Get rid of unrealistic social expectations to alleviate loneliness

Zombocom1911 · 2016-07-27T05:30:17+00:00

Meditation and centering, focusing on the feeling of being complete and whole, needing nothing, nature walks can assist this. Alone but not lonely.

oldredder · 2016-07-27T10:03:06+00:00

Society is always changing.

Perceptions are always off the mark from measurable reality.

Given all the feedback loops that form across various segments of societies and inter-communication over long distances between otherwise isolated societies I'd say there's no way to make realistic social expectations.

The best you can do is try to figure out the abstract of human nature as it will act in accordance with a set of conditions, do your best to document and predict those conditions where you go/will go, and good luck trying to figure out the exponential complexity of group-size instead of just how one person will act / should act.

As for the singular, personal feeling of being lonely it may be more than one kind of outcome all sharing the same name.

Some people need physical touch.

Some people need emotional interaction.

Some people need conversation just for sharing of ideas.

Some people need 'noise' from others nearby even if it's meaningless.

The list could get bigger but my point is a person who has any of those needs, or several together, could all easily 'feel lonely' when those things aren't happening.

There might even be 2 steps to it: what if a feeling of 'lacking' happens first (which happens a lot for so many things for so many people) but in addition, a feeling of sadness could additionally be attached / triggered if the thing 'lacking' has special importance? If that were the case even just realizing different values for what should be 'significant' could turn off loneliness and merely leave it as 'lacking'. And if that's the case furthermore, one can address what is 'lacking' by "getting more of __" or changing your life / self to need less of __ .

For the rest of us built to endure and thrive alone: being alone is actually the most peaceful, productive time. Most of the time I see my time with other people at least partly being a burden to me. Maybe something happens that's good/fun so it's OK in the end but maybe not and if that's the case I'd rather be alone more.

For me it's only a natural extension of such instinct that if women are going to be bitchy / dangerous I don't want to be around them either. And by further extension no matter how much I love the delicious smell of pretty girls and the great feeling of unloading my cum inside her in the end if she's a big enough bitch, crazy enough, etc., the sex isn't enough to make it worth it.

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2016-07-27T08:17:17+00:00

I just channel Dick Proenneke.

Title	Get rid of unrealistic social expectations to alleviate loneliness
Author	sir_wankalot_here
Upvotes	4
Comments	5
Date	July 27, 2016 4:37 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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