So you have a massive revelation when you first find r-TheRedPill subreddit. You immediately understand why she liked you in first place- Alpha traits, game, sexual tension, aloof behavior- and, of course, why her attraction and feelings were extinguished; you had decide you actually liked her, maybe you even loved her... hell, maybe you married her... but this was all the beginning of the end. Even if it wasn't right away, or overnight, you find r-TheRedPill and pretty soon it all comes into focus.

Then you piece it all together- you realize why the girls who were into you, never the ones you really liked or were attracted to, liked you, and why the girls that you really liked weren't into you.

At first, this seems like a valuable bunch of information! And, I mean, it is... But you make the mistake of thinking: with this information I can finally get it all right.

And you probably got laid more consistently. And that's cool. You probably started lifting if you didn't already. Maybe you started meditating, and reading more interesting books. You probably learned a man's most valuable lesson about the disposablilty of men, and the inherent value of women; imagine you were taught that as a kid in school! How different your life would be! The world sucks.

Now that you're doing things differently, you acknowledge that a woman MUST see you as an Alpha male (hopefully the most Alpha male she's ever been with) for her attraction to you to be genuine; if she doesn't see you as an Alpha male, she likes something else about you, very likely either your resources or that you behave like a good little lapdog for her, and at first she'll go through the motions with you to accomplish her own ends (relationship, marriage), but sooner than later the relationship will be entirely on her terms, she'll resent you, or she'll divorce you and take your stuff.

So you understand the constant pressure to be an Alpha male... in a world that makes it incredibly difficult.. a world that constantly emasculates men and encourages women to not respect their husband/boyfriend/man. This idea sharply changes how you'd handle a relationship, and eliminates a lot of what you enjoyed about having a relationship.

Then you quickly realized just how far the Sexual Marketplace gap has gotten. Sure, you hit the gym every day, are a cool guy with good game, but the top 20% are using 80% of women for sex, and promiscuity being totally unstigmatized met with the idea of a slut being a forbidden concept in a sex positive world, a lot of these fat slob women genuinely believe they are in Chad's league, only Chad is a jerk, so they meet new Thad for a blow job, and repeat. And it's irritating trying so hard to eat right, and stay fit, to impress some slob who drinks wine and watches Netflix, and doesn't feel weird at all fucking a guy in much better shape than she is.

And when you know the right questions to ask, you not only find out just how much of a slut practically ever girl is, but they are all Alpha widows, therefore making you beta by default. You can never win.

And if she does care about you, if you get through all of the above, you can easily just say she cares about you BECAUSE of your value, and what does that mean? Don't think so, lose a bit of value and watch her bolt.

So when everything you wanted from women is stripped away, why even bother? When you get over the idea of fucking mediocre women, why bother?