"Conditioning "


Don't try and explain your side of things.

Don't tell her why you feel a certain way. Don't ask for a second opinion. Don't use facts to back you up, don't try to flip the situation back at her, don't cite her past instances, etc. It's a waste of time.

She's always going to take her own side. To her she's always justified. To her she'll always be right.

And what's more, by telling a girl that you're miffed over something she's done (withholding sex, etc.) or over something she said (overly shit testing, etc.) you're showing her by that doing/saying those things she's got an effective way to break you, your frame and to get what she wants.

It makes things worse.

Instead, show her dissatisfaction through action.

These're all effective ways of condition her to act or speak a certain way and all serve to get your point across:

Be distant. Don't answer her calls and texts. When she asks what's wrong tell her everything's fine. Give her attention only after sex. Barely look in her direction. Take longer-than-average glances at prettier women. Speak monotone to her and with a natural inflection with other people. Use blunt short words when talking or texting her. Turn your body away from her when talking in public. Be vague when she asks questions like what'd you do today or where're you going. Smile at other women. Act excited to see everyone else.

And if that doesn't work, disappear completely, move on and if she chases give her an ultimatum. No bargaining. No hashing it out. Either this or nothing at all.

There's also dread.

When she goes off on long tangents or goes on and on with shit testing, just play with your phone.

Chuckle to yourself a bit like some prettier girl just messaged you something coy. Act like you missed what she said. Set your phone face down and away from her on purpose and let her hamster up the reason why. If you get a call turn the screen away and walk off to take it. Be vague about who you're talking to.

Basically just make whatever going on in your phone seem more important than her. Get this right and its foolproof. It's also good for dates that're going nowhere.

Lastly there's silence.

Chicks hate awkward silences and will typically fill the silence themselves.

That said, if it's your first time together her IOIs or intensions for you seem unclear, force an awkward silence, pull out your phone and let the silence bake.

If she caves and fills it, she's likely invested in you (i.e. she doesn't want you to lose interest). If 40 seconds pass and she still doesn't fill it or if you're the one constantly keeping the convo going or filling in those awkward silences then it's not like to go anywhere. Just something to keep an eye on.

-Om