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23 September 2016 12:28 PM UTC
| Title | I fucked up. Don't be like me. |
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| Upvotes | 781 |
| Comments | 396 |
| Date | 23 September 2016 12:28 PM UTC (3 years ago) |
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"She then showed me her text messages with him, telling me that she wanted to be honest."
She didn't want to be honest, she was getting off on crushing you. Don't ever reply to a message from her again.
It's like the nuclear shit test. That will be the lasting impression this girl has about OP. Within a week or two she will be disgusted by him.
Don't ever let them see you cry.
Eventually she will when she gets tired of the "hot'n/cold"-game she plays, but for now I can see her being fascinated by how many times he'll let her twist the knife. She obviously enjoys submitting to alphas, he's just her emotional support-vehicle after she's been gorilla-fucked head first down in a couch allowing her to not feel slutty afterwards.
Wouldn't surprise me if she tried twisting the knife again, like a psychopath in training little girl slowly stabbing a puppy, seeing how many times she can regain its trust before it runs away.
This is exactly what is going on. I have never heard that pattern described more accurately. OP needs to be the one twisting the knife or he'll continue getting knifed in the future
it takes some time and lot of lurking in this sub to move from being played hot/cold games from them to playing hot/cold games with them.
Yeah, pretty much.
Most women will successfully lie and hide cheating and are experts at trying to turn it around on the guy and pretend he did something wrong to take attention off themselves.
Only reason she'd be doing this, is to prove to herself that he's weak and not worthwhile and yes, getting off on crushing him.
you said it. weak and not worthwhile, thereby rationalizing her behavior. amazing how that hamster works.
Maybe it's just like one of thoese things where you make yourself cry, and you're like, "Whoa, this is kind of interesting. Let's see if I can cry some more."
But with women maybe it's like having a logical and emotional personality inside them that's seperate and they can only do what they're emotional side tells them or they'll have a tourrettes like freakout or can't feel comfortable with themselves.
So maybe they meet another guy they want to hit it off with, so they have to try to force the guy they're with to break down or do something they don't like.
Maybe pussy whip them, ask them an opinion on something they know they won't like, etc. etc. but then that makes them cringe at the guy, then it gives them the justification to move on to the other guy on an emotional level.
Actually pretty smart in a way.
That would be great to be a guy and have control over our feelings and instincts not to mention people skills/etc. in that kind of way.
But that's just the male/female biology or whatever.
Eventually a boy must learn to never cry over a female unless a relative dies. Then he has permission to become a man.
The amount of wisdom in this one comment is blowing my fucking brain.
True that. Should be sidebar material.
Yup! It gave her pleasure for OP to read those messages.
I'd say the whole point of it was to see OP break.
You're right. If a girl is trying to win a guy she'll put in so much effort. She'll make her apartment spotless, pay for meals, delete texts and contacts. She left that crusty shit on the floor on purpose or at the very least was indifferent whether or not he sees it.
Ugly bitches are more ruthless than attractive ones in my experience. If they know they're losing a guy who's out of their league it's imperative that they crush him so that they don't have to face the fact that they're ugly and not worth as much as him. They have to feel that he's so beta that it was 100% a good idea to move on.
She didn't give a shit, she was already on some new dick.
All bitches can be ruthless doesn't mater if they are short, tall, fat, skinny, ugly, or attractive.
No indifference. She wanted him to see it. To ensure the message got through, she talked about the bruises on her ass.
Absolutely right. I guess part of me still hopes for the best, even after all this time and all the experiences. I still want them to be reasonable humans.
No. If you have been with girls as friends, you will know this sort of thing. Girls will tell you what they did before their boyfriend came to visit or their husbands came home. They are sharp creatures.
Yeah, I doubt she left two used condoms on the floor by accident
As soon as I read that, i knew that it was intentional. He is my question though; is she aware of what she was doing? I get rationalizing the text away as being "honest" but how can you do that and not know that you're doing it to fuck with the guy? I mean, leaving cum covered panties and used condoms on the floor is not normal when you have someone coming over(or at all really) so I have to wonder if this girl is a straight up psychopath who was completely aware of what she was doing and why she was doing it. I mean, the hamster can't be THAT strong, right?
We can't know whether she was conscious of this behavior or not (i.e. "I should clean up that stuff so...nah, I'll leave it out so it'll crush him")
From my (limited) experience, denial doesn't feel like denial. Her motives seem so obvious to us when we look at it from a 3rd party perspective reading an account of the situation. However, denial is her looking around the room, and the thought of "I should put that away" just never coming up. The thought simply does not occur. The brain subconsciously chooses not to focus on it and to focus on other things.
Hey Turducken, you understand a concept which maybe 20% of those on the forum are aware of but for some strange reason is never communicated in posts or on sidebar.
I call them "self-awareness blinders" and there was a great example a month ago where a girl was confiding in her friend that she cheated, but 2 weeks later in that same text message conversation, she writes "my boyfriend thinks I cheated but I didn't even let Chad near me"
The girl texting her female friend admitted to cheating and then 2 weeks later is saying it didn't happen (after being easily able to scroll up and read earlier in the conversation that she admitted to cheating).
The peculiarity is the fact that SHE TRUTHFULLY BELIEVED HER OWN LIE DURING THAT MOMENT, AND HER FEELINGS MADE IT "REAL".
I've been crushed by a girl who isn't evil, but only because she was not consciously aware of her behaviors. It's very important for people to learn more of the technical processes of hamstering because it's the same type of scary shit that can make her (out of the blue) 2 weeks after consensual sex call her parents and start crying on the phone saying how she was raped.
The hamster sounds like a cute, playful rodent but it's more like a black widow spider that you're sticking your dick into.
I get that but they were fucking used condoms. Then again, maybe she is just normally a filthy human being so this wasn't too much of a stretch for her.
It's actually that she just literally gives zero fucks about OP.
It really is outcome independence for her whether he finds out or not.
He's just a well-off beta chump, even for a 5, they are dime a dozen. Abundance mentality is built-in for women with regards to betas.
Not to mention that she's still on CC and in no hurry to lockdown provider like OP.
If she's a complete slob and her floor is littered with shit for her it was not noticeable.
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What? OP says: "I tried to convince myself that NAWALT and look at the result, she's not a princess after all" and you turn around and go: "hang on OP, don't lose hope! You can believe in the fairy NAWALT godmother! Not all women will twist the knife to make themselves feel better"
Fact: all women will twist the knife in this situation. Fact: he said he dated down in RMV, and FACT: a girl with lower RMV won't always be more faithful, but they will almost always be more vindictive. Like /u/PlanofAction said:
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
This shit right here. You can't help but love this sub. It's real as fuck.
Um, you know, sometimes people commit those kind of crimes to provide for their families. Way to look at the world as black and white you ignorant ass.
Interesting take, I hadn't thought of that. I guess it makes sense -- a dark look into the sadistic enjoyment of the female mind.
I think it boils down to wanting to see him crumble as a way to assure herself that she was right in cheating on him. If she can find out how truly weak he is, she can feel justified in leaving him.
I look at it like we're in a perpetual climb towards the top of a totem pole hierarchy (or food chain), a female one and a male one. If she's a 5 and he's a 7/8 banging 7 and 8's, her using his higher position on the male totem pole allows her to make a leap up the female one. We usually get what our confidence allows us +/- our health, her doing what she did is healthy behavior for a diminished animal in touch with her instincts climbing the female totem pole and should be expected. That's why you don't go into LTR's with mentally unstable women, they use the power you get them like a wounded animal in desperation would.
Yeah it's funny how women gain status vicariously thru associating themselves with high value men
100 like vote. When i saw the word honest and associate with women. My mind was like
BEEP BEEP BEEP AWALT. Theres no truth coming from women unless they want to crush you .
As read in many books like The Rational Male when women tranfer from covert to overt comm they are out of options and want you to gtfo.
100% this
to me, its about power for her
She left the condoms there on purpose. Was a set up from the get-go
Yeah. Agreed. She's a psychopath, she enjoyed twisting the knife, abusing you the way she likes being abused.
Tough love time. Pull your head out of your ass. That bitch is dead to you. Full stop. Zero contact from now on. If you don't respect yourself enough not to be her tampon, no one else will. You are only now approaching your prime, and there are literally billions of women in the world. Stop shopping for bargain bitches hoping they will reward your lack of standards. Get hard, motherfucker. Get your mind right.
Best piece of advice on here. Sounds daunting to start anew, but, /u/rugga123, you are in your prime.
One more thing that I'd add is that always be weary of how much you're investing emotionally. Sounds like you're good with money, you wouldn't put everything you had into a startup with an average idea. Don't do that emotionally either.
Really goes to show that just because some guys here read a few posts doesn't mean they apply it in real life.
being aware of your illness doesn't cure the illness
Much like studying psychology and crowd mechanics. The red pill is a consciousness raiser, but humans are still humans and everyone is susceptible to the tricks that still work on our minds.
Also Hollywood, stories, fantasy novels, video games - everything is forcing us to believe in the get married, have kids, and both people will love each other forever narrative - this shit is ingrained in our minds since we are kids. They are habits, forces of nature. There is nobody here that is not immune to it.
Being aware helps tremendously toward the will's decision making, but it won't override years and years of programming and evolutionary structure
Unfortunately, this shit will still happen, annnd you'll see some retard post this exact same thing.
OP said that there's no better lesson than experience, which is true, but I'd like to learn from other people's misery. If you can do that then you're eons ahead in the game.
I'd love people to learn from others success stories.
Hear now this, O foolish people, and without understanding; who have eyes, and see not; who have ears, and hear not:
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All this x 100.
The worst, most shitty human beings I've ever been with have been the fatties, the losers, the low-class trash scum of the earth.
Whatever it takes, only ever plate HB7 or higher. Only LTR HB8 or higher.
You are 26 years old. I'm 43 and I will tell you this: you are at a good point in your life to turn it around. Don't look back at this as wasted time, but as a lesson learned hard. This will not have been for naught. It will be one of those moments in your life that will help you become the stronger man you will be.
This! If you feel a strong urge to call her again, start lifting until the urge goes away or you get sick. If your dick gets so rock hard you can't stand it, go to the club and grind against some sluts.
Better now that you walked away. She could have taken half your stuff if she wanted to after marriage. Just focus on your life, 26 is a young age and you already have success that many cannot. It only gets easier from here
This man speaks the truth.
I know it might not feel like that, but really, you just hit the fucking jackpot. No children or assets to divide. It takes something radical like that to truly swallow the red pill. You will thank your stars in a few years after you dig yourself out of the emotional pit.
Stay strong, Lift hard. Good luck.
Definitely dodged a bullet. He has not a clue how bad it could have been.
A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from others mistakes.
The question is, will OP learn from those who have tied the knot, or (I just shuddered a bit) will he learn this lesson, but have a good crack at the marriage lesson later, but this time ignoring MRP instead of ignoring TRP?
The guy should definitely ignore MRP at this time. He needs PUA right up and to spin plates before he even considers an LTR.
Do this: Walk away with your head up.
You may feel like you've messed up but all you've really done is pay tuition in the school of hard knocks. Many of us have. Other posters will tell you all the other crap that could have happened (divorce wallet-rape, false assault charges, deadly diseases), but you're past it and in one piece.
Some lessons are harder than others, and I guarantee that your radar will be on and dialed in when you start to circulate again - you'll have no problem letting go with the next head case you run into (and there are plenty out there).
A good landing is one you can walk away from, a great landing is one you can fly the aircraft again. You're in better shape than you give yourself credit for and your wings are intact, but it will take a little while before you realize it.
You'll be back.
As a guy who had a 5 (5!) year relationship he walked away from at 26 (and wasn't married) it will suck for a little bit and then get much much better. Soldier on OP!
How do u get cucked by a chick you're not even dating/fucking anymore lmao? This chick doesn't give a single fuck about you and enjoys torturing you. Everything she did was to make you feel inferior and like a little butch. She left the condoms and panties on the floor for u to see them.
Honestly though, you live and you learn. This is what happens when guys think "Oh I'm Chad, my girls can never fuck me over or cheat on me like that. I'm Chad, I know how to pick them and I'm the greatest pimp this planet has ever seen, my girl is not like that. The rest if the women are,but mine is not because I'm the one who picked her. How can I be wrong? I'm THE Chad of Chads."
Fact is, you ain't shit. You're not special, you're not the best, your girl ain't shit, she's not special, she's not the best. You're nothing with all the money, "godly frame", nice cars, aesthetic physique and Chad looks, and great social calibration. She will make a cuck out of u just because she felt like it and you will look like a moron because you thought u were a unicorn.
And this guy says he is a venture capitalist. Did he front the cost for his niece's lemonade stand I guess?
Being a VC at 26 means he's playing around with Daddy's money. It's clear he hasn't ran into life's problems head-first yet. He'll learn (or won't).
Exactly, this Turbocunt is doing all of this for kicks. No idea why but you can be absolutely sure she's getting a high out of all this drama.
It is the same kick we get when a chick sucks our dick which is still wet from the love juices of another.
I doubt it since this implies we are winning while a girl doing this only means that shes losing.
A key that opens allot of locks is a master key, a lock that's opened by allot of keys is a shitty lock
We get a kick because it signifies that we're the master key. If women get the same kick out of it it means they enjoy being a shitty lock. Then again.. women love being insulted during sex so who knows.
Well women do not subscribe to that analogy. They think of themselves like Princesses and whom the whole world must unite and try to please. So if she is getting pleasure from a lot of guys, she
feelsknows she deserves it.Obviously they hamster it away and get some weird validation kick out of it. It's still remains an indicator of low value. Women don't get to define what makes them worthy. That is mens job to do, same as men don't get to define what makes a worthy man, that's for women to do.
That is the problem, they do not reflect. They do not see if they deserve what they get. Well they can't see is more to the point. They are supposed to let the bird that comes home with the biggest fish fuck them.
The only ones to blame are the male birds who continue to feed them fish. The betas.
http://tuckermax.com/stories/tucker-has-moment-of-reflection-ends-poorly/ is only fitting
I read that one too when it was posted last week. Nobody's special in this world.
lol @ telling you about her sore ass.
sometimes i just read TRP just to make myself feel better about how the worst thing i ever did was buy some nice dinners and send some boring text messages to chicks who weren't into me.
Seeing how bad others have gives you perspective. Not that it's great for anybody involved.
That's really fucked up though, showing shit like that to your boyfriend. Somethings wrong with that girl. Even nowadays I wouldn't do that to the plates I pump and dump.
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Remember that she wanted to get a rile out of you by telling you all that sexual shit. Think of what made that weekend so special. Her potential branch swing was away on trip. This made her scared that he would pump and dump her. Women fear being alone more than anything in the world.
Which is why she showed and told you all this hurtful stuff. I bet that guy showed her little to no emotion and made her believe he didn't care for her. When he left for that trip the feelings became unbearable for her. So she invites you to hedge her bets and decides that if she can't make him care about her, she definitely can make you care.
Thus she hurts you by doing all the things she did, in order to feel better about herself. In a way this is what you can expect from HB5's. They know their ugly, fat and undesirable. Can't compete with hot bitches and thus live in a world of constant uncertainty.
If you yourself are anything above a 7 then you should feel superior to her in every way. Look down on her low value sluttish behavior and become more alpha.
One of the best posts in the thread right here. Internalize this and forget the rest of the comments, nothing else to see here.
hate the guy? if he's not taking the pussy, then guess what... SHE'S GIVING IT TO HIM!
don't ever think it's your pussy when it will always (even in marriage) just be your turn.
my advice: she's dead... and her will reads, "my ex bf needs to fuck a lot of different broads in my honor."
now go get your dick wet & enjoy life.
Also, keep in mind, if he is aware of you at all, she has been telling him how awful you are. If he had half an idea of her treatment towards you he would probably be disgusted by her unless he's a total pussy whipped faggot. Just as she's playing you, she's playing him as well. Honestly, I'd feel bad for him if I were you because he might be next if she can trap him in a relationship.
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Don't try to shift agency; you're not a victim. You let her do this. Learn from your mistakes.
Yeah he got cheated on twice and still stayed with her. It should have ended it right there and then. Instead he goes crawling back like a lost puppy.
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this is an amazing analogy.
"You know, it's funny; when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags." - Wanda the Owl, BoJack Horseman
Flaming flamingos did you just come up with that on the spot?
Your mission should always be your priority. Take it from an old married guy, take that pussy off the pedestal, quit trying to be captain-sav-a-ho:
Be awesome and reject low quality women for LTR material. Only the highest quality should be up for consideration, and rejected the moment they fuck up. Millions of high quality women out there. Go forth and slay.
It's true but just burn this into your brain HARD for next time if a girl pulls this. There are special snowflakes out there, i have an amazing trusting wife and love my marriage but if she were to ever pull any shit like that i would be done.
doesn't matter. never be so attached to something so much you can't walk away from it within 30 seconds.
You're still making excuses.
Should've ended the first time she cheat on him.
You're not a victim. You caught feelings. It happens.
Had a similar story years ago. Chick cried to me to come comfort fuck her after I broke up with her. Problem she was back in another dude's apartment by next morning. So more than likely she left to his immediately after I left her place.
I was an emotional tampon. I let myself be an emotional tampon. Just learn from this and move on.
Hey man, think of the positives like others said. You got out relatively early, and most importantly you got out. It's not like everyone who swallowed the pill is infallible, but recognizing your mistakes and vowing to do better is what seperates you from the rest.
As a side note, try not to let this ruin your view of women forever. Go out, do what you need to do, but if you're ultimately still looking for someone loyal, just remember there's someone out there who is, even if 99% of women aren't. Maybe improve your vetting process, don't let on to how much money you have, and just use this whole ordeal as a learning experience.
Oh yeah, the good old NAWALT. What the fuck are you even doing on this sub?
What kind of bullshit is that? You're telling him not become jaded and to keep believing in the existence of his unicorn even though 99% aren't. Those are great odds in his favor, aren't they?
There is no "one" out there for him. They're all the same, driven by the same biological programming. Each with different life experiences, but the same female mind. There are NO LTR worthy chicks out there. Give up your blue pill fantasy.
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Dude one of the main points of this sub is AWALT. do you even hear yourself?
Just because it's written as a subreddits main point doesn't mean it's right at all. How can anyone possibly be ok generalizing 3 billion people as the same? That's retarded, for lack of a better term.
Dude if his goal is to find someone loyal which he made it sounds like in his post I'm just pointing out that he can still achieve his goal, even though like you said 99% are self centered shits
Loyalty would require not being solipistic and self centered. Women are loyal, to themselves.
Wow dude, you're young and not have to go through divorce to learn this shit. Life is only going upwards for you from now on.
You got to learn one of most important lessons in life for almost no cost. Consider throwing some party to your friends and cheers to life.
No. No fucking way. This has to be a parody. When I read this, my jaw dropped.
Don't bother pretending you have learned anything from TRP. The next step is you watching him fuck her while you cry into your hentai pillow.
The only reason I'm being this harsh is that your post is just a creative writing project. No person could be so clueless, and no person could withstand the consequences that such a mindset will produce.
Well written, I suppose. Lesson learned: don't anybody be like this guy.
yea, I guess this is how cuck fan fiction must look like
I can't be the only one who finds something fishy here, in addition to the cunt. Sorry, not buying it.
It hits every hot button issue. If it's to good to be true it probably is.
No one is selling shit here.
You would be surprised how weak men are today. I cried for a long time in my first break up and sent cringe worthy letters on my next 2. The degree which she is trying to turn him into a sexless cuckold is also not unusual
The great testosterone shortage of the 2010s, what a wonderful time to be alive
it is, for the guys that are woken up, more sex for masculine men because of that shortage.
you know what is fucking strange bro... why are all of our stories almost similar, that's a mind fuck man i did the same shit, I WROTE A FUCKING POEM I'M NOT EVEN A POET.. like what the fuck... i'm actually really concerned bro this has me really mind fucked how can most of us experience and do the same thing, is this what social conditioning is? i literally wrote this bitch a fucking poem bro, confessing my " undying love and gratitude for her " i feel so fucking stupid man, i mean i'm over it now but just seeing that other guys went through the same thing has me feeling some type of way
addendum - fuck the fucking elites.. the pieces of shit that programmed humanity and destroyed masculinity it's fucking pathetic and disgusting. i'm still baffled by that even now.. i'm not even a poet and i was thinking to myself " maybe if i spill allllll my emotions out in this poem to express my love for her, she will realize how much of a good guy i am and we will live happily ever after :). pathetic.
yeah I do not think I can believe this story. I have never ever stayed two seconds with a girl that I even suspected that she might have thought about making out with someone else. and if one of my boys did, I would give him so much crap that you could bet that he would leave her just to shut me up.
I don't think you can be that successful in that business arena and this dumb in relationships. maybe a super successful IT guy, or something more isolated or siloed, but not with a managed funding group. you just have to be a lot more clever with relationships and almost paranoid to make that kind of job work.
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Oh I don't think this is so unbelievable..
I knew a girl once who had the outward appearance of the sweetest cutest thing ever. But she had a hobby, which was trying her best to get guys to catch oneitis over her, and then feed it, without any mercy, and totally cuck them. I mean in a way they were just beta orbiters, but she made sure they went as crazy as possible. Some of these guys I'm sure were borderline suicidal, but she didn't give a shit, and these guys couldn't even see through it, they were totally blinded and simply couldn't see what she was doing, they all stupidly thought they had a chance, and thought that she secretly loved them but for some reason it just wasn't possible for them to get together.
When you think about the amount of people she mercilessly chewed up and [eventually] spat out, all while maintaining this "Butter wouldn't melt" persona, you realise women don't give a shiiiit how the other person feels, as long as they're getting what they want, in fact they feed off it. Its allll about them. And as far as they're concerned, if you're stupid enough to fall for it, its your own fault (which in a way, is true, but still...).
Once you find a girlfriend for real and not the Internet you'll understand, senpai.
I believe it. I've been in a similar situation.
I don't want to recount my entire history to you, but it's pretty fucking rough. Similar, but it's what turned me to trp. Even then I still used to put up with some retarded shit.
you have to remember a lot of young males are coming from a mindset against the one they were raised with. For instance, a young male might try and think more sex-positive in order to adapt to the world and get his needs met. It's all new and all confusing. Some see flags sooner than others.
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Benefit of the doubt? What doubt?
1) It's creative writing, and well done.
2) IF it's real, then he said he already knew better. There is no room for doubt. He had read TRP and he knew AWALT, but he did it anyway.
If we're not harsh with him he will just repeat the same mistakes, or worse yet, other men on here will behave like him. There is NO reason for us to coddle him.
He came here to seek validation that he had fucked up, and he got it.
Lingerie crusty with cum, used condoms nearby....WAT
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His point was more : who doesn't clean up things like this, especially before inviting someone else in your bedroom ?
Dirty sluts aren't called dirty sluts for their well upkeep of their homes.
That's what the word slut meant in the past; a messy or disorganized woman. That's all.
My guess she secretly wanted to him to find that, like she was planning to reveal all this shit to him in the first place. To completely break him and prove to herself he was the beta she thought he was.
Something fucked up like that.
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She felt guilty so she went on to show him explicit sexual text messages that would otherwise infuriate her if the tables were turned?
Nah I don't buy that. This girl was in a vulnerable state when she branch swung to the dreadlocks guy. He's probably playing her and she's starting to catch on. In order to feel more secure about herself she wanted to get an emotional reaction out of OP.
Remember that the only reason they hung out at her house was because this guy was out of town. I wouldn't be surprised if she took out her frustration about being fucked and chucked on OP. Girls can be childish, pity and sadistic like that.
i've left wine glass pairs in the sink and empty condom wrappers on the floor just to show plates where they stand.
i wouldn't do that to anyone but a fuckbuddy though. when he came over to cuddle, he was already in her frame, and then she made sure she'd hatefuck his out-of-control emotions.
this was my thoughts exactly. she wanted to get a reaction out of him this was done on purpose.
wait she wanted to hate fuck him? what?
If it is true, then sounds like she left them thier intentionally.
Fuck her habits. She wanted those to be found.
There is absolutely no excuse for condoms anywhere than the trash on on your junk
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I hope you know that doesn't make you "cool" or alpha, it makes you a dirtbag.
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Na, it just proves you've learned nothing. When one of those girls finds that condom and impregnate themselves with it, it won't be me they hurt.
That's the problem I've noticed on this sub, more and more children who think irresponsible = alpha because not giving a fuck is part of the mantra. There are some things you should give a fuck about, like leaving your sperm around some sluts house, being hygienic, and bad grammar. Looks like you don't have any of those covered.
Occasionally in the dog's stomach...
Yah, amazing isn't it. The twat didn't even have enough respect for him to hide the evidence when she knew he was coming over. What a cunt. He's hurtin' now but he's lucky he didn't tighten the noose any further with this prize.
They were probably crusty with her pussy juice
This post makes me sick. Get up off your ass. Stop being a pussy. This wouldn't have happened if you weren't being a giant vagina. Whoever this slut is is clearly just a slut. Turn those things you think are feelings off, do some crunches, hit a punching bag and get on with your life. I'm gunna leave the vomit here on my screen to remind myself to never be like you.
That's what we need around here instead of feel good bullshit.
Dude hamsters hits easy into committing to a 5 with obvious problems and red flags that he recognizes from the start. 5 proceeds to abuse him since she's well aware that she ain't shit and this dude just be dumb. OP then find out that he got cucked by an unattractive bum ass dude and is surprised. Considering the fact that hes young, run his own business, is fairly successful with HBs, and decided to commit to a damaged 5, it's only right that he gets the reality check from the 5 fucking another 5. He didn't never been there in the first place.
It's actually usually the 5's who pull shit like this. They've got something to be angry about and they take it out on men. Also they are at larger odds of being dumped and thus widowed.
She did you a favor. Learn and grow dude-
Exactly fellow bro. OP needs to suck it up and hit the gym. Wake up up the next day and hit the business with focus.
I thought I'd do a quick afternoon scour to see what's happening and fuck me I feel sick. OP, I wanna slap you and man cuddle you at the same time WTF!
The deprivation of it all is palpable. My brother, for fucks sake make sure you learn from this...pls
Just suck his cock for him plz
Is there a Reddit for homos...
Na, you guys are not that welcome everywhere?
Thanks for saying this - I can't believe what I just read. OP went over to her house, drunk with liquor and sadness at her being with other dudes - he already fucking knew! - but still goes over to cuddle her because she can't sleep alone now that bum dude ravaged her in a way he never had the balls to.
If she says that you can't do something during sex, your doing it wrong, and you show them that yes, in fact, you can (so long as they love it, if they push you off find a new chick). Your girls should be having such a good time they can't even respond if you ask them a question. They'll just grab you and moan. Leave them shaking.
Anyways, after that the dude cries at seeing the condoms AND STAYS?
New level of wow. I can barely believe it. He needed to learn this lesson. Badly.
OP, please learn from this. I thought my dad stories were bad. Fuck man.
Edit: no either. Just show them that you can. They'll love it. Just crack a joke, bring her into your world, and fuck her like you're going to war. (El P inspired)
This advice brought to you by the author of "How do I go about getting 18 - 21 yr old girls to notice me?"
Physician, heal thyself.
The OP almost experienced real love but was disappointed at the moment it became possible.
Be happy, you will never be him since you can't fall in love in the first place.
Na. I'm happy cuz I used to be that. Pulled my ass outta there. Just like he can and will.
Good news. You're in your 20s, and you didn't marry her.
So you walk away with all of your money and success, scott free. The only thing you've lost is some piece of shit girl, who by your own admission was a 5. And a cheating slut. And a lazy ass. I mean, she doesn't even clean up used condoms and dirty underwear off of her floor after sex? How fucking lazy can you get? That's just living in squalor.
You didn't lose much. There are 3.5 billion women on Earth. You can't spit out your window without hitting another woman who's better than this one in every single way.
That's really the lesson here. No woman is unique or special. Some are blondes, some are redheads, but the pussies are pretty much interchangeable. And as much as we'd like to believe otherwise, the personalities are pretty much interchangeable, too. They're all like your ex to some extent.
Any girl you're staring at right now, there's another one that's better in every single way out there. You're young. In the future, don't commit. Just fuck half a dozen girls at any given time, non-exclusively, and swap them out when you get bored or if any of them get to be too much trouble. You'll be fine once you get a few more fucks with better women under your belt.
This. When my ex left me I was devastated. I drank heavily for months and was in a very dark place. Eventually I found TRP. I started taking care of myself, spinning plates, and I was happy. OP dodged a bullet, and now has a great opportunity in front of him.
She didn't clean up because she wanted OP to stew in the guilt of having fought with her.
Some thug with dreadlocks. Man, the chick in question must have been a land whale.
Its amazing how women feel the need to totally humiliate a man. And thats what this was. Condoms and cum dont just lay around. You dont show sexts just to be honest. She wanted to crush your spirit.
This should be higher. Internalize this OP. She wanted to crush your spirit!
This will become the best thing that ever happened to you.
One day, a fat man decides to step onto a scale to see what his weight is. The numbers scramble steadily upward, and after a moment the counter reads "355 lbs". In that moment, the fat man is astonished, angry, and ashamed all at the same time. He steps off the scale and kicks it in disgust.
His feelings are entirely legitimate. But what matters most now is if he understands how he got here.
If he is wise, he will realize that it was his lifelong eating habits that led him to this moment. It is not the scale's fault he is an obese mess - the scale is merely describing the result of his neglectful habits.
If he is a fool, however, he will only remember the moment he stepped on the scale.
You see, memories that have strong feelings attached to them are the memories we tend to recall the most readily. So it's easy to look at these one or two moments with your ex and give them more significance than they're actually worth.
The fight with your fiance and your man-boobed cuddle session - that's you stepping on the scale. It's not the cause of your woes, but merely the events signaling to you that something is wrong. But since you have such strong feelings attached to those two events, you will be tempted to fixate on them.
Never lose sight of your real problem: your self-neglect. You haven't been lifting, haven't been developing your stoicism, haven't been pursuing interests outside of work that give you pleasure and purpose.
Instead, you deposited all of your hope for happiness into a single investment. And what's worse, you deposited it all into a single investment with known market instability. As a venture capitalist, you know how insane that is.
Concentrate on your work. Get your ass to the gym. Pursue non-woman interests that bring you happiness.
Bitches aren't the source of happiness - they are an inevitable side-effect of being happy already.
Thank you so much man, you don't know how life changing this is for me.
In my modest opinion OP doesn't need any advice from us, he knows exactly what he should be doing but he just couldn't and can't commit to it.
OP you're feeling like shit and there's nothing wrong with it. Actually you should feel exactly the way you are feeling.
OP suffered from this situation in an unnatural way, for if he was balanced he would have never put himself in that situation or tolerate that disrespect.
This situation turned into a trauma. Every trauma we suffer in our adult life is the reflection of a trauma that we have lived in the past and buried deep in our memory. Something in this story triggered old memories of his childhood, he probably was neglected and stuff by her mother (I was in the same situation).
OP consider this: embrace your feeling and let it expand, don't fight it. You have to resolve the multiple trauma of your childhood first.
Suggested book: The completion process
He is getting piss drunk like a paddy mc cracker. He does need advice.
Dude that is fucking wisdom right there.
"Fucked up"????
I missed the part where you got her pregnant, you got a STD, married her anyway, then divorced, and you lost all your business, and custody.
Suck it up buttercup, you'll be fine. Only thing that broke was your expectations... and those bruises? That's your ego. No worries, back to lifting, making $$$, and move on.
Your goals in life are long term... her's are short term... she found a flake with short term spontaneity... get back on your mission. There'll be plenty of futures 'ones'...
I'm a woman and I don't know if I'm allowed to post here, but this made me so upset. Sometimes you guys are way off when it comes to girls and their reasoning, but this time, most every guy here has been right: she wanted to crush you.
Whoever this dread guy was made her feel insecure, and she ran to old faithful for comfort. She probably didn't bother cleaning up the crusty panties and the condoms because she didn't plan on having you over (i.e. she wasn't thinking of you, or your feelings, or taking your meet-up seriously at all. You were the human equivalent of reaching for quick, comforting junk food when you feel like shit about something: cheap, easy, available, and you know exactly what you're getting. She was using you for a boost of security/comfort/affirmation that she's desirable/affirmation that her life isn't actually as messy as she's afraid it is), it was an afterthought. You came running, then you freaked out about the crusty panties and gave her yet another ego/security boost. That's when the little devil on her shoulder told her it would be fun to twist the knife a little more and read you the text messages. Any person who is serious about "being honest" with an ex they're reconnecting with will be on MUCH better behavior than this girl was from the get-go. It's one thing to disclose that you've been with another person during a breakup, it's another to rub your nose in the steaming pile of shit that is the details of their sex life. For the record, she's also setting you up to be the "psycho ex who won't leave her alone" if things get back on track with ol dreads and you have understandably mixed your feelings up in her once again.
Never ever talk to this girl again. Don't talk to anyone who knows her. Cut her off cold, hard, and complete. Don't even give her an explanation. When she contacts you in two months for another ego boost because she realizes ol dread is a complete loser who treats her like doo-doo, don't respond. Stay gone. She will understand why and she will respect you for your firmness and it will teach her something about how not to fuck around with other peoples' emotions because sometimes you lose them if you do that. But only if you never talk to her or see her again. Seriously. If you see her 30 years from now at a restaurant with her grown ass children, don't speak to her. Have some self respect. Have HEAPS of self respect. In 5 years, you'll literally be able to date whomever you want. You seem like a decent person.
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A cold chill just ran down my spine. Do you have a lawyer lined up? Better chase up what to do if the Police turn up at your door / workplace
I used to feel terrible reading these kind of stories. Let me give you some great advice. Getting sex to women even a 3 is easy, getting a good man to commit? Nearly impossible. You sound like you got your game of life figured out (career, success and head screwed on right). It may not some like it now, but all of those pay high dividends. My advice is simple. Walk away, delete her number and never contact that women again. No games, no stringing her along and vice versa. Walk. She will blow you up even of shes already with another guy. That doesn't matter. You matter, and only you can take care of yourself not her. They are extremely fragile. That guy who's rocking her in bed? Don't get caught up in that nonsense. What do you think she was telling her friends when she met you? It's nothing man, trust me. Trust trp. Go no contact and I promise that you'll be the guy who alpha widowed her. Every guy who meets her (even this new guy) will have to meet some unrealistic standard (my ex was a venture capitalist, he was cut, he was great in bed...blah). Forget about her, let time unravel her own damages that's not your problem.
I'm going to apply some 2x4 therapy to the side of your head. Take it in a positive light. I'm doing this because I care about guys who put themselves in danger because of onetitis, not because I'm disgusted with you.
What.the.bloody.fucking.hell man!
If she did this to 1 guy, valid or not, do you think she wouldn't use the 'rape card' on you?
This is about whether you care about your life's work, and where women and female companionship stand on your list of life priorities.
Here's the deal: a guy who runs a fund can have his work destroyed if a woman accuses him of rape.
It doesn't matter if you win your case in court. By that time enough of your investors will have fled that it will be over. And try starting a new fund when searching your name could dredge up the charges labelling you as a rapist. Many people will not want to touch anything involving a guy charged with that, no matter whether he was proven inncocent later or not.
Look at these articles and think long and hard:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/11912748/Guilty-until-proven-innocent-life-after-a-false-rape-accusation.html
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2257950/John-Leslie-says-false-sex-claims-ruined-TV-career-left-suicidal.html
If you know that a woman has accused a guy of anything: rape, assault, "financial abuse" or any other SJW-inspired crap ...
run the other fucking way. Have nothing to do with her. Full stop.
This is just basic RP Male Self Defense 101.
Advanced lessons to follow.
Advanced lesson no. 1:
Women want to be with a man who values himself, and who puts his life success first. This is part of being the Jerk Women Love.
If a woman sees you being with a woman who has used the legal system to wreck a man's life, it's huge DLV. And even with the accuser woman you're thrying to White Knight- she'll hold you in contempt for being stupid enough to be with her, for not valuing yourself and your life's mission enough.
OP this is huge. You are too young. Look out for number 1, no woman is worth terminating your career over.
Put the bottle down, and sleep it out. The more you drink the harder its gonna be when you go lift tomorrow ;).
And you should go lift. Make some new friends at the gym while you are there.
Then once you are feeling a bit more stable, take GLOs advise and write a post for TRP.
Im dying to learn more about venture capitalism, and how to manage a fund already!.
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That's the problem isn't it? You invested in her ability to make you happy, yet you have zero control over her desire to do so because you have zero game. You make yourself happy, which makes you an attractive person to be around so you don't have to fuck around with parasitic issue-riddled girls. You also mentioned that you've banged hotter chicks, sounds like you were counting on her self esteem being low so she'd be low-maintenance and you could cut yourself some slack.
Don't lower the standards you have for yourself, they will punish you for that.
Tell me about it. I've been there, so have most everyone else here.
Im just throwing some practical applicable advice your way.
I can also echo the sentiment from others that in the long run you need to define your happiness from within, not from how other ppl feel about you.
I think the best advice comes from Chumbawamba
I'm serious about wanting a post about venture capitalism and how to get into it, by the way!
Honestly, two years from now you will laugh about this shit. You're a 26 year old venture capitalist. If you stop putting so much energy into thot 5s, and focus that energy on number one, you will slay in a year or two. Look at women as a pattern of behaviors, and not special snowflakes. Once you see the commonality in their actions, it becomes comically easy to predict what they will do/feel/think.
As far as I'm concerned, you lucked out by not marrying this girl.
Did you feel extra bad because you thought you were saving a broken HB5 bitch while you were a 7-8 and she should be grateful? That she can't recognize value, like a kid flushing a diamond ring down a toilet?
These sluts are so thick. Emotional vampires, letting you suffer while she got her cuddles. She probably thought that you were even, since you were there holding her and therefore were forgiving and understanding, and that your rage wasn't real, otherwise you wouldn't be there. That you'd get over it. She felt bad that you were crying because it made her feel guilty, and she didn't even consider feeling bad for not feeling bad about your suffering.
You make an exception with an LTR if you're red-pilled. It's someone who's worth the sacrifice and the risk (because the risk is always there). And you think the expected value of the relationship is fidelity and happiness. Thing is, even a 1% probability of cheating is fatal, because on a long enough timeline, it only needs to happen once, and it will. The value of that 1% is a negative infinity.
Piggy backing on that point, I can only think of a SINGLE woman in my life who has had the ability to be empathetic or even think about how their actions might affect my emotions remotely. And no it isn't my mom or one of my sisters.
Girls always whine about how guys are dicks but in reality most of the men in my life are really responsive and either care about my wellbeing or don't and they prove it with their actions. With women it's always the latter and it's harder to see because blood is going to your other head.
Man the fuck up and don't ever acknowledge her existence again. Think with your head and not your dick, no girl will ever have the emotional capacity you expect of her or return your "love".
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Well it's not a rational decision certainly. As they say, "she's not yours, it's just your turn."
Wow, brutal story. I feel for you, man.
On a side note: who are these people that leave used condoms next to a bed? That's just plain unsanitary!
dirty skanks with no self respect
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You didn't fucking just get up and laugh your ass off and leave?
Dude this WHORE was getting thunderfucked just minutes before you got there and she's probably getting off on some nerdy poor retard this very second. SHE IS A GRADE A WHORE OF THE DARK LORD OF SAURON DUDE. THERE IS NOTHING BUT DEATH FROM THIS RETARDED SLUT
In 5 years she'll have 3 bastards from 4 different fathers, be fat as fuck and old as a hen.
In your future if you keep lifting and making good investments is women begging to be your wife. Of course you'll vet the shit out of them now and not treat them like a snowflake again.
Or this is all just made up bullshit and I took the bait holy fuck
OP, this was pathetic, full stop. Now that I've gotten that out of the way, read the sidebar especially Rollo's stuff (his "best of" series is some of the most profound shit I've ever read.). Read the books No More Mr. Nice Guy and Models. If you ever feel angry again go to the gym and take it out on a bag, then get lifting. You can't give a fuck about stupid shit if you're physically too tired to do so. It sounds like you have the rest of your life together so really you have nothing to be ashamed about. Hitting the bottle when angry solves nothing and turns you to emotional sludge(like a woman). Since you have some issues with your emotions, I'd recommend the work "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius. So get out there and snap out of it OP.
This is classic AWALT. Just lurking around here more would have avoided this massive beta slip bro.
Why I check TRP at least twice a day. It really helps staying in the clear.
Everyone makes mistakes,but you should learn from them.It seems that you dont learn from your mistakes.I think in the near future you will repeat the same mistake.
Stick around kid, there's glory to be had on the other side of this thing. There are fringe benefits as well. Once we get your head straight and after you've plunged into the darkness of masculine self-actualization, you will find yourself in a far better place than had you not experienced this rude awakening.
For now, deep throat the sidebar . Sort by top all time, and read.
Let the posts digest, taking a little time in between to consider. Get in the gym. Today.
The rest of us will chuckle at the future dread Nancy will feel when she crosses future Rugga's path. By that point your shit will be so tight and your game so on point that you won't even have ill will towards her. You'll see that she's operating on such a lower plane of existence that you almost pity her. Almost.
Dig in and follow the path. Your life will never be the same. Decide today, this morning, right now that you are reborn. It begins here.
You already got a ton of great advice but I'm going to add some more based on my recent breakup. I'm older than you and dated a girl for nearly 3 years. We were supposed to get married this summer. I broke up with her beforehand.
Most of us guys find at least one woman in our life that we just fall for. We know she's not the sexiest, smartest, best... whatever. But we fall. The chemicals in our brain say, "This is the one. I'll do anything for her." And then we turn into beta pussies. I was hooked like this with my now ex-fiance. Frankly, I was still hooked on her for several months after. It took a while for me to overcome each of the instances of missing something about her, wanting her back, and blah blah blah. It's just the chemicals. Ignore them and they will go away. As they do, you'll start to see her for who she really is.
What helps that hard grind back to reality? - I asked my closest friends and family what they really thought about her. It took some prodding to get real answers from them, but everyone had something to say. Their critical words helped me to realize what I was either blind to or consciously ignoring.
- Date! You need to get out and date some girls. Quick flings or long weekends. Whatever. Just learn more about other women. My current g/f is better for me in EVERY area that the ex and I had problems. It's insane. She's really showing me that I was ignoring a lot of red flags. - Get out of the house. Do not sit at home sulking. Especially if that's where all your memories are. Change the furniture. Change the colors. Heck, move into a new pad if you need to. But drop those memories that are anchoring you. - Travel! Get the endorphins going by getting out of dodge. - Ignore her. She knows she owns you. She's counting on it. Begging you for comfort while she has cum filled panties on the floor is one of the most disrespectful things I've ever heard! She doesn't give two shits about you. All she cares about is how your bitch ass makes her feel while her Chad is out of town. Think about that! Do NOT accept any calls or messages from her at least through the rest of the year.
Hope this helps man. PM me if you want any other personal thoughts. You WILL get through this. 6 months from now you'll be in the middle of a date thinking - man this is definitely an upgrade. I'm nowhere near Boston, but if I were I'd buy you a pint man.
Don't get too down on yourself; most guys on this subreddit have had similar experiences. It takes a great awakening for men to internalize TRP truths and these awakening are always incredibly painful. For me I started dating the best girl in the world; at the time I remember feeling so lucky this perfect girl wanted to date me (objectively speaking HB6). Life was pure ecstasy. I found out months later that she was fucking my good friend and a couple other guys. That sent me on a downward spiral until I hit the lowest point in my life. For months I mopped around depressed, couldn't concentrate on school, never went out, couldn't eat etc... But looking back I'm incredibly grateful for the experience. My friend showed me TRP after the breakup and everything clicked; having the girl I loved fuck my best friend was the awakening I needed. Three years later I have a great relationship with a women because of the principles I've learned here. TRP gives you the tools you need to have happy interactions with women. But until a life changing event happens (like the girl you love fucking other men) you'll never really understand the principles discussed on this site. I know it sucks to find out your special snowflake is a whore but this truly is a good thing; one day you'll be grateful that she gave you this experience. This experience will change the way you interact with women forever; you're no longer blinded by the "disneyfied" world that mainstream society pushes on people. You know the truth. And the truth is the most powerful thing in the entire world
You know that every letter you wrote, you might as well have just wrote "I'm your beta bitch" over and over and over again. Every little meaningful trinket you bought her had 'beta bitch' stamped on it. Every time you came to her house to cuddle her to help her sleep, your shirt said 'beta bitch'.
Dude, stop being a beta, and stop drinking. This slutbag definitely isn't worth it.
Tomorrow is going to be the best day of your life, because you're going to be without her. Swallow the Red Pill, and move on.
"Men are the “romantics pretending to be realists” and women; vice versa." - Rolo
Just a few more letters and gifts and you can qualify as a stalker.
Dude, this woman was absolutely enjoying torturing you. You want to know the end game of all this? You working the video camera while pimple face fucks her raw and you sob hysterically. Then when they are done you can clean up your princess while they make fun of your dick. That is EXACTLY how this girl is treating you. Are you unable to see that?
Almost all women like rapey, rough sex with lots of bruises- so long as they perceive in the hamster mind that he is high value.
You thought differently, and that is why you are so upset. That is probably also why she took such delight in showing you. This is her way of saying fuck the next girl harder if you want her to stay around.
Look up Archwinger- every unhappy married woman is a rape victim. Weirdly enough, your weak, shallow thrusts are what women perceive as "rape" and not the choking, biting, bruising, and manhandling. She thinks of you as a rapist and that is why she was getting off on torturing you! Think about it, and then move on.
You are in a much, much better position to find and create a much better relationship but why do that? Read up on Plate theory my brother. That is your short, mid, and possibly even long-term solution.
If you ever talk to her again you're a faggot. Get on with your life Christ you are 26 the world is in the palm of your hand. Feel shitty for a few days but the quicker you start having new experiences and women the sooner the pain of this experience will fade away.
Go to a museum. Go to a concert. Go fishing. Do different shit. Get out and experience life. By yourself, but always invite someone you respect and if they accompany you, great. You'll be ok. Oh and you better hit the weight room. Whiten your teeth. Practice your smile. Buy a new suit. Get a fresh haircut. Clean yourself up. Don't mope around in sweatpants eating ice cream like a female would. Conquer this.
Wow, this really reminds me of my own story when my exgf broke up four years ago. Well, I was 19 and not 26 years old but that doesn't matter, most of us have to go through such an experience to learn that every single one of those hoes are like this.
My ex always wanted to meet up with me right after she had been together with the drug abuser she replaced me with a month earlier. She then told me about how he gave her vine and she was totally drunk and did everything for him.
LOL, when I think about it know, 4 years later, it really shows that this bitch wanted to destroy me completely.
Then three month after the breakup I got a phonecall from her:
"Hey, it's Dilan."
"Hey, what do you want?"
"My boyfriend is at work at the moment and I am alone. He comes back in four hours and I wondered if I could use you to fill the gap!?"
"Are you fuckin kidding me? No, just leave me alone. I had a good week and I dont miss you anymore. Just don't message me again!"
"Well, okay. But please imagine how he will fuck my throat tonight, okay? I will be his dirty whore while you will be all alone. Have a nice day."
It's so obvious now that this sardistic bitch that I thought would be a unicorn wanted to slaughter the shit out of me.
Lol the fuck, she really said that?
That's one big internet warrior right there, had she said that to a man in his face she could expect a fist through her teeth.
Well, she said it in german of course, but yeah I translated it literally.
That's the most fucked up thing I've heard. And I thought I heard women say some horrible shit..
Damn bro
I'm thankful that she said it because only such a hard truth was able to open my blinded bluepilled eyes.
I'm blessed that I learned it the hard way with only 19 years of age - no kids, no divorce, just a few tear drops.
Thats the spirit, take a positive spin. Still, I hope you burned her good. One of those classic hard-next/permanent ghostings.
Wow that's like borderline cucked man. The only thing you can do now is to cut this girl out of your life and work more on yourself.
You sound like you have emotional issues of your own if you're going back to her drunk and holding her as she tells you she's been screwing some lowlife.
I've been there man, albeit not as bad as this, but you can recover. Accept you fucked up but don't allow yourself to do it again.
Just make sure you cut this girl out completely, let go of your petty ego and pride around once "having her", that's bullshit. Your ego will let you run yourself into the ground trying to fuel it by doing dumbass shit like talking to her again. Hell, in a few months you might get a text from her and your ego will try and convince you that you can cuck her, fuck that noise bro, it is a waste of time.
Take this moment to shatter your bullshit pride and ego. You've admitted you're wrong which is good. You say you're a VC, you're a part of something bigger than yourself, run at that area of your life harder than you ever have.
Wow. Good on you for being honest and sharing.
I don't blame you. I once bought a girl a Tiffany necklace before we even fucked...ended up never fucking. Also had another in a similar situation - her affair was 69ing with an ex-felon (he told me, not her). She too wanted me to stay and cuddle with her right after I found out. Might be a conscious manipulation tactic.
I'm not the same person now, but these things had to happen to me for me to learn.
Yep been there man, you think the girl would have some self knowledge and consider herself lucky with you. But nope, she believes herself to be hot stuff (sometimes) and stabs you in the back anyway. Honestly I wouldn't pay it much heed, she's obviously bellow your league and pretty low value. Typical loser slut, your ex was the equivalent of a beta.
So predictable, when you wrote this sentence I already guessed she only had you around for comfort because lo and behold this guy she was getting fucked by showed conflicting messages. And she was afraid he was banging some slut and didn't care about her, you were the back up.
You need to take a couple of breaths and understand that this isn't all on you. Understand that your ex showed great signs of low value which makes her equally as big of a loser as you were. Perhaps even more since she probably will get dumped after this adventure of hers. She's a 5 like you said so lets be real, she hopes he will commit to her but in all actuality he only considers her good enough for a rough fuck.
I've heard this in the past, I got no idea why women find it necessary to say shit like that. In my case it was in the vain attempt to get me angry and cause a fight so I could receive all the blame for the bad behavior. The reason she didn't let you fuck her that hard was because he had already committed, while this guy is playing hard to get.
I dated a girl once I was hardly attracted to which made the sex meh. She constantly asked me if I enjoyed it and told me I could do anything to her. I had zero interest to do so because she didn't arouse me in that way. She was chasing me hard at the time and wanted me badly..
..eventually we got semi-together and she stopped saying all that stuff, which was a great relief to me because I didn't want to hurt her feelings telling her she was not that hot. Eventually she pulled the same stunt your ex did and gleefully told me how she had been fucked rough by some guy and that she just didn't have that desire for me.
This was the same girl that begged me to do anything to her if I only would commit later on. Which she probably completely forget about or hamstered away. So don't be fooled man, your ex is just trying to harpoon another guy and when she fails it's all on her.
I never have posted here or commented but been a lurker for about 5 months now. After reading this, I felt inclined to finally post. I did some of the same things you did with the flowers and letters and such when my ex left me. Reading this I was like "Oh shit, here's a guy in the same boat as me." Then I read the shit with the condoms and lingerie and all I can say is wow man. You're situation is way more fucked up than mine. Fuck that bitch and stay the hell away from her sorry miserable ass. What a fucking cunt face she is. Keep doing you man and make yourself #1 priority. I now have 2 women compeating for me and my love and it's fucking wonderful. Didn't happen till after respecting myself and reading TRP daily. Keep your head up man. I think it's great that you shared your story for the new guys floating around here.
AWALT. Hypergamy wins again!
Just remember there are billions of women in the world, she's not special. Neither are you. It's just how it fucking goes.
I've started to realize with my most recent plate that women are all the same, some behave better than others, but mostly it's just the same. Keep your head up high.
Here is what you need to do:
First and foremost quit fucking crying. It is over, move on, do not answer her calls when she tries to call you at some point, do not follow up with her. Permanently delete her from your life. SHE CHEATED ON YOU FUCKING NEXT THAT BITCH.
Now, I want you to think about what made her cheat in the first place. The first thing I'd say is clearly you didn't hold frame so she lost respect for you. Secondly, it sounds like, she dead bed roomed you or at least made it duty sex instead of enjoyable sex. To me it sounds like all the things you did to initially get her changed into all the things that make a relationship fail when a guy get's comfortable.
Regroup, keep reading, learn from your mistakes, start working out again, and get it together. The faster you do all of this, the faster life gets better. Don't procrastinate it.
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Females? Males are 3x more likely to commit suicide, and are way more likely to not acknowledge it to people who can help them.
He can cry as much as he wants to until he actually gets over it and moves on with his life, and getting real with TRP.
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More so how supressive and insulating men can be with there emotions. I mean, you beat the dead horse on AWALT all you want, but try and not distract from the fact men are the the ones worth talking about. Wellbeing > opposite sex.
Two used condoms, not two condom packets. Far worse IMHO. She planned this out. Two used condoms next to her bed, invites him to watch TV on her bed knowing he'll see them and get a huge kick in the guts
If it makes you feel any better all women are like that. Ltr is hardcore no doubt about it
Yep AWALT. Now become the most red-pill man you were supposed to be
You dodged a bullet, learned a lesson, and only had your heart stomped. (Yes your fault by your own admission and my agreement)
But youdodged a bullet, learned a lesson and only got your heart stomped! That in itself is awesome. No divorce rape. No baby anchor. No "till death wait, got railed by the postman and I'm taking half"
You got away young, doing well, and in charge. It'll hurt, but now you know and you had very little taken from you to learn something immense.
Hang in there, go fuck something hot again, then something hotter than that, then some of her friends. You'll feel great.
And yeah, block/remove her from all contact. It'll reduce the need to drink. You've been around her finger long enough - don't you think it's time to stop?
•Block her. Phone, social media, the works. Have any friends that are also friends with her? Distance yourself for the time being. •Stop drinking. Let yourself feel the pain, don't hide from it. When you have the urge to drink, work out instead. Any kind of work out will do. •Monk Mode - Activate!
Be the guy that fucks. Happens man. The chick I'm seeing right now... she left her fiance, calls me the same day, and we bang. And a week later she tells me how I'm the most amazing man. I don't think she shed a tear for her ex.
This is completely normal if a woman meets an alpha after a beta (flowers... come on man, I can't remember the last time I got flowers for a woman, must have been 2 years now). The tingles are so overpowering she forgets about the old guy in a heart beat. Read the rational male, particularly the war bride section. It's really hard to believe until you are witnessing it first hand, either as the alpha or as the heartbroken beta.
Realize all women are capable of this. Don't hate it, become the fucking animal and the gentle lover all in one, so the next guy will seem like a boy in comparison to you.
This chick tells me how with her ex, she needed many days between sex because it was bad, there was no desire, she literally would force herself to do it. Where with me we fuck 3 times a night and this is completely new to her. She says she doesn't need to get in the mood. I want what I want, I come to take it, and her body is just ready. Her words.I don't doubt it. But I know if I slack off, I will suffer the same fate. I've come to terms with that, with the reality that I need to be on top of the game at all times.
Become me.
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Feel for you man. Been there. Lift some heavy metal when you sober up. The iron never lies, unlike them hoes. It always makes sense.
Man..... You really need to read no more Mr. nice guy. If a bitch ever asked me to come back to her house after I stumbled upon two used condoms on her floor I wouldn't even respond.
Here's the thing it's not about self respect technically you two aren't together (though I could make an argument to myself that it was) , as it is said here often. She isn't yours its just your turn.
What it is about is principle. What kind of a nasty skank can't fucking throw away used condoms and just leaves them laying around?
She sounds like a walking yeast infection of a human.
I feel for you, and I hope you remember this moment for a long time. The emotional pain will fade, but remember this low point.
At times like that, let her bruises keep her company. She's using you, and has no respect for you. Rubbing it in your face like that, what a sickening display that must have been.
Don't rage. Don't pity yourself. Do add to your understanding. Just let bad consequences of people's actions take place. Its not your job to save women from themselves.
Man up dude. Be the fuck buddy, not the cuddle buddy.
The three of be you beta turned alphas don't get is you have to constantly work unless you exude all things alpha.
This is a frame of mind and personality type, not a physical attribute such as being a jacked meatbag.
Your problem with women stems from what are called "covert contracts", why are they covert you ask? Because you the man, are too much of a pussy to talk about needs, wants, desires, openly an honestly.
Most men want a fuck toy, but a loyal and sweet and charming one, tell her this, if she walks, oh well. You are the ultimate decider of your fate. Make it. Don't be Lamar Odom, a mediocre NBA star who turned to crack and alcohol because of his Kardashian whore of a wife destroyed his male psyche.
Don't be a statistic.
Holy shit this was a particularly bad one...
Hurts like a muthuhfuckuh, and it will haunt you for a few months. Get ready for those waves of shit to grip your feelz and stomp on them. When that happens REMEMBER that those are just chemicals in your bloodstream and you just have to ride them out. They are not reality. They are not you. When you felt them earlier you thought it was love and she was a snowflake and blah blah blah. Wrong. Now you have to deal with the hangover, and just like a booze hangover, it will fade and disappear eventually. They are crushing feelings but they are like the flu. Your body will process them and they'll be gone and you'll rebuild.
You fucked up.
Cry like a baby for a few days and then stand the fuck up and start the rebuild.
Just think, you could have gotten married and been raising Chad's babies before you learned how "special" Nancy was.
Glad you posted instead of doing yourself more self harm.
We're here for you.
Good work, man. You got it all out of the way by 26? Jesus, you have so much time to enjoy life. You better wake up feeling like a million bucks, because for every mistake you made, and you made plenty, you learned a lesson from each.
You have a wealth of first-hand knowledge and experience, now.
Fuck man, I've never felt so sad after reading any post. The sociopath in me too felt sad for you. May life bring you happiness brother. Peace
Sorry bro but "Nancy" is the one that fucked up the relationship. You acted weak, but we all make mistakes and sometimes that shows that you are more of a man than most. It shows her true colors. You have a community here that has your back btw. Either never talk to her again or start chasing other tail and let that destroy her soul. She deserves a world of hurt and will soon regret fucking up the chance of being with a guy of your caliber. Eventually it will catch up to her if shes that narrow minded to only search for the next temporary high.
Edit- I'm also close to Boston btw
You're overreacting quite a bit man. It's normal because it's recent but trust me, the whole situation is laughable. You will laugh about it in a couple of months. You're young, you have a great career and you must have a good SMV if you never had trouble with girls.
She's a 5 when still young, imagine what her SMV can be years from now.
Really, this is nothing.
I was with the same chick for 5 years, and dealt with pretty much the same shit as you. It gets easier, man. You just gotta realize the ONLY person that will ever be there for you is YOURSELF. Be dedicated to yourself. Welcome to the best realization you'll ever make.
Also, realize that if you love again it can be gone in an instant. It's like a job, put yourself into it 100% but know deep down you can get "fired" or "laid off" at a moment's notice, so prepare for that.
Hey, you're telling my story man. Except you forgot the part where I was sitting next to her with my whole extended family at Christmas dinner and felt pressure building in my prostate until I couldn't sit and was getting visibly ill in front of everyone and then left that night for the emergency room. I didn't know what the symptoms were, but they did.... And she sat there perfectly innocent, six days into her course of antibiotics.
They don't give a fuck about you.
26 yr old Venture capitalist?
Low SMV bitches are SMV vampires of the guys they put down. They're never grateful to have a guy out of their league (and yes, there are leagues); they want to bring you down to raise themselves. This will occur not only with great discrepancies in looks, but also in intelligence, social standing, education or career success. They strive to rise in ranking among their girlfriends, and the self esteem carcasses of you and your ilk are what they build that rickety ass ladder out of. Be glad you learned this so young.
Dude, she wanted you to be miserable! She showed you those text messages because she wanted to see you devastated! This girl is a 5 but she is pure fucking evil!
And she didn't let you 'thrust too hard?' what the fuck! Homeboy!
FUUUUUUUUCK!!! This ruined my night. Fucking hell. Learn your mother fucking lesson!
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I mostly read this sub because in truth it's boys learning how to be men. It's somewhat facinating.
You must be in a pretty bad place right now Rugga, thats sucks, that burns, and it will burn.
The burn is not bad. It's there for a reason. spend a few days and just wallow in it - play moody music. listen to some moody breakup music - murder some n00bs on your favourite game.
let yourself feel yourself and let the understanding and realisiations percolate into your mind as they naturally want to. you don't need to force it.
Also take a moment to reflect on what caused you, and led you to acting in a way towards her that was clearly bang out of order. I don't know what you did - but suffice to say, I can confidently say it was no way to treat "the mother of your children" - which is what we ultimately chose women to be.
that place where you behaved in that way was a dark place. you need to see what happened in your relationship that took you there and identify the red flags. Do not be that dickhead. there is no excuse for losing your shit like that.
also - it is highly unlikely that she did the things she did, consiously and specifically to hurt you. I read it that she wanted absolution. but it matters not. she is no good for you. clearly. she might be a good woman (and I don't for a minute believe she was a 5) but you and her, where you are at right now in life is just not to be.
you didn't fuck up - you made the mistakes that you needed to make to be the awesome man that you are in the process of becoming
take courage young padawan - things will get better. don't go too deep into TRP - but do work on your self-esteem. (thats what any of the useful advice on here comes down to - is have self-esteem and don't loose sight of it - be the prize)
your post was genuinely painful to read - my heart goes out to you.
it will be rough, but it will be ok. it's no place for anyone here to advise...but in truth you probably are better off without her. centre yourself. and no...not all women are like that....recognise the signs of the many that are -
its gonna be ok bro - your one step closer to the happy one :-) - who is the happy one because you understand how to find the happy - and keep the happy the happy one.
General rule number 1 of women...a good woman brings out the best in you. If she starts to bring out bad things in you... internal (self-doubt - worry - bs etc) or external (bad behaviour - losing friends - dropping focus) then jump out.
the commitment is yours to give...
here is some music to get you started on your wallow - self reflection phase: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yfx5vS7146I&t=26m58s
Mighty fine TRP pr0n, mighty fine...
At least you have the Red Sox
I've been there. I wanted to kill the bitch. But I just left it all. I actually broke up with her. Cheating came out, i said "let's work past this" but I couldn't get past it. She kept treating me like shit and I believed she would cheat again and justify it like she already had. So only a few days after agreeing to "work with eachother and see what happens" I called her up, said "Its done", and she seemed shocked. Her voice quivered "Y-you... really wanna do this over the phone?" "Yea" I said. Then I said goodbye and hung up. I felt free. My night went extremely well after that.
It was only in the following ltr and breakup that I lost my balance. It was a fucked up relationship. Lots of gay sex, leather, costumes, orgies, drugs, real fucked up shit. After I got away from that I kind of lost myself. Haven't worked steady, haven't kept up with friends, etc. Maybe I'll find a way to give a shit again maybe I won't. Time will tell for sure.
Much like most lurkers here, everyone thinks it will never happen to them. To those of us who came here because of walking your same path, we can't iterate enough the warnings on TRP. I would love to say your example is textbook case of why you should never trust women, and ALWAYS beware of red flags.
Chin up, brother, a mark of a true man is to keep climbing no matter how shitty of a hole you're in.
AWALT, there isn't anything else I can say.
Sometimes life hits us totally unexpected right where it hurts. We get broken, but the purpose of it is not to harm us. It is so we can pick our pieces up and rebuilt us into a stronger version. By getting hurt, we get to recognize our weakness and eliminate it.
Don´t run away from the pain. Embrace it.
When one door closes, another one opens.
Also don´t stay/get Jaded. There is a difference between Jaded and Stoicsism.
Good Luck.
Well the good news is, you hit rock bottom.
Onward and upward from here pal.
Also, for future reference.. Keep your career and financial life confidential and separate from your dating life. Don't dress in clothes that scream "I'm pretty fucking wealthy" if you want to avoid ho's like Nancy.
Holy shit women are evil. I feel you bro, a girl I was dating once told me after we had already broken up that the dick of the new guy reminded her of mine
Fucking abusive human beings
Jesus man where's your dignity? Next her and move on
The fact that youre this emotional and/or surprised about it...I dont think you swallowed the pill quite all the way yet
Jesus. To be honest, this reads like a troll post. If its true, man...sorry.
Before RP, I dated what I thought was a reformed promiscuous chick. (Think meet and fucked several guys off of a college sports forum.) Even went so far as defending her to others that knew her past stating shit like, "Nah, you don't know her, she's not like that any more." HA. I found out she cheated and dumped her right away. NEVER tolerate that shit. It later came out from a mutual buddy that the guy I found out about was her FIFTH guy she cheated on me with. Its all a FR for an other time but... AWALT. She's now about to marry that cuck. Haha, good luck guy.
AWALT. Burn it into your memory. She has you as her emotional tampon now. FUCK THAT. Sounds like you have a good foundation professionally, and not far from working on yourself to start crushing it. But do it for YOU. Your pedestal should always be higher than pussy's.
Daddy's money couldn't get you out of this one, huh?
Turn to yourself? Your best love friend and acquaintance!
You're so lucky. It could have been so much worse! You could have married her!
Don't worry Bro. Stay strong. We're there for you if you're feeling lonely and just need to talk.
Honestly, bro. Drop her ass from your life completely, and start brand new. She was getting off on you knowing that she was fucking some other dude, stay way from that bitch.
Are you sure this woman isn't actually Satan?
LOL. Are we going to pretend like OP didn't cheat on his girl WHILE they were in a relationship, and just focus on the fact that she slept with another guy AFTER the relationship was over?
Reverse the genders. Would the outrage be the same?
You sound like a little bitch.
I just read an unmitigated dumpster fire.
Christ.
That is one sadistic bitch you got there man... be glad you didn't marry her
Never ever reward a female by getting back with her after she cheats.
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I knew a woman like that
Excuse my writing as my computer can't spell check for shit
she started out with an acquaintance of mine called Danny, then when their relationship went down hill (mostly from her being a bitch aching to betafy Danny and assume control) she fucked a friend of mine called Matt a day after he broke off with his girlfriend. (Who was also a bitch)
after 2 months she texted me about some shit, can't remember what, but I poked her with my IDGAF attitude and asked her if she wanted a threesome. She did.
Now, I got to admit. Matt was more of a friend then an acquaintance, but I have already lost one friend from telling him a bitch is a bitch. So I just rolled with it.
It was one of my darker periods in life.
Anyways.
she was a 5. 6 on a good day with makeup. but she had a wild and dark undertone. and I wasn't gonna say stop to those selfies she sent me.
I guess I was kinda turned on that she wanted me while being with another guy. Fucked up. But true.
At one point. Matt wanted to do a party, she texted that she had frilly clothes on that could easily be pulled up. It was still hot outside so it wouldn't be a problem.
But I had other plans, other girls.
She got pissed, broke up with Matt. Told him some shit. Disturbing shit
Turns out she just wanted to lead him along because she got turned out of him giving her everything she wanted, and I being the Alpha she dreamed about
a few days after breaking up with Matt, she got together with some old ex, and got married after a month.
Beware around ugly girls, they're the worst.
Ohh you are fine. You will learn and be stronger.
Really fucking up would be to get her pregnant and having to pay alimony.
Think about a bullet dodged.
You guys are really that dumb that you can't tell this is a fake post?
I think people subconsciously realize it is fake, but don't care and don't want to know. It's like reading an emotional fiction novel. It serves its purpose
Guys are providing great advice for you in these comments. You know what to do. Don't ever contact or reply to her again. It can be so hard to internalize the "you're so lucky you dodged the marriage and kids bullet" advice while in the first stages of grief, but man you're only 26. You WILL be thankful to yourself for going through this so young. I had a similar experience at age 30. I felt like I was so late to the red-pill-swallowing game. A whole new stage of your development is now beginning and you've already been studying for it. I really feel for you... I've been there. Hang in there.
Ignore all these dickheads. You took up with an unsuitable girl - maybe the signs were there, maybe they weren't - but throwing in the towel on all women because you've had your heart broken by one of them is shit-house behaviour. These lot will tell you it's ALPHA but it's the complete opposite - it's running scared of putting yourself out there and it not working out. It's being terrified of rolling the dice on happiness because you might get a double one.
Frank Sinatra could fuck anyone he wanted. He still got married four times. He was Alpha - these Beta quims telling you what to do are too scared to get back on the horse. Whose example do you follow? Ol' blue eyes or these brow-beaten cocks?
stopped reading at "She's a 5".
Bro you're an idiot.
Bitches gotta be at least a 8 to roll with me.
edit: finished reading for the laugh,
lol cried in front of her? fucking faggot!
Hey man, internet hugs to you. Stay strong. You are better than so many because you are now enlightened. A lot of us made the mistake of not seeing shit for what it is repeatedly.
I envy how young and enlightened you are. I wish I saw things clearly in my early twenties or late teens.
This is gonna hurt and now you are gonna go through the motions. Sadness, anger, yada yada. Eventually you will be ok. Do yourself a favour and hit the weights during this period. It would be more productive for you to work out and release some of that anger physically. Be diligent about it. you will be a better you when yr ready to get back on that horse
P. S - she didn't miss you bro.. She played you. She wanted you to find that crusty panties, she wanted you to read those messages. She wanted to show you her bruises. There are no lines a woman wont cross if she is scorned. You live and you learn.
... Wanting to life a life from love is good, but you should have project and stuff for your life, not only trying to experience mega love... I bet the girl make you felt like love is very important and stuff...
You can't convince yourself someone is special. He is only special for you in subjective mesure. If you convince yourself objectively, you failed at being in love.
And your story seem fucked up from the beginning, where is love, I see rationnalization toward a 5. This was like a problem for you, and you rationnalized lol. This is not love. IDK for example Im able to fall in love with a 5, 7 or whatever I can even say my sexual taste are often 6, 7 or even 5, Im not that into perfect girl.
Love don't exist fuck it all you are the kind of guy wich make me want to kill myself
Love does exist for men. That's what makes oneitis happen and possible.
Man , the coast will clear up . You can get some comfort if you want by reading other posts here in which guys had it even worse than you like double cuck, divorce rape etc ; just like I am enjoying reading your post . Its just that after reading so many such posts like yours , the anger starts to disappear and it becomes just funny cause it reassures everything we are learning in TRP . So , chin up , the sadness wont be there forever , and you will be back in action .
If you had established an abundance mentality and outcome independence mindset you would not be where you are right now. Unfortunately, that is very difficult to do if you found the Red Pill after Oneitis had set in for a particular girl.
My suggestion is completely cut this person out of your life (NEXT) and establish the correct frame before even thinking of starting another LTR. Time to spin plates. And no she should never be a plate she should be nothing to you now except history. Hell if this is Boston this sounds like my crazy ex-girlfriend lol.
Sorry to hear bro, same thing happened to me but we had a kid together. You'll move on, recover, become stronger, and meet a WAAAY better girl. Just be patient, it will come some day.
All the emotional trauma after the first time she cheated on you is your own damn fault. Going back to her place when the relationship is over and still being emotional about it is the physical equivalent to sticking your balls in a vice and allowing them to be crushed. So why are you surprised? You should have cut all contact with her the moment you realized she was a conniving whore and moved on with your life, now it's going to be more painful isn't it? Lesson learned.
I cringed while reading. Ooof, man... Focus on yourself for now and leave this all behind. Also, don't get engaged unless you like feeling paranoid. Get your own house in order (monk mode) and don't come out until you have perspective on the situation (you got out intact and you owe nothing).
Why the fuck did you still give her the green light after the first time she cheated? How fucking blind were you, for real?
Damn, you'll be fine though. exercise and gain knowledge
It's astounding how she could blatantly hurt you and know it, and then still demand you make her feel safe.
Whats her background like? Parent situation? What does she do for work? What hobbies? Education level?
Haha what a fucking pussy. But seriously you might feel like shit now but be glad this happened. Going thru a LTR breakup was one of the most educational experiences. Next relationship you are gonna be more careful. And the fact that there were no children involved and you are still young means that you can easily start over and leave this behind. Good Luck!
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Jesus Christ. Yeah I just started getting those breadcrumbs again and after reading this you've only reinforced my Will.
Thank you for sharing brother, sorry you had to experience this shit, but we know sloots gonna sloot. Just.. phew.. reading that even stung me a bit.
I also can imagine the pain, whilst holding you're your more or less physically and emotionally discusted with the thought of this person.
You're lucky man. I'm 26 and went through some similar shit but was married to the bitch. But guess what? We're young and still have our entire lives ahead of us. We're lucky we're learning this now instead of when we're 40 or 50. Get your ass to the gym, make some friends, start taking care of #1 and you'll be better than ever in no time.
https://youtu.be/nbZEkFLXh9Y
Jesus Christ, that's not a red pill but a whole package of them shoved down your throat. A total whore you got there. Glad you got rid of it.
Best of luck.
Imagine convincing yourself the unattractive girl with the emotional issues is wife material
No, your relationship, like most relationships, was doomed from the get go because AWALT.
What the fuck man. All that for a 5? AWALT. I hope you learned your lesson. From now on, you treat them like they deserve and want to be treated. Forget about that bitch. Ignore that fucking cunt for the rest of your life. No contact. Stop drinking to be hazy and drink to socialize only. Peace.
Was this chick a virgin when you met? Were you the first guy she fucked?
I'm just baffled that someone could even lurk on TRP and still commit to an objective 5. Lol what have you even been taking from this forum
Boston... The one place in the world thats even worse than new york. The stories that women have told me from their own mouths... And like your example, these were rolly polly pudgy 5s. I was spoiled getting a woman from overseas both japan and thailand. The sexual market value disparity here is just fucking crazy unbalanced.
Go hire a hooker. They are attractive, professional, and feminime. As successful as you are, it should be no problem.
Part of me hopes this is just a troll doing a parody on TRP. But the other part me me knows this story too well.
You're very young, OP, and are very lucky to have learned this hard lesson early in your life.
I'm not as cynical as a lot of the men here, but AWALT, in one form or another, is a very realy thing.
Take care of yourself, lift, and have a blast with as many ho's and bro's as you can.
You say you browse TRP often- why the fuck did you do exactly what this subreddit teaches you not to do? She walked all over your boundaries and you took it. Then she fucking taunted you with how she lets other people fuck her better.
Instead of just reading TRP, maybe actually ABSORB some TRP. You failed every shit test, you didn't go No Contact. At least you've gotten out clean, bud- no court order, no kids.
Jesus thats rough, but you're copping on.
You've been broken in half emotionally, you need to think about things objectively and do your future self a favour. It's probably a crude thought right now but you need to go fuck something, channel your inner turmoil into something positive (lift), and start loving yourself. It seems darker than I can imagine atm I'm sure, but it helps, trust me. We're all here because we've all been where you are before, work through it man, everyone here wants you to succeed.
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Ok, you must be trolling, that's ridiculous behaviour.
If you're not trolling, well lets just say there's a 38 year old poor, bald no plate having man sitting in Ireland laughing because I could be worse off...I could be you
Sort yourself the fuck out mate.
Be thankful you're having this realization at 26.
Question is will you actually learn this time and change your behavior...or will you buckle again when she tells you she needs you to hold her.
You fucked up, you had a setback now you can learn. What others have said first and foremost channel that urge to drink into something positive. Learn to deal with the emotions and work out instead; do a hobby, spend some time learning a language to pick up foreign girls. At the end of the day she freely gave sex to a guy who is mysterious, strong and savage. They want a guy who leaves them sore and filled with cum while he goes out to smoke a camel when he’s done. All women are one fee-fee and ripped body away from their pussies getting wet and throwing themselves at a random guy. They don’t want a guy who comes over “just to cuddle” without grabbing them by the beck of the neck and giving it to them during the same night. You can look at Europe as an example. UK, Sweden, Germany. The women don’t want the cucked, politically correct , gentile, in touch with their feelings Betas. They want these foreign guys who grew up seeing heads cut off and women stones for adultery, men who will fuck them like a caveman. They want a savage ; you gotta be that savage. The white knight doesn’t win, the black knight might not win either but at least he has a lot of fun with it.
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She fucking enjoyed every second of making you miserable. That's why she did what she did and said what she said. This is some fucking absurd. Every time I read something like that I can't believe my own eyes how women really are. AWALT.
Im kinda sorry for you. Not for what you did but for what she made you go through. From the other side it was eyeopening so maybe it was necessary. Every one needs something to happen to shake him enough to make a change. That was your lesson, learn from it and carry on.
She probably showed you just to fuck with you and drink your tears. You didn't learn a single fucking thing from all your lurking here. I have no sympathy for you. You're rich. And successful. Eventually she will want to lock down a guy like you for marriage and kids. Do not let her. She is ultimately losing out by throwing away a catch like you. She's a fucking whore and you should just act over it, aloof, and like you don't give a single fuck about her. No 3rd chances either.
Stay strong brother.
And don't want to her ever again.
Don't make it your number one goal, just understand that it will help. Your ex cheated on you twice and branch swung the day after you guys broke up, I'd guess that she had that lined up. There's your fuel right there, find some productive way to burn it. I'm a few weeks ahead of you in the process so feel free to PM.
Bitch is a sloot. You are better off, man. You're not sad that she fucked a mandingo....you're sad because you don't want to be alone. My mom always said, "When you are afraid of being alone...that is the time when you should be."
Meaning, you will grow too dependent on a woman. This leads to neediness. Bitches hate neediness. You need to learn how to be an independent man again. Find your path in life because right now...it seems...your path was that sloot. Never....ever...base your happiness on a woman. Get some hobbies. What the fuck do you want to do with your life!?! You only get one. Figure that shit out and then do whatever it takes to get it. Want to have a business on the beach in Mexico with a little weed distribution on the side? Figure out how to do it and do it. Then, watch all the sloots flock to you because you are a man with a mission. Women love men who know what they want and go get it.
Best of luck, my man. Remember that you have to go through Hell to get to Heaven.
What the hell. She never really loved you then. :/ How shitty of her to lead you on for so long.
I feel sorry for you, bro. But don't ever fall into the victim mindset. Don't stuff this down, either. Let all the anger and sadness out. Afterwards, kill that whiny bitch that lives inside you once and for all and learn to respect yourself. I've been there, though not as severe. The moment you respect yourself and realize that you're the shit, your world will change. Keep at it.
Sounds like she had BPD, and sounds like you have aspects of Narcissism. BTW, BPD women will typically choose an easier target after you, and their beds are never cold. Do not put the blame on yourself -as Narcs typically do. I have alot of experience going through something similar, and I'm also in Boston. Feel free to hit me up
lmao holy shit. good FR for people to never do. i thought that someone who was redpilled would never subject themself to this and would know better but i guess not.
Many of us have been through horrible shit by women. Become an alpha and play the game till you die. Remember AWALT. And never get close to a woman who's not blood. Also start realizing that politically liberals and the left are against you. They seek to destroy you. Good luck.
You've basically validated her self worth by showing her you will do anything for her, including forgetting you have any semblance of self respect to be there for her, next to her cum encrusted panties and used condoms. You are a joke to this girl, the equivalent of a notch on a belt. Find your anger, that part of you that wont take shit from anyone. Forget your self pity and sadness and for fucks sake go lift. Stop drinking. If you need to process shit, go get a marijuana edible, feel all the feelings, accept that it is over and there is nothing that is going to change that, then move the fuck on. Stop your brain from the sadness loop and GO LIFT. You have an amazing job, and the quality of bitches you will get will only continue to improve as you are young and women your age approach the wall. Live well. It is the best revenge.
Jesus man, You really were cucked. Not even in the humorous way, But like fully Emasculated.
I don't what to say, but like i hope you managed to punch her at least once, Not that that would restore your dignity, but like...
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Reality hurts but it's a lesson you'll never forget.
This is an opportunity to be better OP. To be a man who sees reality clearer, acts in his own interest better and takes more of his own pleasure.
OP this is the pain of becoming a better man. Stand up as today you are becoming stronger. You are not a failure by this. You are a man who has learned more about winning with women.
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Yeah. I don't think anyone ever really get it until they feel it.
That was so beta I almost felt like my past couple years of pimping were a dream. I dont love them hoes.
Just cut off all contact with her. Trust me in a few months you'll forget about her and realize she was never worth it. Falling in love is like being on drugs it literally damages your ability to see things clearly. If you weren't in a chemically induced stupor you would've dumped this bitch at the first sign of trouble. I had a similar situation happen to me. I am extremely careful of my emotions blinding my rational self. I do not even want to fall in love with someone because of how dumb it makes me. It might feel good but its not worth it if it to leads you into terrible decisions.
Wow @ the part of her showing you that she let another guy do more to her body.
I wouldn't even stay man jeez.
I hope you're saying the truth when you say that you were drunk, only explanation for why you fucking stayed.
Bro I've been there. Had a chick fuck one of my friends, then I had this "friend" call me and tell me "I fucked your bitch" talking shit. When I saw him I grabbed this fool by his neck and told him to try and act tough now. Needless to say, he was a scared bitch. I was down, I cried, even kept fucking this chick afterwords on some desperate shit. But I grabbed my balls back and moved on and am in a better place only to watch this girl and this "friend" crumble & do nothing with their lives while I'm getting better day by day. Karma is a bitch, that will be their punishment. You will only come out of this stronger. Good luck.
Welp, Just be glad y'all don't have any kids together. Cut your losses move on.
This is the best thing it could've happened to you, now you know that you are the one that matters in your life. Grow stronger, and believe me, you really got lucky that you didn't marry her.
Monk mode, and become everything you want to be.
This is a good lesson to learn, and oddly, its better that you learn it early. OP, beers this week for your trouble dude. Suit up and get ready. Never let a buddy hang, shoot me a message and we'll get you in a proper bar.
Look, this is all good, you are going to be ok. But for the rest of us out there, be able to say what you want in a relationship, what you dont want, and what you are willing and not willing to give. Be ready to quit when it doesnt happen.
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Fuck dude, I have the exact same 'lied about being raped' situation. I hate people like that, my heart hurts for you. Most of this shit happened to me as well from a long distance girl called Madison. I'm still not over it, I dunno if I ever will.
Word of the wise: don't play on a girl's low self esteem though.
the story is even more pathetic when you remind yourself it's a 5 doing this. Also when she invites u over and has conveniently left used condoms and jizz covered lingerie on the floor.. that's your queue to go forever no contact (actually when she cheated the first time that's when u REALLY should have gone no contact but I digress )
Oh she set you up big time to find those used condoms and cum stains. That was all theatre to hurt you deep .Now don't ever write love letters again or think about buying flowers for anyone. Get in the Fucking gym and start destroying those weights!!
Reminds me of my story! Got cheated twice(May be more), even got the child of another man, which I kept for a year like a real father. Betrayal at highest level.
Married her after knowing everything, thought she was different. At 31 all alone, rebuilding again.
Be strong, you are just 26.
Thank God, you are not married , otherwise shit would have been worse.
lol and girls say guys are gross. Man, i've run into so many disgusting things in a girl's bedroom it's absurd.
Sorry dude. It happens, pick yourself up and set your eyes on the horizon.
Super blue pill story... feel bad for you OP. Now move on and be smart next time
Super blue pill story... feel bad for you OP. Now move on and be smart next time
G.I Gurdjieff, "To think about change, one must also think about what one would give up"
I think that a lot of men make all the mistakes you made in this post. I know I did. But the difference between the losers and the winners is that winners don't let that shit happen again. When it is said that ALL women are like that, it means ALL; even your precious mom or sister or whomever. You must treat them as such. Don't be stupid by replying to her again.
that's some fucked up cucked shit right there, you're scarred for life now but I guess you can red pill the fuck up now for real
You were never ready for TRP....you are a blue pill enamored by the stories and overall charm of red pill philosophy. The truth is, my friend, you are the sheep, and while we all could give you the best and utmost top tier advice, it wouldn't matter, that's just not how you're wired. And that would be fine...if it didn't chew you up and spit you back out with an event like this.
What can I honestly tell you OP, that everyone else hasn't? You didn't learn before, and I seriously doubt you will learn after. This could very well change you, or it could cement you into thinking all women are trash and you will never have another LTR again...Either way, this is the land of wolves, knowing that should be enough.
Soothe yourself in the suffering. This pain you feel will make you stronger. She did you a favor by crushing you.
Sorry bro, life doesn't prepare you for this. Just remember, women are children, she's a child that has no idea what she's doing to you, she's just thinking of herself. Women have no concept of morality, or loyalty. She's playing with you, just like you and I would rip the limbs off of ants when we were kids, not really understanding what we were doing.
Its your own fault this happened, and that's a good thing. You're better than her, a lot better. This chick did you a favor, you'll never make the same mistake again. Just be glad it happened when you weren't binded by some legal contract and there were no kids involved.
You'll be alright, go find some bitch that's more up in your league, and let the vermin rot in the gutter.
Be thankful you didn't put a ring on it. That's all I gotta say, pick yourself up and learn from this shit. No time like the present to go out and make shit happen
Holy fuck. This is some hardcore cementing confirmation that AWALT. No exceptions, no limitations, no passes.
I love my mother and see her as different. But if I wasn't her son I believe the same rules would apply.
AWALT! AWALT! AWALT!
26 and a venture capitalist in Boston?
Yeah you'll be fine.
How did you earn your wealth? I am curious because I have worked in Finance and never met a 26 Year old individual VC. VCs invest tens of millions of dollars in startups - not a few hundred/thousand. It is also a surprise that a multi-millionaire VC would waste time here and he would definitely not be open to meeting random strangers in Boston. Something smells here.
rather unusual but not impossible. not all VC invest 10s of millions; specially in early stage of a company.
How the fuck do you change the world so this kind of shit isn't able to happen?
Felt the pain in your words OP, just go monk for a while, cut off this girl and rebuild yourself into a better man.
As always with TRP, the gym is a good place to start, your career seems good so you've got a major part of your life sorted.
Focus on what's important
Yourself
You just hit the jackpot boss. Dive in.
damn after reading this i felt very bad for you but i am happy you found this place because now you can turn your life around
I'm not in Boston but I'd like to exchange investing tips, maybe you can teach me something. Send a PM if you're interested.
Stay strong.
I'm so sorry man. Let this be a lesson to us all and don't talk to her ever again.
Please move on as quick as possible. Don't tell yourself you're a wreck.
My good man, the only answer to your problems is very simple. Go and fuck the hottest bitches you can find, fuck a lot and even more after that. Go out and fuck, go to bars and fuck, go to clubs and fuck. Fuck, fuck and fuck some more. And make sure they're all way hotter than she is.
The best thing you could do right now is start a POF account and smash the first thing that lets you. Repeat until you get disgusted with yourself for what you've been doing. Do this for as long as necessary. When you get angry at yourself for rolling in the muck with such pigs, you're ready to climb up from rock bottom. Now you can let your balls drop and get some standards. Sprinkle in some push-ups here and there. If it makes you feel better my very first gf cheated on me for like 6 months and I caught her hanging out with the guy when I went to the mall with my friends. The Internet didn't exist like it does now so my friends set me up with a good hate fuck later that night. I was butthurt at first. But once the hate and curiosity kicked in, I found my balls and let them guide me, much like the force. Then she wanted to work things out when she found out I was banging someone else. I told her to fuck herself. And she hated this girl. Then she fucked one of my friends to try to twist the knife. Gave zero fucks. She was actually upset it didn't bother me and that she had fucked him for nothing, bc that was the only reason she did. She tried fucking me again. Didn't bother. The only thing better than new pussy, is the pussy you haven't had yet.
I literally felt physical pain on the part about the bruises, how on earth a sane person would tell you that, just like that. It's insane.
But as everyone said, you really dodged a bullet here, just thrive for a few weeks. You'll quickly forget about this and start banging better chicks.
You deserve better man this shit has gone too far. it's always the 5-6 chicks that do the most fucked up shit. My friend is getting married to a 6 that said he had a small dick and was an "experiment" on facebook, as well as inviting him to places when she was with another dude (while they were dating). He lifts and has his whole life ahead of him with lots of opportunities just like you. Don't fall for this fucking shit man you're better than that.
I kept thinking I would get to the part where OP says "just kidding!" But it never came. Have some self respect. You should always put yourself first and you won't end up in situations where you're taking back a cheater.
I never thought I would read something so hilarious yet cringy here.
Holy shit. You dodged a bullet when the engagement fell apart. Count your lucky stars. Forget about that cum dumpster, it's time to focus on you. You got swept away in your emotions and feefees, it happens to the best of us. Delete her co tact information everywhere. Facebook, email, phone, all of it. Work your ass off, get back to RP basics, and back out there.
I am new to reading TRP, so I don't have much in the way of advice for you OP and I can't quote anything pithy.
But I just wanted to say, I feel for you OP, I've been there, felt that self-disgust, and you are doing absolutely the right thing by moving on. Respect yourself first. Her disrespect is crushing and sad to read. Whatever anyones opinion on TRP or women, you always deserve to be treated with respect.
To cringey, couldn't make it through.
Hey man. Seattle is a 2:1 women to men ratio.
What can I say? AWALT. Sorry you had to learn the hard way.
You didn't learn anything from this place.
I had to cringe-quit reading after something about writing two letters of emotional dump and becoming insanely drunk.
Outside of your career it sounds like you have some serious work to do
That was tough to read dude...jesus christ. Good job pulling your head out your ass, even if it was the hardest way
Ask yourself why you want this "fantasy". If you think you will feel complete or fill the void, you're mistaken. Don't start a relationship unless you plan on getting married, and ask yourself why you want to get married, what do you want to accomplish?
FWB are the way to go. Try it out for the next few months. Also take out your anger on your body in the form of excericise as opposed to alcohol. One will heal you, the other will kill you.
Pro Tip: Don't allow your insecurities to dictate your reality.
Thanks for writing this OP. I was going to ask this hot chica I like if she wanted to go out with me. Then again I remembered all the times I did see her and she never said anything to me. I thought about the time I actually had enough courage to tell her mom I though she was beautiful. I never even told my girlfriends mom, i thought her daughter was beautiful For some reason this post made me realize fuck that bitch... If she likes me , she will tell me. If she wants to talk to me, she can come talk to me. It sucks because looks wise she's pretty much what I like, and I dont have a girlfriend at the moment. From now on I'm going to assume she doesnt like me, and not think about her or even think about asking her out. If a girl likes me, she will tell me and/or talk to me.
Someone did ask me I didn't have a girlfriend though. Fuck these hos OP.
Brother i know you are in a bad place. Many of us are here because we were fucked over and kept coming back, just like you. Please be safe and know this is not the end. Better days are ahead of you, and you will look back on this day with pride, knowing how much you learned and changed from the experience. Today is the day your metamorphosis begins. The strongest steel is forged in fire. Be well, brother.
So chicks can get laid at the drop of a hat, unlike most guys. That's what she was trying to rub in. Do you really think she would have left lingerie and condoms lying around by accident knowing you were coming over?
You may not have moved on just yet, but at least you've learned from this.
Many men were (and are) at the very same crossroads you were at, and decided to go the other way.
I know this chick. Fuck her. She's crazy bro.
Not even a tiny chance this isn't fake, I thought some of you had brains to figure it out.
Cut her out. It's over. Never look back.
Damn homie... Im sure these dudes ain't tell you nothing you don't already know & feel. I feel for you fam... Finish your fall and leap the fuck back up!
On a side note... If your the fuckin savage you don't have to worry about other alphas. Savage up!
Education without practice is blind.. Pick yourself up. Learn from your mistakes. Dont let this turn you into an.asshole. learn to tip your fedora sir
100% about her. The degree to which the OP means nothing, nothing at all is shocking.
Also OP just a thought but do you know any girls that might beat this little bitchess ass for you. Or any guys that will beat her ass if you pay them. Mybe break her jaw or something similar. Not saying to go do this at all I've never really done anything like that.
Ditch the bitch and move on bro!
i got your back.
If this is true, then there is nothing new here. Girls do this all the time.
Now you are drinking and that is fucking it up.
Lift your lawyer, hire facebook and delete weights.
Perhaps you have mis-understood my remarks. Which portion are you objecting to?
I don't have much experience ngl, but one thing that always makes me feel better after stuff like this is getting the lads together and going on a trip, and getting absolutely fucked for a week, don't chase girls , maybe hire some pros, forget about that whore totally and come back renewed.
How the hell do you manage your own fund at 26? Did you have a successful exit very young?
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Thats crazy. I assumed people didnt enter into VC until age 24 after 2 years of ibanking/consulting, then they had to do an mba before even getting onto the partner track. And even then i thought it took like 7 years before it was clear whether your investments were successful and so you could justify becoming a partner
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Incredible path wow. I should have started hustling much earlier on. Thanks for being specific; it helps to see what is possible.
edit: you could probably could get on to the forbes 30 under 30 vc list if you wanted. Consider getting somebody to submit an application for you if you havent already.
Holy fuck man. I broke up with my oneitis and shit didn't go nearly half as bad as yours.
Mad respect. You're going through the shit and learning from it. Hopefully learning anyways.
Good luck dude.
no way someone who has lurked TRP would do this, maybe we should get a "Fiction" (based on reality) tag
Hey dude don't take this the wrong way but your post makes me sick. Im saving it as a reminder, thanks for sharing but i literally felt enraged as i read through. I want to throw up.
She better be dead to you. Forever. Set some goals and knock those fuckers out.
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I'm saving this as a reminder too, in case I ever get tempted to drift in the wind to blue pilldom ever again.
IF you cheated first i don't feel sorry for you...
The type of bitch you had is what I refer to as a Jezebel, as in biblical Jezebel. Read about that shit. 2000 years and nothing really ever changes.
ah...., you failed this course or you took the wrong pill.
I choose to see it as a blessing.
He has been provided with incontrovertible proof that AWALT. No wiggle room. No ifs, ands or buts. An almost perfect rock-bottom from which he can change how he understands the world and how he behaves in accordance.
Many of us struggled to totally believe and commit to TRP because our experiences with women weren't that devastating. I've always known RP philosophy to be true but mostly through second-hand experience.
To experience an extremity like this is ideal. A short, sharp shock. The perfect foundation for change.
Thats true. Most guys find this out after getting much more invested and much older. This at 26 and no kids? Blessing.