Summary: Women project onto men the same way men develop oneitis for women. Everyone sees what they want to see in other people. The question is, how do you deal with it?

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People tend to generalize about others to the extreme. They idealize people in their minds, put the people they meet in some category and assume that they check all the boxes of that stereotype. Think about that oneitis you once had - the whole issue was that you projected your fantasies onto a woman you didn't know. You constructed this perfect woman in your mind that you wanted to see in front of you. So you did. Your brain literally deceived you into seeing something that isn't there. Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain!

Along came TRP to tell you that she's really not all that special. There are 3.5 billion women out there, all the traits you love about this one particular gal exist in a better, more beautiful woman. "That's not true," you said "this woman's different!"

And then you found out that while you were buying her flowers and taking her out to expensive restaurants twice a week, hoping that she'll realize what a nice guy you are, she's blowing some douchebag in the back of some bar. Turns out TRP was right all along. And now you're ANGRY. You start getting your ass into shape, you start getting some cool hobbies, you want to be that douchebag she's putting out for.

Suddenly, women are paying attention to you. And here's why - women project onto men the same way men project onto women. When she sees you walk into the club with your GLO tee shirt accenting your muscular frame and that the bouncer greets you by name, she starts to exaggerate these features and see an idealized version of you that she's constructed in her mind. That's why you can do no wrong once she is attracted to you. It's kind of like the way a beta loser makes every excuse for the girl he likes.

What happens if you reveal what a loser you are? She's repulsed. She thinks you're gross and that she never liked you at all. See, nobody likes finding out that they're a bad judge of character. But women can't help themselves. Again and again, they make the same mistake. So they rationalize it, convincing themselves that they were raped - and they really believe it. But deep down they know the truth. They fucked up. And they despise you for it.

Lessons learned:

Stop seeing what you want to see in women, and start seeing reality. Stop being angry at women, it's your own damn fault you're such a shitty judge of character.

Stop acting like a woman.