Link to OP: https://archive.is/s3zt6

Summary: OP tells the story of how his wife had an "emotional affair" with her "loser ex who works in a liqueur-store", and he cant understand why she would do that when he is such a great husband.

Body:

I hurt her bad early on by writing in my journal I regretted marrying her and thinking it was a mistake and the grass was greener on the other side. I was depressed and wanted to die. I got treatment and slowly started feeling better. She uses this for all her hate and justification for her actions. She won't let it go.

This guy wrote bad things about her in his diary, so her cheating is justified...

She swears she didn't have sex with him as she cheated on her ex with him and lost her virginity to this slime ball. He has nothing going for him, and I have an education , job, great father , physically in shape, think I'm a good guy mostly ...

"Im a good guy and a great father, I dont understand why she would get the tingles from her slimeball loser ex?"

Well, I guess we can only speculate what would drive a women to behave so illogical...

So they have a 2 year old kid together as well so maybe this guy is somehow looking out for his kid (giving him the benefit of doubt) but listen to this one:

Does she deserve a second chance, or third, as she promised to cut ties with this guy last Christmas? After I said him or I , she had to think about it , and then lied for the next 6 months as she communicated with him and dated him while away.... they only kissed even though she got drunk and stayed the night at his place .

She got drunk and stayed the night but only kissed, he somehow believe this even though he in the same sentence states "she lied to me for 6 months"?

Her mom is a wreck addict and a chronic liar. I was shocked of her lies and how much she was starting to resemble her mother , whom she despises for her actions and damaging her life.

I dont want to say this by itself needs to be a deal-breaker but it sure is at least one red-flag...

Lessons learnt:

  • AWALT
  • Keeping a diary == cheating
  • Dont get married
  • If you give her a second chance, she will expect you to give her a third chance