorce time.

And I know this is already mentioned but you have to have your head checked for marrying a lawyer. I hope you've got a good prenuptial and have agreed to split all expenses 50/50.

In fact, if you propose this now it will probably mitigate her problems with how much money you make. The reasoning is that if you make more then she gets more. But if you split everything then when you make more that's your money (after family expenses). She gains nothing if you make more because that's your money. Therefore, psychologically her pussy won't shut down.

Why? Because you have all this money that she doesn't get but still wants to get ahold of. If you reward her every time she fucks you like crazy with a little gift or a new pair of shoes then you are now "rewarding" good behavior. Since it's your money and she can't feel entitled to it then to her this is all gravy and a good relationship.

Or put another way. A man can't be generous when generosity is compelled. By marrying she already owns you. That was your choice and not a good one by the way. Therefore, she feels entitled to your money and therefore you really have no leverage.

If you buy her gifts with your income then that's nice but techically she's entitled so it's nothing she has to reciprocate.

If you buy her gift's with your income and you both have separate finances and keep the extra after marital expenses then that is you being generous. It is extra and she is compelled to be appreciative to you.

Fucking WoW....

Classic BP man-rape hamstering unfolding before our eyes....

I'm relatively new here, but holy shit is this something to see. With all the red flags waving in this guy's face, he still wants to walk that isle and shackle himself to misery.

My friend, she is correct. You must do more.

Just not with her in your life.

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What is this?

Everybody is telling you to drop this bitch and they are right. If it takes over a thousand replies in this thread to get the message through so be it.

Get away from her and don't ever stop like you're running from the cops. Read the dudes post about her working in law. You are fucked man. Take back all emotional investment, this Bitch is about to ruin your soul. You can learn how this goes the easy way or the hard way. The hardway will take away 5-10 years of your life and then some if she for after your money or gets pregnant.

Allow me to join the chorus of people saying "RED ALERT, CODE 10 ABORT!"

Between two people, $120k+ is more than enough for a decent living unless you're stuck in a very high COL area like Orange County or NYC. If she isn't satisfied with that she's never going to be satisfied.

I said to her she put's me down to much and I think it is hurting me psychologically

And this is why we never confess our weaknesses to a woman. Women pounce on weakness, they do not console it. They want their weaknesses to be comforted. They want you to kiss their boo-boo. The minute you flip it around is the minute they realize they can devour your intestines and shit you out.

I have seen this same fucking post from you multiple times, both on here and asktrp.

How much advice do you need? Why do you continue to believe things will change? What THE FUCK is wrong with you?

I give up. Enjoy a continued miserable life, which will only get worse once you're married. I can't wait for the post 18 months from now about how she's fucking some other dude and taking half of your shit. Have fun.

DO NOT MARRY THIS GIRL. You need to break it off now. Hear me out:

For a woman, her engagement period and wedding day is quite literally the happiest time of her life. She will never be more into you than she is right now. THIS IS AS GOOD AS IT GETS. This is the pinnacle of your relationship. Just think about that. It will only get worse.

If you don't think she loves you now, just you wait. If you marry this woman, you will regret it the rest of your life.

I have to disagree with everyone here. I say go for it! Marry your unicorn!

You're clearly not RP if you have to ask questions like this. What you're in for in the next 5-10 years will cram the red pill so far down your throat it'll never come back up. We call it the price of admission. Everyone has their own price they paid to find this place and internalize the pill.

You know the interesting part about this, is that her respect for you would go up 5000x if you just dump her after she tells you this garbage

WHOA SHIT! WE ARE BUYING REAL ESTATE

CANCEL THE FUCK OUTTA THIS!! Most jurisdictions can see this as a representation of marriage. Cancel the real estate transaction ASAP! Do NOT BETATHAFUCK outta this and tell her first. She may be doing a lot of things right now without telling you. Remove yourself from any real estate purchases, or make sure that you are describing yourself as having a mutual interest in the property with another buyer. Overall, get out, take a hit on the credit, its a small price to pay. Cant believe this was overlooked!

"I guess that makes you a whore then. Whores fuck for money, you said you'd fuck me for more money, ergo, you are a whore. Get the fuck out of my house, whore."

Besides, lawyer women are known problems. Google around for stories of men married to lawyers; you will find plenty of material for your worst nightmares. You are in for some serious shit if you don't call it off. "One thing you can never say is that you haven't been told." https://youtu.be/bzVeLjj6Ao8?t=226

A hundred other replies already said it: Leave her. NOW. That is some cold shit...how can you be in love someone and say something like that? When you're not in love. Look how bold she is. She thinks she has you so wrapped around her finger, that she can say something like that without repercussions? Fuck. No. Imagine if the situation was reversed. Any woman with a shred of self respect would dump your ass.

Sex is an expression of connection and feelings two people share...if it's transactional, it's bust.

Money for sex? There's a word for that.

If you marry this woman, you deserve the inevitable misery that your life will become. Unlike most men, you actually got the ugly truth at point blank range before the wedding and kids started to show up (although you should have picked up on the fact that she makes you feel worse about yourself, which isn't the sign of a healthy relationship).

Don't fucking marry this woman. With that one comment she has demonstrated her poisonous contempt for you, her expectation that you will exist for her benefit, and that she will be a complete goddamn icy shrew.

You've been warned. Ironically, the only thing you could really do to actually make her respect you (which she does not) is kicking her to the fucking curb immediately.

Calling off an engagement is a difficult choice, but can be a life-saver. I did it at 26 and it was a rough go. Looking back, I'm thankful every day. Fortunately my dad was extremely wise and did some Inception on me placing the seeds of doubt about this chick. Looking back there were red flags galore, I just needed a little bit of help to see them.

Your fiancee just made that red flag into a burning hot stop signal for you. You will be a little busted up on the way out, but you will be broken if you go through with this.

If a woman tells a man what to do she is leading.

If a man follows that woman he is a beta.

Beta is not a life worth living.

I love it. How many ways can it be said to run like hell from a girl? They're all in this thread.

Tell her that after what she said, you can only see her as a whore, trading sex for money. And you can't live thinking you married a whore. Yeah that'll make sure you go out with as much damage as possible.

why the fuck would you marry this bitch smh

I am going to bookmark this post and whenever I think my life is bad I am going to come back and re-read this story and see just how bad it COULD be.

I'm not a red pill guy, but I like reading all the opinions from everyone.

You don't need to be a RPer to understand you'll make a mistake by marrying this woman.

Jesus, biggest red flag in the book

If she is saying this to you now and your not even married. Dump her now!

I have a feeling this wasn't labeled "blue pill" when he posted it. lmao

Well obviously because men and women are equal partners in everything maybe she could consider taking the responsibility of earning mor-

oh..wait..that's not how it works?..ok

Make like Forest Gump OP

Man, you are in for a miserable life if you marry her. Re-think marrying her

The more I read here the more I smell a troll. If you are for real then you are a whiny beta bitch. I hope she does marry you, dicorce rapes you and has a kid with Chad.

Waaah waaah, I paid for the wedding. I bought a honeymoon. Well go on the honeymoon by yourself or take a hooker if you have to. This post makes me sick to my stomach. You read red pill everybday - bullshit. You are a blue pill as it gets.

Hey guys so some more info. I remember her telling me her mum told Her the woman isn't meant to want sex and the man always has to be the one to ask for it, I think she basically told me she was told to use it as a tool.

The thing about the marriage is lots it's like all the $$$thousands we have already spent, the disappointment of my parents and lots of stuff. I feel pretty shit at the moment like I wouldn't be happy single and would likely move Into my parents and now we got land and stuff tied up in both our names, ugh it's hard/

I was just so shocked to hear the comment about money, makes me feel so low and pathetic like not even my wife wants me, that's how unattractive i am.

Fyi when we first met all her friends were jealous because we would have sex 3 times a day everyday -_-

This should really be in askMRP.

We are buying real estate, getting married and have our honeymoon to Europe booked, so finances are stretched pretty thin.

Why are you buying property and going to Europe if your finances are stretched thin? Why are you buying property with a woman who isn't your wife?

We got to talking and she was saying she needs me to make more money I said to her she put's me down to much and I think it is hurting me psychologically, I have lost so much confidence.

Sweet, now we know who is in charge in this relationship. You need to stop talking so much and vomiting your feelings all over her chest.

I said we need more sex and I need a woman who I feel wants me, and she said to me "if you made more money, we would have more sex". I am blown away. I love my fiance, but she obviously doesn't love me like i love her.

Is this your first day here? Why are you having this conversation with her? She's saying this because she wants you to be a man and lead her. You're being a beta and reacting to her feelings with your emotions.

I am 28 and I will finish my degree in 9 months. I plan on starting my MBA when I finish. I work in IT, but don't really have any IT qualifications until this Degree is finished, just a few certs.

You realize that having IT certifications, but no appreciable skills doesn't mean you're going to climb the ladder in this industry right? It's almost all about work experience and your skill set. Certifications and an MBA won't mean shit.

I made about $60k when I was 25, and $250k at 29. It's all about risks and "what have you done lately" not "let me see your degrees". I haven't shown anyone a resume in about three years.

You need to take a hard look and handle at both your relationship and your career here dude. Come on over to MRP and read the sidebar materials. If you're going to go down this road with this woman, you're going to need a lot of help.

Anyone who cant give you your worth is not worth it. And making more money will not help you much if you continue your relationship with her. Since you've taken redpill already and know the stuff from this forum, sit back cool your mind and decide what you wanna do. All the best for your decision.

i smell troll after seeing your replies in here..

you know what to do but you won't do it. Your choice but don't come running back when she divorce rape you. You've been warned

I said we need more sex and I need a woman who I feel wants me

YOU CANNOT NEGOTIATE DESIRE.

It's time to up your dread game bud.

You are getting all the marriage advice you need.

Let me give you some other advice. I am in IT. I have an AA and I make 6 figures. That degree is not what will determine your salary. Those certifications will help. But the reality is your drive, determination and continuing to learn more skills. Be really good at what you do in IT and the degrees don't matter as much.

IT is a hobby and a career. You have to love it. But if you do, go out and take what you want. Don't settle and I would wait on the MBA until you are in your mid 30s or later. Get your MBA if you want to become a CTO or more at a larger company. You will get significantly more benefit out of it then and be in a better financial spot.

If you think getting married will solve your lack of sex problem you will be very disappointed

Dude. You're marrying a stuck up, materialistic lawyer who doesn't even want to fuck you in your engagement period (which is women women are usually going hog wild).

You're soooooo fucked. Ha!

ABORT

GET THE FUCK OUT OF THERE

RIGHT ABOUT FUCKING NOW

YOUR ASS IS GRASS AND SHE'S A LAWNMOWER

YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING VERY STUPID BY GOING FORWARD, RETREAT, ISOLATE AND STUDY UNTIL YOU ACKNOWLEDGE THE SHITHOLE YOU GOT YOURSELF OUT OF

In case the other guys weren't clear enough.

DROP HER AND RUN THE FUCK AWAY

OP, look at all the support you're getting here. All these men who want what's best for you. Hell, some of these blokes truly know what's best for you. The advice is unanimous and if you effectively lurk, expected.

You are now faced with a decision that orignated the name TRP.

In one hand, the blue pill. In the other hand, the red pill. You must choose.

Except this isn't a movie. This is your life. This is your legacy, and it's currently being hijacked by some broad armed with the law completely on her side.

These are just words of a message board. Look deep inside yourself, locate your testicles, and claim them. (They'll be hidden in the sewage water, AKA the shitty feelings of self-doubt)

You know you shouldn't marry her. So don't.

This is all the wake up call you should need. I know AWALT, but this sounds so stereotypical.
I guess what occurred is you've fallen into her frame (at least for sex) and she doesn't lust for sex for you but see it as an obligation and just throwing you a bone.

If you marry her I would bet some money one day down the road while you're getting sex maybe monthly for no effort and just piv missionary, chad is fucking her ass and cumming down her throat while she begs for it.

My exact words would be:

"Fiance(whatever her name is), A real woman inspires a man into making more money. She doesn't punish him for not having done so. Especially in the middle of his education.

I thought I loved you and wanted to marry you, but I've decided the time and money I'm spending on you is holding back my career and my sex life. Take care."

We're going to want an update on this down the road :-)

I have lost so much confidence.

If you invest your confidence in the validation from a woman, she will bankrupt you.

I missed the part of your post where you called off the wedding. You should edit that in.

I mean she already made her level of commitment clear to you and at least she didn't dress it up with obscure lingo or anything like that. I won't say bail on her because other people are saying abort and it is clear you have an emotional attachment to her.

All I can say is evaluate your choices and make a sound logical decision on whether or not you want to continue on this path. All I can say is the sooner you make the decision the better off you will be. Also, like the highest upvoted comment said don't blame her if things go south.

She literally told you she doesn't love you. She might love some idealized version of you that only exists in her mind, but she doesn't love the actual you that exists in the real world.

This is the perfect Get Out of Jail Free card. When your family asks, just say "She told me she doesn't love me anymore. I had no choice".

If you don't end it, you might as well chop your balls off now and get it over with.

Next her for a 22 yr old who is broke.

Hahahaha this bitch did you such a big favor. She's too contemptuous of you to keep this on the DL, and now you've seen her real side. If she had played the game a little better, you're dumb ass would be married to a lawyer who's trying to stunt in Ibiza off of your salary.

Don't buy real estate with her, don't marry her, cancel the honeymoon. Your relationship is your own fault now that you've got the RP knowledge to know better.

Gotta be honest man, I see that you've been in denial about your wife viewing you as a beta wallet for a long time from your "woman's been putting me down constantly" post about a month ago. You gotta eject and realize that you have to go through the pain of actually swallowing the pill to be RP; there is nothing RP about learning the knowledge, but then not using it to shape your actions.

You going to learn something at last, or you going to need to ruin your life to really get it?

Hey buddy, grow a pair and drop that bitch asap.

This is the saddest shit I've ever read.

Why the fuck are you getting married? So you are signing up to give away half of your shit for the rest of your life because you love someone who doesn't love you?

Grow the fuck up and put your big boy pants on dumb ass.

If the nuclear sirens and red lights blaring aren't enough to make you jump ship, you're a lost cause. This woman will ruin you, and benefit from it every minute of it. Cut your losses and bounce already. No pussy is worth ruining your life over.

Please be strong and do not marry this woman.

Why does your confidence hinge on what she says? You're looking for external sources of confidence when you should be looking to cultivate that within yourself.

Also drop her like she's hot or you're in for a world of hurt.

Run for your life. Seriously - I don't care about all the arrangements, all the plans, all the disappointed people.

Cancel all that shit. Cancel the real estate deal (regardless of what anyone says, you can get out of it). Tell her you are finished. Get your shit. Move away.

Never, ever speak to her again. She might be beautiful, and the sex might be good - but run away. This is not a good partner.

Walk away bro. Even if she's 1 in a million there's 7000 of her.

This is a female solicitor? That combo could not straightforwardly say that the sky is blue.

This is not powertalk. Ergo, troll.

You're on TRP and you're still engaged, and to this woman? Some people are literally helpless.

EDIT: Reading more into this, OP is clearly fucked up. So BP it's sickening.

Honestly, that's whack. I'd GTFO. Honestly man, as someone who's ex told me I needed to let her have her [sexual] fun because she's younger than me before she's ready to be more exclusive (this was about 4-6 months INTO a relationship where we were living together and I was paying for everything, becoming more and more depressed), I can say that yea, you just got an eye opener if there ever was one. Don't waste any more time.

At least, that's my advice.

You are involved with a long-term hooker then. Dump her and change ho's frequently and the per-hour ones don't pretend to be more then about sex and wont lean on you with their issues.

All synicism aside, this chick is the bottom of the barrel, dump her asap.

Damn dude...you need to seriously consider what you are getting into. This is some serious bs talk. When a woman says some shit like that in what is supposed to be a "committed" relationship she might as well as go out and bang some other dude.

If she really was into you she wouldn't want/need money and accept you for being a strong masculine presence. However, if she doesn't percieve you that way then she is already pretty much not worth your time. Unless you can make her see you in that light...kiss gettin it in on the reg goodbye.

If she hasn't cheated on you yet she will in the near future. Just think for a second - I'm sure you already know this deep down inside.

my fiance

Are you retarded?

Ok if you go ahead and get married, you deserve the divorce you're going to get. I refuse to feel bad for idiots like you who have all the information they need.

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What is this?

Please tell me you aren't with her anymore. You see how evil this woman is, do not put on ring on her.

If you marry her, it should be an automatic ban to all RP subs and an automatic, permanent-admin position in deadbedrooms. You will deserve your fate.

Dude certs are more valuable than a degree in IT. I've made a LOT of money in IT before getting a degree. It's nice to have, but not essential.

For the love of everything that is holy, DON'T MARRY THAT WOMAN.

One of the fundamental rules of TRP:

Don't. Fucking. Get. Married.

Dude. You could literally be me. My ex-LTR had also studied law and she told me those exact words. I was still prety beta and thought I could negotiate with her. I earned more, more than she could comfortably spend, however the sex never changed and she sure as hell didnt speak any nicer to me.

The only thing you can do is Alpha up and tell her to go screw herself. I can guarantee you that she does not, and will never respect you. She will cheat on you with that attitude and if you give in then prepare yourself for a life of a pussy whipped hubby, the ones we all laugh at when we see them in the shops. She has already lost all respect for you.

One of the most important truths any red pill swallower needs to realize is that you do not need to put with such abuse. The is an abundance of women out there.

Edit: She is basically whoring herself out for more money. Prostitutes are much much cheaper than your fiance, so if you really want to pay for sex then at least go the cheaper route.

It's like he's posting here in order to show our reactions to his soon-to-be-wife-and-ex-wife, so he can say "look what they think of you, they would all dump you, but I AM a good man! Can you see it now?"

Wake up OP, time to eject from this upcoming catastrophe!

The O.P. is gonna go ahead and marry her, despite what everyone has said here. I judge this to be an excellent thread however, because of all the truth that was poured out for the lurkers.

skulk2fade,

I read your post, then ALL these replies telling you the same thing, then your posting history.

First: STOP TELLING PEOPLE TO COME TO REDPILL

You have clearly not internalized anything from here, and only pay lip service to a few scattered principals.

Your fiancee has overplayed her hand - in other words, she is already acting like she's 5 years into a marriage, and knows she's got you by the balls. IT WILL NOT GET BETTER! You are very lucky she has displayed this huge red flag now, and not after it was too late. Once you marry her, you will lose whatever balls you have left, and she'll be disgusted by you even more.

You are very young - I know at 28 you think you are old and running out of time. In reality, you are at the beginning of your SMV upswing.

You are scared of being alone, I understand - but it's better to be alone without any entanglements than to be alone after the inevitable divorce raping that is coming your way. When that happens, you will really know what "alone" is.

You seem to think you can improve your SMV better if you remain in this relationship. No. No you cannot. Bitch cuts your balls off with regularity. If you would spend as much time improving your SMV (lift, eat, sleep, approach, cultivate masculine hobbies) as you do posting about, and presumably playing pointless video games and supplicating to this bitch, you'll be swimming in pussy by the time you're 30.

You mentioned in one of your old posts that her parents are trying to get her away from you too? You're doomed. Game over.

If a fiancee is not eagerly jumping your bones at every opportunity, there is a very serious problem which cannot be fixed by a quick overview of TRP and a cafeteria approach to its principals. If she's lost respect for you, it's over. Believe me and the thousands of guys here on that.

If you dump this girl and seriously follow and internalize TRP principals, you will have girls begging to come over and fuck you, cook for you, clean your house for you. It's just ridiculous how correct TRP is at what makes women tick.

When 700+ people are unanimously telling you to bail, your airplane just might be on fire and about to crash.

So OP, still planning on the marriage and honeymoon?

I'll write replies in the morning. Feeling crap like now, like I'm not even attractive enough for my soon to be wife, how would I cooe being single

Well, its good thing she signed that prenup.

I work in IT, but don't really have any IT qualifications

She went to private school and got her degree in law

our pays basically the same

In the great words of Patrice O'Neal, "You have to be better than her!"

Now it doesn't necessary mean you have to make more money, but you have to make her think you're better overall. Look at Kevin Federline for example, he's basically a bum compared to Brittany Spears, but he still managed to seduce her.

I'll also echo what others are saying; do not marry this woman.

Dude, I logged into this idle account just to tell you to RUN

Haha, wow. Abandon ship asap. If you don't, come back to this post and feel dumb for not listening after you get rekt.

Please exit this relationship ASAP before the government and church are involved. I've seen, not lived but have seen your 5 year future. You think it's bad now just wait.

HAHAHA

Don't say that stuff.

Its pussy to be like "you put me down, I am hurt psychologically" never admit to having lost confidence.

Remember there's always next girl to do better with :)

I said to her she put's me down to much and I think it is hurting me psychologically, I have lost so much confidence. I don't even feel confident about getting a higher paying job. I said we need more sex and I need a woman who I feel wants me

Did you wake up today and thought: "What's the most whiny beta shit I could say to my girl today?"

Her problem probably isn't even that you're not making more money than her, but that you're making her put up with your bitchy whining.

Discuss that shit with a male friend, not with your future wife. That being said, why the fuck are you marrying her? First of all you shouldn't get married anyway (it's fucking everywhere in this sub) and second: You really wanna get married to a bitch that doesn't even respect you at this very moment? What do you think is gonna happen when you marry her and she's got you by the balls?

Jesus christ, get your shit together man. If you still wanna get married after every single person in this thread telling you to run, think about this very moment. You'll regret it for the rest of your life.

Here's what you say.

"I don't like your attitude and I'm leaving. Goodbye."

You're getting married to this.

I wanted you to read that out loud.

She just showed you her true colors. Now, what are you going to do with that information?

What the fuck did I just read. You are more plugged in than my dryer.

We are buying real estate, getting married and have our honeymoon to Europe booked,

Are you fucking serious!?!?! You'd have way more money if you weren't slaving away for this princess. How much honeymoon cost...10k?

I am 28 and I will finish my degree in 9 months. I plan on starting my MBA when I finish. I work in IT, but don't really have any IT qualifications until this Degree is finished, just a few certs. She went to private school and got her degree in law and is practicing as a solicitor, our pays basically the same though, hers $63,000.

You have no degree and only a couple certs and are making as much as her with a damn law degree. Fuck that slut. IT is where it is at but the market is down and guess which departments get funding cut when the market is down...yup IT. That bitch needs to get a grip if she thinks 63k is making "money" with a law degree.

I said to her she put's me down to much and I think it is hurting me psychologically, I have lost so much confidence. I don't even feel confident about getting a higher paying job. I said we need more sex and I need a woman who I feel wants me, and she said to me "if you made more money, we would have more sex". I am blown away.

Did you cry, man? Did you beg her? I think I threw up in my mouth a little because you clearly have not read anything on Red Pill.

I love my fiance, but she obviously doesn't love me like i love her.

cue Terrence Popp when he says "but I love her"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1AW4AJDJb4

SMH. STOP POSTING UNTIL YOU READ AND ARE LIFTING

and PS.... IF YOU STILL ARE CONSIDERING MARRYING THIS PRINCESS....GO AHEAD AND PICK OUT A NICE TALL BRIDGE BECAUSE YOU ARE GONNA WANT TO JUMP OFF IT AFTERWARDS.

Pull the ripcord NOW dude. If after consuming the information in this sub you are still going to marry someone like her then you deserve your future misery. Hate to be that blunt, but it is what it is.

My goodness. This is some serious manipulation. She doesn't even have you locked down yet and she's withholding sex for rewards. You make 60k/year and have a bachelors? That's really good OP, and you plan on getting an mba so hopefully you will make more. You also pretty much handed your balls over to her when you said you NEED a woman to love you amd give you sex and you have lost your confidence. That is a massive turn off and she already has no respect for you, she now knows she holds all the cards. I would end this and let her manipulate some other fool. You're on rp so you're aware. Cut your losses and goto europe on your own.

Lol you have the greatest opportunity to see utter shock on this woman's face as you tell her it's over. God can you imagine it. There's no way she could cope with having someone she sees as so far under her basically tell her she's not valuable enough to stay with him suddenly. Oh man especially when she thinks she has you totally locked down.

The possibilities here are brilliant.

This dude will never break up with his chick. No way this kind of demoralization has been recent. She's probably been putting you down since day one and you go out and get this broad a ring just to satisfy her. Sorry bro but you're knee deep. You don't know your worth any more and are entirely at her grasp for qualification & acceptance. You've been emotionally compromised.

Good luck man. This is the biggest hole to get out of.

You might not think so, but you've gotten very very lucky, your fiance just showed her hand on the turn, and it's a straight flush to King.

Fold, scram, get out. If she's saying this kind of shit to your face then she doesn't respect you. She thinks you're already in the bag and would never walk away. She's overtly saying "Hey bitchdick, make more money to buy me more shit, I promise some pity sex if you do".

Big problem #1: You can't negotiate attraction. Read that again, and again. You cannot negotiate attraction, and that's exactly what you tried to do. You don't put feelz tokens in and blowjobs come out, that's beta distilled to it's purest form.

Big Problem #2: I'm not trying to put ideas in your head, you know your fiance better than any stranger here, but she's also inferred that if you make more money you'll be attractive. She works in law, with rich lawyers. Bear in mind that women are always fuckin'. Women love sex as much as men. There is nothing a woman would like more than to be jackhammered by the most masculine Chad Thundercock alpha male she knows. If she's not fucking you often enough to keep you satisfied, she's not fucking you enough to keep herself satisfied.

I'm not going to lie, I've never been in your position with the same amount of pressure involved, but look at what everybody who's been around a while is telling you. It's a real shit place to be, but just go. I was dumped by a girl that would've treated me the exact same way as yours has treated you, given the chance, and it was the single greatest thing that has ever happened in my life. Period.

I promise you from the depths of my soul, that if you leave now you will not regret it. You're worth so much more than society will ever let you believe, all you have to do is realize it.

Shit will hit the fan when you start pulling 120k after your MBA and she tells you that it's not enough because her partner makes 500k ..

DO NOT MARRY THIS WOMAN........ I REPEAT, DO NOT MARRY THIS WOMAN.

I can get google translate and put this in ANY language for you to understand ok.

If ANY woman told me "more money = more sex" , I would be gone YESTERDAY.

She will be surrounded by tall dark handsome wealthy men and in 7 years, you guys will be raising 2 kids. She will become bored and will be bent over someone's desk and blame it all on you. Dude..... wake up. NOW. Just trying to spew a little harsh reality on you.

Dude.
Get the fuck out.
There is literally zero reason for you to commit to that piece of shit.

With all the details you've laid out, this may be on par with the biggest red flag I've ever seen. She's an attorney. I'm in law school, so although I'm not on her level, I know with certainty that she is fully aware of what she can do to you legally.

You should thank your lucky stars this happened NOW. If you don't leave and things turn out badly, don't say we didn't warn you.

You sound like a pussy bud, dump that hoe

These were only some of the taunts I got from my ltr when we had our dead bedroom. Bad news. When I earned more money and even earned near double her salary, there were new reasons why she kept the bedroom door closed. New things and new goals for me to achive before I could touch her.

In left and have never been happier.

Don't do what I did and put up with it for 8 years. Especially if family and kids are your goal.

Cut your losses. Get out. It'll hurt, but it'll hurt even more later on when kids get involved. Heed the warning.

In a few years she will be sucking some partners dick to make it up the ladder while you blend your brain cells staring at code all day.

Get married at your own peril.

You guys are good people for warning him

Nope the fuck out man, no woman is worth marriage in the first place, and someone withholding sex as a punishment is pushed off the side of my boat immediately, she can find another fish in the sea as I keep living the life I want to live, so I will just fish another out of the sea and throw it back when it goes bad. I like my women, don't get me wrong, but I like to live a life of peace and tranquility. If they go beyond the boundaries I have set, which I explain to them, it's two strike and they are out. I have never had a problem getting women and there is always another to keep me warm in my bed when needed,.

Oh God. Don't fucking marry. Just don't.

I would have walked the fuck out.

I think you should marry her, so that way we have an interesting blue pill example to read about in 4 years when she fucks Chad Thunder Cock Esquire at her law firm.

Grow self respect, dont ask for it or expect it from a woman.

I had a woman tell me the same thing when I was earning practically nothing: I needed to make a lot more money to allow her to quit her job to start a family.

So I studied for a grad school entrance exam, got in to one of the best schools, graduated with a good job paying a lot more, and dumped her.

I was making a lot more money, I could do way better than her!

Ironically, you're getting blown away while the exact opposite is happening

First of all, you haven't swallowed the pill. You're looking at it and thinking about taking it. I don't even think its stuck in your throat at this point.

You need to realize she is letting you know what she sees you for. Money. And you need to accept what that means for you. She sees you as a Beta Buck, and you are playing right into her hand. You literally talked to her about your feelings. This is not what you want to do.

Sorry to say this, but its too late to save face. She has seen your bluepill betaness, and you must cut ties. You have no choice.

This is BP example isnt it?

She is shit testing you constantly, you're depressed and insecure and you're still considering marriage? Get out of this, she's told you who she is. Every comment on here is telling you the same thing and that's really rare but we're all men. Get out of this relationship as fast as you can.

The best option is to GTFO and to sever ties. However, if that just seems too daunting you have to at least call off the engagement and take at least a 3-month break when you MUST make a serious effort to go out and meet women.

One thing is for sure, even if she doesn't start fucking other guys (or doesn't divorce you and take the kids), you will eventually regret not taking drastic action with a character warning like this.

And good luck. PLEASE, put yourself in a position where you can build self-esteem away from what sounds like a toxic character.

EDIT: wording

Dude. Run like the wind. Cut your losses. This bitch is a cancer.

Hit the eject button and save yourself a lot of future hardship.

Sir, I have noticed in your post history that you consistently advertise trp in other sub reddits.

Such activity will get TheRedPill banned from reddit altogether. Please cease and desist such actions. You are harming the rest of us by your actions.

We do not need anyone else standing up for us, and we certainly don't need a smug newbie who thinks he knows what we're about.

Stop and don't make the same mistake as countless others have made. Just stop.

You were told in plain English she will give you validation for cash. Do not marry her

Flair should not be 'Red Pill Theory'. It clearly should be 'Blue Pill Example.

My teacher told me today that "True love only exists between men", whatever he means.

Well, your woman want money for sex, then be her pimp.

I wouldn't buy real estate with she.

If you weren't a gold digging whore, you'd still be involved with me instead of on the curb.

"If I made more money, I'd be having sex with someone else"

Watch this over and over again until you understand:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1QP4UV93TNM

Over 400 comments agree. You're going to get fucked. If that isn't enough motive to listen then you are indeed helpless.

Stop everything right now. Call her and say it's over. Stop having anxiety about ending it and just get it over with. Stop worrying about HOW it's all going to work out and just fucking pull the trigger and deal with the aftermath as it unfolds.

Run for the hills! Fuck that, no woman will hold sex over me like that. You have been severely warned you need to call it off.

Time to bail, OP! Hell, she's basically telling you to value your career over her.

Was in same situation but I made about 15k more than her. She basically had the same attitude. We are no longer together.

If you love her marry her with no regrets.

If you love your next wife, dont marry this one.

Ditch that leach. Right now, don't even explain yourself. She fucked up, now you got an excuse to be free.

I thought it said “fiances stretched thin." Quite the opposite.

If I made more money, I would be having more sex.

With someone hotter....

how can you possibly be attracted to a complete bitch?

I promise you... YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY if you do not make serious change in your life.

Step 1. Focus on you... this means getting rid of that baggage.

Quality life is short, and happiness is what you make it... dont rob yourself of a quality life of happiness

Yeah yeah. Welcome to the club. Drop her.

if you go through with being with her, we don't want to hear it when things go south... I'm literally going to take a note of your name and if I see any dumb ass posts saying you got divorced raped or anything I'm going to make you feel like complete shit. You don't get to have the pleasure of calling out women for caring about money, when you are a man who has been told what is what and you still ignore it in face of your emotions. You're literally no better.

She is one, but managed to do a full time job of it instead of a gig.

Look at OP's history. You've been dealing with shit for a while. You know what to do. Hell, in your comment history you've even given other people advice. You give them advice that you yourself are ignoring.

You don't need the validation from this sub to know what you need to do. You already know it. Now you must act on it. It doesn't matter what it costs you now, the cost will be far far greater if you delay.

It's time to make a choice. If you refuse to make that choice, that in itself is a choice. By doing nothing, you automatically choose the bluepill. And you still won't be happy and you still will lose that woman.

Even if you aren't making more money now, she needs to believe you will be making more in the future.

With that said, I think the fact that she told you so plainly that she needs you to make more money before she'll have more sex with you is a red flag. Yes, women like winners but saying this flat out is rude.

Whoa now. Whoooaaa Bessie.

She just told you everything you need to know. Ask yourself one question-- Do you think things are going to be better, when she legally owns your testicles to dispose of as she wishes?

This woman is about to hit the wall-- she's 28. She has no idea what a shit show she is in for after she's 30-32ish.

You on the other hand have plenty going for you. You have another 10 years to find a woman in her age bracket (28-ish).

My advice: Break up with her ASAP. Plan on finding a more wholesome, less whoresome woman in your MBA program. (Or perhaps one who is an undergrad while you're in grad school). This would be a fantastic opportunity for you.

If you accept the red pill, then accept that you are the cause of your lack of sex. You want sex from another sentient being, especially a women? You need to make her feel a certain way. Women will hold YOU responsible for THEIR feelings. Fucked up, I know, but that is the reality of the male female dynamic.

You don't talk about losing confidence with your woman... EVER. She is not your mother or your therapist. She expects you to have an abundance of confidence, and when you don't, you need to fake it and make it on your own. She will not give you the confidence you desire, through sex or any other means. Only you can give yourself the confidence you need, and it won't be from fucking her more. That will only make you even more mentally and physically dependent on her vagina, like a drug addiction.

Do the opposite. Withdraw sex, hit the gym, study more, define your goals, and go after them. Build uncertainty up in her mind, aka dread game. You need to have an abundance mentality and the mindset to walk away from the relationship if she doesn't give you what you demand from her.

You don't want more sex from her. You want better, rougher, more passionate sex from her. You want quality sex, not routine duty sex.

And in the end, she's right. You need to make more money than her, i.e. be more ambitious in your personal and professional development and advancement in your career. Getting an MBA will likely increase your chances at making more money, but by no means do you need that degree to do so. You can avoid a shit load of debt and make more money right now by getting better at networking and interviewing. Meet the right people and pitch yourself as an up and comer and you can make more money in a few months than in several years.

So what are you going to do today to realize your goals? Start by defining your goals and then go after them. The pussy will come as a side benefit not from a pathetic plea from "your" woman.

"if you made more money, we would have more sex"

There you have it. Your wife is a whore. Leave her and go on. She's not worth your time.

"I can't live like this..." actually meant, "Make more money so we (I) can continue living in our (my) luxury rental apt or get the fuck out," per my ex wife. Mind you, we could have cut back just a bit and still have enjoyed going out to nice dinners, vacations, blah blah.

She gave our marriage 10 months and then fired me, her husband (lifestyle financier). This was a year ago. Now I am only focusing on work, lifting, plating HBs. Can't be happier.

Holy shit. If this is how she acts now, imagine how horrible she will be after she has you locked down with marriage and/or kids and nothing to lose.

You've been given a rare chance to see the monster behind the curtain. Act accordingly.

Run for the hills. This woman only wants money. Find someone who wants you more than money. Get out now.

You are fucked. My coworker and his fiance just had a daughter 2 months ago. She kicked him out of the apt on Christmas eve. You sound a lot like him, and he is a subaverage IQ, even more socially retarded fuckwit. He was telling me how her 'ex-boyfriend' was really nice and helped him move his shit after literally getting kicked to the curb. He then said how when first getting into a relationship with this bitch that same 'ex' tried to warn him saying that this would happen, that he would get dumped as soon as she had a kid, but "I just couldn't believe it".

This is whats gonna happen: You're going to ignore all of the advice that everyone is screaming at you and marry her. She will have a kid 6-12 months from now (who probably wont be yours), then kick your ass onto the street. You will come back here crying about how your life is ruined and how you should have listened. We will fucking laugh at you.

You are socially retarded. I'm not trying to ridicule you here, I'm trying to help you. Call this shit off, and Internalize more TRP, especially concepts that relate to social dynamics like power-talk and shit tests.

Congratulations on your break up. I hope you'll be posting tomorrow about how you're a single man.

If you don't, you're a fucking fool who will have a shitty married life and around 2-8 years after that a shitty divorced life.

Don't be a fucking fool. Please.

She should be demoted to plate and ex-fiance.

one , look her in the eye and say the most sincerest "thank you" that you can ever say, two, have a dramatic exit plan (just for fun) three , read the theredpill side bar, (i would suggest the pdf edition)..then four up and the rest ...is up to you...you have your life intact.

"If you made more money we'd be having more sex"

This is your GF saying this wow. Nothing will justify going your own way as a man and just buying hookers than that statement there.

So she openly admitted to being a golddigger. Consider yourself warned.

Postpone you marriage, and do not buy property with her. Tell her you will not accept the bullshit. She either shapes up or you move on. Grow a spine.

Shes a future ex getting alimony from you with that attitude dude. Ditch and Switch,

Holy hell, I've been off TRP for 2 weeks. I come back and see this thread. Thanks G.od for this subreddit, it's a blessing to have this kind of male-only/no-bullshit space (at least for now).

I don't know how your post slipped through, but personal stuff like this belongs in /r/asktrp.

We are... getting married

Somebody hasn't been paying attention.

Everybody said to you already the obvious thing, that you should run away and fast. Anyway, ending a relationship isn't easy and if you are in a position of relative inferiority your emotional system is going to make you her little bitch.

So, you have to gain power in this relationship: increase your SMV. Lift like there is no tomorrow, dread game (ffs, no more "you are damaging me psychologically" bullshit), and read and apply "Sex god method" so your girl can enjoy the sex again. Once you are again above her, there you can choose freely. Good luck.

Op please don't get married the relationship seems like 6 flags.

You had better get some sense in you boy, and listen to every single post in this thread.

Get the fuck out of that shithole you dug yourself. Get out now!

But ok, it's kind of obvious you aren't going to just drop what you think you've worked so hard for. In 1 year I hope after you have nursed your pain and anger and hate, that you can come back here and start over.

This is just the folly of all men. Carry with you some truth: you are worth much more than what you think a woman in your life can make you, and abundance mentality. The cure for oneitis is a harem of pussy. Which is pretty easy for you to get if you just take a step back from a succubus and look at who you really are and your real worth.

edit: read the sidebar and links more and more. It's hypergamy. AWALT. It will happen. Prepare for the burn.

Step 1) Call off the wedding/marriage/everything

Step 2) See if you can get a refund on anything that you've booked, vacation-wise.

Keep on your educational track at all cost.

Get out now.

Seriously, get out of this relationship now. For where you are in life, you're doing great career wise.

Your life will get a lot better and she will get to marry a senior partner at her law firm, stop working and start pushing out babies.

I have a question for you that you should answer very seriously. Why do you want to get married?

She isn't attracted to you due to some lack of money or power.

You go ahead and tell her you've been feeling shitty about it and reveal more weakness.

You've put yourself in a really deep hole. And won't be getting in her holes because of it.

As much as I hate to say it ... get out. You are not married yet, and frankly you don't need to marry that. You've already lost points in the relationship by admitting to feeling less confident because of how she treats you, you have to work to not only combat that but also 'restore' yourself in her eyes. I don't think that she effectively respects you.

Yeah man, I hardly post here but shit I don't see this ending well. She's openly disrespecting you and doesn't care. Take it as a sign and get out. Nothing is final until you sign the papers; and you don't want to have to go through a divorce with a lawyer as your spouse.

Time for that bitch to suck it.

I love my fiance, but she obviously doesn't love me like i love her.

I see a silver line in that sentence.

Break it off now, do NOT get married.

GTFO now man. Youve lost at this point. Already said all the wring things. You either pull your shit together and do a 180.... Im talking a 100% change from your current shittiness.... Thats going to be damn near impossible, so id start planning on divorcing this woman and covering your losses.

PS. NEVER SAY "i think we need more sex blah blah blah" that is literally beta as fuck. You start trying to fuck your wife and if she says no you go into the other room and dont fucking talk to her! Quit being a whiny bitch about it.

Please be a troll. If not she just told you that she's a prost.

So she wants more money for sex? sounds like a lot of the girls youll find on craigslist, if you know what i mean

Definitely grounds to postpone the wedding lol

DONT MARRY HER, its a trap man. A comment like that should be sending red flags.

I rarely comment at all but this has to be said:

Get the fuck out of that bullshit disaster of a relationship right away. Like, now.

Marrying that woman will utterly destroy your life and I can guarantee that.

You love her, so you don't want to break up. Understandable.

Your problem is probably you losing frame in the past and now losing it totally with the last conversation. Not much chance of repairing this, but if you really have to try...

Cancel the wedding. This is as strong a signal as you can send without going full nuclear and breaking up. Once you do weather the shitstorm it's about to cause, prepare on your own family to join the fray. Then focus on yourself and your frame if she decides to stay.

If she decides to leave: you will know 100% sure she did not want YOU, she wanted a wedding. You just happened to be the only schmuck crazy enough to wed her.

If you're finishing up an IT degree look into Cisco certs, specifically the CCNA/CCDA.

Dump her and run dude. NEVER GET MARRIED.