"My boyfriend is so beta Im turning into a bitch" [X-post]

sir_Preacher · 2016-02-11T12:27:54+00:00

Over the entire 5 months ive been away at school, ALL he tells me are just sweet nothings (ie "i miss you so much baby" "i cant wait to hold you in my arms" "i miss waking up to you"). Initially i loved seeing these texts of his popping up on my phone! But now they almost just seem annoying.

Oh wait... My mom told me that girls love nice and sensitive guys.

My feminist teacher in high school told me that girls like guys who are so caring and tell them sweet nothings 10 times a day.

All the rom coms I watch tell me to let her know how I am soo much in love with her..

All the advice on relationship, 2x and askwomen subs tell me to just communicate with her.... it'll be fine.

But I have been doing all these for 8 months, why is she not falling heads over heels in love with me?
Maybe I need to double my efforts, and she will just see how nice a guy I am.

...Until I began to look for answers on the internet... And I stumbled upon a subreddit... TheRedPill. All the rest is history.

TL;DR - This is typical bluepill story. Very similar to mine.

Veritas_potissimum · 2016-02-11T14:31:48+00:00

Symptoms:

Jealousy
Passive-aggressiveness
Prolonged LDR
Woman with "lots of guy friends"
Woman encouraging alpha behaviours with no results

Short-term prediction: Woman will drive man to a point of an emotional angry outburst so when he finally yells at her during an argument, she will have secured her excuse to branch-swing (he was mean to me!111!!!)

Prescription: 500 mg TRP stat to cure oneitis

Themooseconnection · 2016-02-11T12:04:55+00:00

Guy is an automatic beta for accepting an LDR, it instantly shows lack of abundance. LDR's are perfect for women, they get all of the emotional support with none of the physical commitment. The equivalent for men is plates, all of the physical connection with none of the emotional support.

supersonic-turtle · 2016-02-11T11:45:43+00:00

Also, it sounds like the guy knew she was going away for school in a few months time but agreed to be exclusive anyway. In fact, he probably brought it up. On some level she knew he had no other options. A real alpha who has women throwing themselves at him wouldn't get tied down to a girl who is about to leave.

lugubriusTRP · 2016-02-11T12:35:19+00:00

Why doesn't she just leave him, why is she wasting her time waiting for him to switch into a alpha? Is it a lack of options? (Judging by the fact shes posting on reddit shes probably ugly so i guess so)

SureImShore · 2016-02-11T14:55:48+00:00

I feel like im just being so mean to him! I want it to stop, but its been constant.

I always shake my head when I see guys in relationships where they are complete supplicating betas. They are, on paper, the "perfect" guys; they cook, clean, buy their SO gifts and generally do whatever she wants/tells them. Yet pretty much universally, the women are constantly miserable. Neither understands inter gender dynamics, and the necessity of women being feminine and men being masculine. Its a train wreck in slow-motion, and its painful to watch when its someone that you care about. Unfortunately, you can't force anyone to take the pill. They have to find the truth on their own.

Initially i loved seeing these texts of his popping up on my phone!

On the other side of the equation, especially in an LTR (although fuck LDRs), you do need to mix in a little "beta" every now and then. Sprinkle the dread with some comfort. I took the Red Pill to an extreme when I first unplugged. While I was able to get lays fairly consistently, the quality ones would inevitably get off the train. They told me (most covertly, but some directly), that I always seemed like I had one foot out the door and they knew they would get burned eventually.

De_LaMancha · 2016-02-11T16:22:22+00:00

I don't think the solution is to be so Alpha and secure in yourself that you won't get uncomfortable if the girl you have a committed relationship with goes away for months to an environment where there are many guys around. Isn't this the thought process of a Cuck? I am so secure in my relationship and my self identity that I won't get uncomfortable if my wife is getting fucked by random dick in front of me.

The solution is to not stay in this relationship in the first place. The possibility of her losing interest in you and getting interested in another guy goes way up. It has less to do with how Alpha you are or how secure you are in yourself.

[deleted] · 2016-02-11T16:29:50+00:00

This post highlights A Big Problem of modern life.

Females are social creatures. The zeitgeist is paramount to the female instinct because if a community hated a girl in Prehistoric times she was as good as dead.

Then there's good old familiar hypergamy. Now the modern zeitgeist says Billy Beta is a perfectly acceptable mate and that she should be happy with him. If she's not,she should pop pills and hire shrinks to figure out what's wrong -preferably using Billy Betas Amex.

This is in direct violation of basic AF/BB instincts,which is telling her to run far the fuck away from this unfit pile of weak ass protoplasm and find herself a big ,strong, and violent man ASAP. Big strong & violent men aren't socially acceptable to date.

Squaring her internal need for a strong man in a society both lacking them and which disapproves of her coupling with one is the source of much grief in the female sphere.

0kool74 · 2016-02-11T18:35:43+00:00

All she needs to do is ask Agent Smith.....and of course he'll respond with......"that is the sound of inevitability."

Frost30 · 2016-02-11T17:54:14+00:00

This is what I was taught. Living with mom and now working with nurses and being stuck with women all day, I hear on and off "Oh you're gonna be a good husband." and "That lucky lady will just be amazed by you." blah blah blah.

Thankfully, I stumbled upon the RP and "woken up" about how to be a man and what most women truly are. It's not worth the trouble to "find love" and "live happily ever after" and wasting my money and time on some chick who's got a good chance of ending up dumping me for some dude who's taller than me or whatever bs reason.

You guys have changed my life for the good. Posts like these I truly appreciate and have definitely effected me and I've learned things from here I never knew! Thanks again everyone!

nyrp · 2016-02-11T18:29:36+00:00

sweet nothings

Remember, they're called sweet nothings for a reason.

They give her nothing.

MajorMid · 2016-02-11T19:07:17+00:00

Sounds like my first relationship to a T.

Honestly I was much more of a catch than her. So I couldn't understand when she would be confused as to if she finds me attractive anymore or not and then when she ultimately broke up with me. It's cause I was too nice. I was a beta bitch. The first night I met her I banged her out in the back of my car. 8 months in I couldn't even bang her after a $200 date night.

But I still am thankful for that relationship. Because it taught me so much and brought me here. And she was deeply honest for a girl so I was able to learn exactly about the female mindset after it was all said and done. She would share her feelings with me and tell me all the shit that she was feeling and now I can look back on it and see why she was confused, or why she wanted drama, or why she couldn't figure out why she would go through periods where she questioned my attractiveness to her.

I still remember months in when we were barely having sex...she was getting on my nerves and wanted to leave some place in public. So I turned her around and said "Shut the fuck up. We are staying". Later that night she told me she had never been so turned on with me before than when I told her to shut the fuck up. It's too bad I didn't take that comment to heart and as advice to stop being nice and start being aggressive much earlier.

max_peenor · 2016-02-11T19:53:20+00:00

dating now for 8 months

has been this way for about 5 months now

Um... Wut? Sweetie, you were each other's fucktoys for a couple months. That's all it was. You made it official because you didn't want to feel cheap and easy. You are well past the point of wanting more dick and it's agitating you.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-02-11T21:09:05+00:00

I remember my blue pill moment in my first relationship. Figured I had to start acting like this dopey fuck or else i'd scare my girlfriend away. Wasn't even close to this guys blueness but she acted like the biggest bitch I've ever met.

Never act like this guy.

icecow · 2016-02-11T21:24:47+00:00

Women dont want to feel needed, they want to feel desired

Key. Should be chipped in to a stone somewhere.

Harry_Teak · 2016-02-12T02:34:41+00:00

Not sure if this guy is really beta or just paying about 10% attention to his text chat. Pull back the camera a bit and it looks like shit one might type to the LDR chick while at the bar, watching TV, or waiting for the waitress-of-the-week to show up at the door.

I'm also taking into account that we're not reading his texts, we're reading a story by a very unreliable narrator.

flying-gogoplata · 2016-02-11T16:33:59+00:00

He's probly finally taken the pill and he's using that "be a huge beta as an escape plan for your LTR" method lmao

musicvita25 · 2016-02-11T16:58:03+00:00

Can't find that Mate-Protection article youre referring to? Would love to read it!

fitnessacctasdf · 2016-02-11T17:59:28+00:00

LDRs... not even once.

I know women who can't remain loyal to their guy for a WEEKEND, much less hundreds of miles away for months.

BRENDORVEGAS · 2016-02-12T11:13:14+00:00

Clearly, the man is not using the DENNIS system .

BenjiDread · 2016-02-12T18:14:29+00:00

This is what happened in my LTR of 5 years. She simply couldn't stop herself from being a bitch and I couldn't stop myself from being her bitch.

Eventually I grew some balls and moved out.

FUCK_YEA_GLITTER · 2016-02-14T08:09:31+00:00

This is defiantly a thing. I know a super beta and even though I want to be nice I always feel contempt and negative emotions for them

hvdesisagod · 2016-02-12T16:57:52+00:00

This is a great BP story, but you've missed out, in my opinion, a very crucial lesson. I've read the commebts on here and all of you seem angry because both of their behaviour, but, to be honest, I can value a girl like her. Why? She actually tells the fucking guy what to do. Albeit, not directly and the guy has no clue, but she is actually trying to "fix him". Now, I'm not going to say she is amazing or what not, but girls like her can help a lost mind find it's way back to the Red Sanctuary, only if the Blues weren't so oblivious..

verdantsound · 2016-02-11T15:34:57+00:00

Honestly, after reading the OP i feel it's an honesty issue and less of an alpha/beta issues. Obviously showering her with compliments is beta, but she was fine with that before as long as he was honest about his intentions. Now she just thinks he's lying to her. my 2 pence.

[deleted] · 2016-02-12T03:24:21+00:00

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Title	"My boyfriend is so beta Im turning into a bitch" [X-post]
Author	taracus
Upvotes	171
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Date	February 11, 2016 11:05 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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