tl;dr: People who knew you in your beta past will never respect you and you will never respect yourself if you choose to associate with them anymore.
I made a pretty brutal decision to ghost a lot of 'friends' from my past.
I decided if people treated me in a way they wouldn't treat someone of high regard/respect/authority (their boss, their parent, whoever they look up to) then I would next them. Boy, girl, plate, 'friend', family member, whoever.
If a person doesn't respect you, it could be your fault and it could be their fault - whoever enabled and created the relationship of disrespect is not actually important.
What's important is the result; you're associating with someone who treats you with disrespect, or lesser respect than those they actually respect, and there is no way a man can respect himself if he's choosing to spend time with people who don't respect him.
Note the word choose. Sometimes you have no choice, but when you have the option to say to yourself "You know what? Fuck this, I'm bailing" or "No fucking way am I going to see that guy" you must use it.
How can you respect yourself if you choose to associate with someone who doesn't respect you? How can you do anything in life worth a shit? You're going to spend all the time with them 'proving' to them you're worthy of respect? You're going to spite them until they respect you? Who gives a fuck what they think? Not only is it bad to give a fuck what someone thinks, they're likely never going to respect you. Never ever. Once you decide you don't respect somebody, how often do you change your mind? Do you erase your memories?
How can you believe in yourself if you don't respect yourself? How are you going to follow a plan out to get healthy, get wealthy, get smart, if you don't respect yourself?
For that reasons I ghosted a number of friendly acquaintances I considered friends, once I understood where I was in their hierarchy. Some I'd known for 10 years and had shared some good and bad memories with.
I do not regret it one bit.
People who don't respect you won't change how they perceive you once you better yourself, they'll see the old you and a new imposter.
I am a strong believer that first impressions last, forever, and that if you have made an impression on some people that you are a beta, they will never forget where they've pigeon holed you. They will never treat you like an alpha and defer to you, how could they? They don't respect you, they 'know' that you're just 'acting different'.
Compare that with new people. New people see what's in front of them and they take it at face value that you're a lean mean fucking machine who appears to have his shit in order and probably always has. Don't tell them about your past when you didn't, they don't need the dream ruined. And if other people talk about your old ways, just agree and amplify and laugh about it - the new person wasn't there and it's just the other persons word against yours - and you're a likable alpha, so they'll think fuck it and believe you're an alpha and always were.
Lesson: You should consider making some hard decisions about ghosting some people in your life who have disrespected you and boxed you into a 'beta' category in their memory. You could turn from the guy from Revenge of the Nerds into Connor McGregor and they'd only tell people about how you were the guy from Revenge of the Nerds. New people will take your fucking greatness at face value and when they hear reports that you've upgraded and shit test you, defuse the shit test with great laughter.
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