First of all, I'm very grateful for this community. If I didn't find this subreddit, I'd probably would be on the road to being the best beta cuck for some moderately attractive slut. (Love you guys, emotional shit, blah blah blah). I've never felt more in control of my life until I discovered TRP. I tend to still be on the newbie stage, and use too much tinder because I'm being a bitch and need to approach more in person.

Let's also get this out of the way, I'm pretty handsome, I'm a competitive powerlifter, and because of my knowledge for my age (early twenties) I have a lot of status at the gym(s) I go to. I love helping people out with their training/nutrition/form, and definitely like helping kids who are just starting so they get on the right track. Long story short, I know almost everyone there.

I decided that I was going to finally stop being a pussy and wear my spandex to the gym, without shorts on top. Say what you want, but squatting in spandex is amazing - your shorts don't ride up, and you feel like you are completely free for the full movements of lifts, and it's so damn COMFORTABLE. Anyways, as a guy, you have to make sure you wear something underneath them, because your penis is pretty much 100% visible if not. I wore shorter spandex underneath, but if you're average, or above, then you just have to deal with the fact that you are going to be able to see your package. The reason for me describing my spandex antics in detail, is that that day I was getting a lot of attention from the girls at the gym (wow such surprise, women like a nice package). I attribute that to my confidence to approach that day.

I'm in my zone, not thinking about women at all, just focused on my lifts, when I see this HB8 start doing extremely provocative stretches. I'm talking like the full touch-your-toes hamstring stretch pushing her ass out like an animal in heat. She had a great ass, was even wearing baggy sweatpants but that ass was enough to pull them tight and you could see the outline of her thong. I was actually a little angry at this because it was distracting me from my lifts. We make eye contact a couple of times and she smiles. I'm taking a while to rest in between sets, because it's a heavier day, and start thinking about TRP, and how I barely ever approach. Fuck it, I'll go talk to her.

I tell her she looks familiar (she does), and ask her if she used to go here a while ago (she did). We talk about seeing each other around at the gym. She is VERY receptive - making eye contact, smiling, honestly keeps checking out my package. I tell her we should lift together some time, and she agrees, then I get her number.

Side note: I should have taken her with me to finish my workout. I've done this before, and it allows some kino, plus I'm pretty knowledgeable and I show her form technique, etc.

Shoot her a text later that day and tell her I'm going to this car show later, and she should come. She tells me she has her kids this weekend (said she just went through a divorce - FUCK) and she can't. She also tries to get me me to text by "Tell me about yourself", I say in person I will. I say we should hang out this week, she asks me what I had in mind, and I told her nothing serious, just us going somewhere we can walk around (kino her), and talk. She just says, "OK".

She asks how the car show was, and I ask her when she is free. Again. Thinking about a next at this point, but also giving her some slack because she has her kids (Mistake? Thinking with my dick). She asks me, "when were you thinking?" - she never gives me any specifics, just always asks me. I ask her when she gets off work tomorrow, and she hits me with this:

"Let's be honest with ourselves. You are very attractive, cute, adorable and sexy. I'm very flattered. But I'm going to be 35 and have 3 kids that are my everything. I'd love to hang out with you. But I feel our lives are completely different."

To which I make a thread on AskTRP, to see what the fuck I'm dealing with here. Get some good responses, and I tell her that "I'm not looking for a relationship"..

Her: "What are you looking for FWB?" - Score? Had a feeling she wanted me to fuck her brains out since I met her.... but I think that about ever hot girl. God damn, I'm turning into Gaston (and I love it)

Me: "Yes"

Her: "Sorry I tried that once. Not a fan."

I haven't responded yet. Just think I'm going to "k", and radio silence. I understand most of the concepts that TRP teaches, but applying them is a whole different game.

I believe my problem is, that I already put her on the pedestal from when I met her - so I actually really want to fuck her. I need more abundance, and that's my current goal at the moment.

Feel free to beat some more concepts into my head. I need dat TRP tough love. Thanks, brothers.

Edit: Things I've learned:

  • I puut her on a pedestal from the beginning subconsciously.

  • Did well in person, but looked needy texting by asking MULTIPLE times when she was free to do something. This played into her need for SMV validation (35, kids, recently divorced).

  • She didn't suggest another meet-up after declining the first one - I should have went radio silent until she brought something back up. If not, next.

  • Failed shit test:

    "What are you looking for FWB?"

  • I could have responded with the following:

    "Well it's winter, and I could use a female space heater to save some money on my electric." - /u/pcadrian

"I'm just looking to have some fun. What, you don't have fun anymore?" - /u/CopperFox3c

"At least buy me a drink first" - /u/naMlliPdeR

"Good question. I'm just taking it one day at a time." - /u/idgaf

"I don't usually get those request from older women." - /u/kmoran1

" depends on the gal I'm speaking with" - /u/pcadrian

"Not all friends are the same, but that's cool nice meeting you!" - /u/blacwidonsfw

"I haven't decided yet. Gotta know who I'm dealing with first." - /u/docprofessa