My goal here is to share a few big moments of my RP journey with some of what I learned, so the new guys can take something away and maybe the vets can shine their wisdom upon us all.

Summary: Discovered TRP two years ago. Began on Tinder, trying out more direct methods and found success, tightened my game and frame, got awkward with friends, and restructured my life to focus on me and my goals. Still have a few things to work on but happier than I've ever been.

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Pre-TRP

I was a typical "nice guy." You know, one of those "you're going to make some woman very happy one day." Of course, that "one day" was never today. Or tomorrow. They were free to go fuck Chad all day and I would be waiting on the other side for that "day."

After I crashed and burned with an online date that should have been a home run, I realized that I must be doing something wrong.

It was somehow, luckily, around this time I discovered TRP in another thread, not sure where it was. I came over and immediately everything spoke to me, like this community somehow knew my exact experiences.

Taking the Pill

I'm lucky enough to be on the good end of looks, a little short, charismatic, with some artistic talents. I never had trouble holding a conversation but my biggest struggles were always escalating after being shown interest. Something inside me said "no no, startingoveRP, you're a good guy don't try to kiss her." Thanks, beta programming. Thanks female friends telling me "only douches do ______."

I fired up my Tinder again with some decent pictures and taking a very direct approach. I would make the conversations flirtatious and sexual almost immediately as opposed to my old "so where are you from? What do you do?" bullshit. I started getting dates from girls much hotter than I had before.

On the dates I learned to read their interest level very early on - I wanted to make sure I was seen by them as someone with sexual value and not otherwise. I'd drop in a sexual comment here and there and see how they would react. A positive reaction meant I was in the right place. A negative reaction meant it might not happen. It wouldn't bum me out - you cannot negotiate desire.

Sex was always something I felt lucky to have. Now I started having it more regularly, more than ever before in my life. Which meant I stopped caring as much about it.

What I learned:

-test the waters early with sexual comments

-don't be afraid to be direct, especially in the texting phase

-how to hold frame throughout and swat away shit tests with agree and amplify and non-straight answers.

-having more sex made sex less important, which opened up more brainpower for more important things

Monk Mode

After many months of that I felt my SMV was topping out, and not at the level I would like. I decided it was time to Monk Mode, read more (48 Laws), and work on my own artistic projects. I turned off all online dating, did not go out and meet girls (but I did talk to them in the right situations, like a party or something). I was able to get a lot of work done that has expanded my resume, and given me much more to talk about post-Monk Mode.

What I learned

-Monk Mode is not an excuse to not talk to girls if you're afraid. It's a time to center yourself and work on your goals

-I chose Monk Mode because I wanted to accomplish big goals, which would in turn raise my SMV so I could get higher-ranking girls on the other side.

Don't Talk To Your Friends

My friends began to see my very stark change from strong desire of a girlfriend to very anti-relationship. I uplugged a few of them, but one or two had a small intervention with me. I was the happiest I had ever been in my life and they were "worried about me." It actually put a strain on my relationship with one of my best friend's girlfriends. We talked and it's fine, but be careful.

What I learned:

-Don't tell your friends. Don't talk about this in RP terms with anyone unless you have a strong sense they will identify with it.

The Plates

I had never rotated through plates before, and it's been my main style of dating for almost the entire time I've been RP. Some stuck around for a while, some dropped. Some shit-tested me about dating, some came over for 20 minutes for a quick lay. When I had 0 plates I wouldn't care, or I would care and hop online or hit the bars to find a new one.

I even regressed and beta-ed out with one of them and it went nowhere. It was humbling after I had blazed a Tinder path, but that's a story for another time.

What I learned:

-AWALT. Fuck 'em good the first time and they'll be coming back for more.

-If a plate drops, don't be upset about it. They might come back, or they wont. Hold frame.

-Always have a few irons in the fire at the same time, but make your life so good that even if they all die you're still a happy dude with shit to do.

What I'd like to work on

My game is tight and improving, I'm lifting and dieting right and always improving. I've got a cool job, great extracurriculars, and long-term prospects for success. I've practiced enough that my frame is strong and I can smell a shit test a mile away.

But I'd like to work on my daygame. I've gotten much better at noticing and acting upon when a girl notices me, eye contact, all that, but I don't want to feel relegated to online resources or shitty girls at shitty bars to try to gain some more plates.

I'd like to get better at initiating conversation with a girl at the grocery store, or at a fast food joint, or even at the gas station. The every-day life game. I still feel a mental block of "hey, you're not supposed to talk to her right now!!"

Conclusion

I don't know where I'd be if I hadn't been unplugged and found this community. Probably still pining away wishing I had a girlfriend because a gf is obviously the answer to all of life's woes. Looking back, most of my success with women came from when I was being confident and RP-ish before I even knew what it was, and all my failures came from being a beta fuck.

I'm in a better place in life than I have ever been and I have all of you to thank.

Thanks for reading - I hope the news guys and the vets were able to take something away. It's been quite a journey and I'm ready to continue it.

-starting_oveRP