TLDR: When it comes to choosing a mate, think with your head! And not the one on your shoulders.

As I've worked to improve myself, establish real self-confidence and overcome my insecurities, I've noticed that growing up I developed a tendency to chase 'low hanging fruit.' I'm talking about girls to whom I wasn't particularly physically attracted, but who seemed to be more attainable or available than their more attractive counterparts. This is a monumental mistake, and it's basically the male equivalent of a woman going after a man who doesn't generate tingles but seems to be a good, reliable, and kindhearted provider (read: beta bucks). In both scenarios, the result is the same: dead bedrooms.

Another problem I've encountered is trying to quantify my attraction according to neat categories. For instance, I may have been attracted to a redheaded girl at one point, and so I may tell myself that redheads are my type. I may encounter another girl who objectively meets this criterion but doesn't actually make me want to rip her clothes off on a visceral level. Nevertheless, I rationalize my decision to pursue her anyway because 'she's my type.' Huge mistake.

Conversely, I may encounter a girl who doesn't fit the mold of what I think is my type, but actually does make my dick want to bust out of my pants. Maybe I told myself I prefer big butts and she's lacking in that department. I rationalize my decision not to hit on her because she doesn't meet the criteria, even though my dick wants her. Again, this is a mistake.

All of these errors result from trying to do your dick's job with your brain. ATTRACTION CANNOT BE NEGOTIATED. This is one of the hallmarks of TRP, but it's usually a phrase we apply when attempting to generate a woman's attraction. Yes, a woman's attraction cannot be negotiated; i.e. without demonstrating sufficient sexual market value (SMV) no amount of supplication or "nice guy" behavior is going to make her want you. But YOUR attraction as a man can't be negotiated either, and no amount of telling yourself that a girl is hot is going to make her hot to you, no matter how much you want her to.

Blue pill women often SAY they want nice, caring, sensitive guys. Blue pill men often SAY they want a girl who's fat, maybe because fat girls seem nicer or more obtainable, or maybe because they tell themselves "I'm not superficial like other guys, I care about what's on the inside." But unless your cock legitimately gets hard at the sight of a chubby face and a big gut, no amount of rationalization is going to generate the attraction you want. Similarly, unless a woman legitimately gets tingles from a supplicating weak beta, no amount of rationalization is going to generate the attraction she may want to feel for you if that's how you behave.

The problem is you're trying to let your rational brain override your far more unconscious sexual functioning. This does not work, it never has and it never will.

Chasing after girls you're not legitimately attracted to is a recipe for disaster. Either: you actually get the girl and then you have lackluster sex or can't even get it up, OR, you get rejected and subconsciously resent the shit out of her for it because YOU'RE willing to sacrifice your very nature in order to settle and SHE isn't willing to do the same for YOU.

So do yourself a favor, do her a favor and follow what nature intended. Chase after the girls you actually want, not the girls you THINK you want, and your dick will thank you for it.

And if you can't get the girls you REALLY want? Well, that's probably not true; it's a numbers game, keep trying and eventually you'll find one who wants you. And if you don't, well... personally, I'd rather jack off to porn than try fuck some flabby girl with a semi-hard dick. Why would I risk unwanted pregnancy and STDs just for a piece of pussy my dick doesn't really want? Just so I can tell myself I got laid? Don't be a slave to your own ego, you're better than that.