Intro

There is a wealth of information here on how to raise your SMV, become a better man, and attract the women that you want in your life. There isn't, however, too much that guides men on how to handle themselves if they decide that they want an LTR with a woman. This post presents to you the three biggest traps that exist in your LTR journey that turn you from the Alpha you have made into a servile beta.

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First off, it's necessary that we assume that you have thoroughly vetted this woman before you even considered being in a relationship with her. Always remember just how precious your commitment is, and that it's not to be given out lightly or without maximum considerations. That said, here are the umbrella perils that you need to be on the look-out for:

1. Unearned Commitment

Commitment as a whole exists in a Catch-22 zone. If you give it out too early, you will tank her attraction for you and be relegated to the same purgatory that the beta masses occupy; however, no woman of true relationship value will stick around indefinitely without a show of commitment from you to her.

Now, since you've already fulfilled your primary role in this equation (getting sex) it's now up to her to play her part and extract commitment from you. In an optimal situation, she's the one who brings up the issue of monogamy and commitment. The most common questions are, "What are we?", "Where is this going?" ,"Where do you see us X amount of time from now?"

These are all fair questions that you will inevitably be asked by most women at some point in your sexual relationship. When these questions come up, you will ask yourself one or all three of these questions :

• "Do I want to be in a committed relationship?"

• "Do I want to be in a relationship with this woman?"

• "What has she done to earn my commitment?"

Assuming you get to it, the third question is of paramount importance. What does she bring to the table as a girlfriend? Does she possess the qualities that you personally think are worthy of your committing emotional investment and time to?

You must be brutally honest with yourself--her-- in this scenario.Rise above the blurring smoke of the chemical rush that having great sex with a person releases in you and objectively assess whether or not a relationship with this woman is worth acquiescing to.

I use the term "acquiescing" because a relationship with a woman should only ever be something that you're open to, not something that is your outright objective when you first meet her.

When making your assessment--which, honestly shouldn't take too long because you know the answer in your gut-- avoid the trap of believing that you should automatically become monogamous with a woman after a certain point. This belief is one of the more insidious plants of gynocentric masculinity; a belief that women should be rewarded with more for doing less.

Remember this: always do what's best for you, because you can be damn sure she's looking out for her interests primarily.

2.: Comfort and Complacency

You're a few months into the relationship. Everything is going great. The sex is regular and fulfilling, the conversation flows, and the time together is something you look forward to.

Because we're human, any time we're placed in a situation where we don't have to be at our absolute best, our senses are dulled and our proficiency suffers. And make no mistake--this is exactly what a relationship is. Because, fundamentally, what you're doing is assuring her that you will take yourself off the market, close yourself to any further exploration of options for the time being, and commit yourself to her. A man's participation in the SMP, unlike a woman's, is voluntary and a choice. A woman, on the other hand, is always on the marketplace because there are always men out there who will hit on her and try to sleep with her.

By willingly taking yourself out of actively hitting on and sleeping with other women, an inevitable rot starts to set in on your skill. This is where most men fall by the wayside, because rather than keep themselves sharp and continue to lead in alpha ways--the majority of men simply start putting in less effort to be the optimal male.

The female imperative is to wear any alpha down to a beta in order to keep his resources for herself, and the natural easing of the gas that comes whenever you enter an LTR is the first big step in her advance to make you her BB. It's your job to actively halt her advance by refusing to let your alphaness diminish. It's simply easier to go along with her--and quite frankly, it's fun to let go of the reins--but when you let a woman steer the ship, you're asking for disaster. You're her captain;she's your first mate.

The truth of the matter is that you can never rely on a woman to direct the relationship in a manner that benefits you. To do so would be to go directly against her wiring and defy all things that make her a woman.

So continue to talk, flirt, tease, and attract women. Do whatever allows you to keep your alpha wits about you whilst still maintaining whatever your code of definition for what a relationship is.

3.: Not Knowing When To Cut Ties

Here is something to remember: every relationship ends. Every...single...one. Whether by death or otherwise, every single relationship has a point where it dies. This is life--accept it.

Given the times we live in, the likelihood of your relationship lasting till one of you kicks the bucket is sub-atomically small. The fact is, just about all your relationships will end by breaking up.

When to break up, then? There is a belief amongst most people that only major episodes warrant the end of a relationship; that, barring infidelity, or anything else monumental, a relationship should be worked on and continued ad inifinitum. This is false.

The fact is, when your relationship gets to the point where she no longer aids in improving your life and is instead a detriment in any shape or form--end it. This means that when you reach a point where your thoughts are more about salvaging and repairing a relationship rather than enjoying it--you need to walk away.

Don't give in to sunk cost fallacies or the ease of routine and the development of oneitis and scarcity mentality. A relationship should be treated like a car: any work you put into it is strictly to ensure that it serves you, the owner, better.

So what happens if you fall into these traps and don't leave? Well, the many cases of divorce rape and dead bedrooms are enough to persuade any man of the dangers inherent in being beta.

Avoid these pitfalls; stay alpha.

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Summary:

• Give commitment only when it's earned, and because it serves you.

• Stay sharp.

• Know when to walk away.