There are no cool girls, just cool ex boyfriends

Katavasis · 2016-10-18T10:41:33+00:00

To be fair,most dudes are also boring as fuck.

Chris_Phoenix · 2016-10-18T05:26:03+00:00

I met a best friend of mine that way. He got to know the girl I was dating at the time through a mutual circle and was excited about sharing his niche interests. He later realized she was just superficially into all the things I was actually into and we hit it off great. In his own words "It didn't take me long to figure out that everything I thought was cool about her was just you"

solarcon6 · 2016-10-18T09:37:35+00:00

"Show me your musical taste and hobbies, and I'll tell you whom you've been dating."

Even the girls themselves told me several times, it's true.

whatsthisgarg · 2016-10-18T04:44:37+00:00

I can confirm this 100%. I'm an older dude than most here, and I am saying this is true of every woman in my life, from every chick I fooled around with, right on up to my mother-in-law (an educated woman!) to my aunts and grandmothers.

Women can have interesting viewpoints and stuff, but it is extremely rare for a woman to reach out and seek some entirely new crazy thing that's exciting.

The reason? They don't have to.

As an example, or a corollary, I walked into a party last week, and the first encounter was two chicks, one hot, one not; same age etc. The hot chick was boring, the not hot chick was interesting and had lots of good conversation, and so on. Why was that?

offthebeatmeoff · 2016-10-18T06:16:48+00:00

I felt this way the most about my last plate. She was cool as fuck and we vibed on a lot of intellectual stuff. Had me like "wow". She slowly started to show herself, though. Empty. Void. That's when it hit me. Its crazy but this is fact. They're a combo of their exes and use whatever they learned that appeals to pull you in until the coast is clear.

Toolman890 · 2016-10-18T08:37:42+00:00

You are mainly correct but a girl who is not hot can be quite cool and fun through her own efforts. The problem is noone wants to date her. The girls who are hot and fun either learned it from an ex or their father or brother. Hot girls do not need to be interesting or funny.

endogenic · 2016-10-18T11:43:03+00:00

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newmeforever · 2016-10-18T17:03:50+00:00

This reminds me of my ex gf.

I radically changed her taste in music, and she even mentioned it to me one day along the lines of something like this... "You have changed my taste in music so much, I would have never listened to this kind of music if it weren't for you."

CONFIRMED.

I'm the cool ex bf.

huge_gap · 2016-10-18T18:57:59+00:00

I'm very boring myself but get pussy from good looks, height, confidence, humor.

Hilarious_Haplogroup · 2016-10-18T13:35:35+00:00

She's not yours, it's just your turn. Enjoy the ride while it lasts, then hop on the next one when the next one is available.

Orobek · 2016-10-18T23:25:36+00:00

I have always thought that girls (at large) don't seek out hobbies or intense pursuits because it's not in our culture for women to be active in that way. Ie they would not be considered as ladylike/ attractive. For example the generalization that women in science are less desirable because having an intense "masculine" career is intimidating to the average guy because she is more likely to make more money and be more intelligent. Just some thought. Neither here nor there

strat_op · 2016-10-19T00:12:33+00:00

Short and concise but hitting it right on the head. I thought about it myself - how much profit my girlfriends made. My music, my hobbies, my healthy lifestyle, my humor, my attitude. One recently talked to me about how 80% of her career is due to being able to contribute jokes and content copied from me.

Think about this - how much value sou bring to each female you date (for a longer time/seriously). This will make it much easier to avoid oneitis and emphasize your negotiaton position: commitment.

TheMightyFishBus · 2016-10-19T05:37:08+00:00

Before I say anything. I am not one of you guys. I am not trolling, and I am not antagonising. I want to have an actual debate. DO you seriously think women only do things because of men? Almost every girl I know does some kind of cool hobby, and none of them got it from boyfriends or such. Hell, some of them have never dated before. Do you guys really think women are inferior or something? Or are you just incredibly full of yourselves? Seriously, how can someone be so self-centred as to think that an entire half of the planet would be unable to function without you. I don't know. Maybe there is a legitimate reason. So I am asking all of you. Do you think women just do nothing all day normally? Spend their time waiting for big strong men to come along and give them purpose? Seems kind of bullshit to me.

emmastoneftw · 2016-10-18T12:25:03+00:00

What about a bland dude that is turned cool by a cool chick? Some girls are driven, and learn cool shit on their own and turn a bland guy cool, and then that guy goes and finds a new bland girl and the cycle continues. That is how a society works. We learn from each other. To say there are no cool girls would say the same thing about guys imo.

wailei · 2016-10-18T15:16:36+00:00

Completely agree with OP. It's always the boyfriend who is cool. Plates just cheat and copy...as usual :)

RedDeadlift · 2016-10-18T20:30:42+00:00

I disagree. In my experience, this is not true. When I was mid to late 20s (~5 years ago), girls I dated who were 18-19 actually had great taste in music and introduced me to some cool bands. They mostly had lame ex-boyfriends who definitely did not show them those things.

Master_of_Ritual · 2016-10-19T03:01:49+00:00

So, shouldn't you seek out sluts then? Imagine the amazing suite of personality traits and abilities an n>1,000 woman would have, especially if she migrates from scene to scene. She would be superhuman. She would be Legion.

PM_Me_Your_BootyPlz · 2016-10-18T14:04:38+00:00

And guys get it from their friends or girlfriends or parents. I don't see what your point is. Everyone gets their interests from somewhere.

shethatisnau · 2016-10-18T08:53:13+00:00

I dunno man, I love horror movies because I grew up watching them, have moved abroad and lived in two different Southeast Asian countries because I wanted to and my lifelong hobby of art made it happen. Most of the music I listen to I discovered on my own. I might pick up a band from a guy I'm seeing or into but rarely do I obsess over it the way I do something I found and happen to love. Most of the stuff guys tried to get me into never really stuck because I didn't care that much about it, whatever it was.

Southfarthingdank · 2016-10-18T13:37:50+00:00

The idea that girls don't have any real interests is something I've been noticing in my past couple years of high school! Every guy is passionate or knows a lot about something, whether it be video games, sports, whatever. It's incredibly rare to find a girl that actually has knowledge and a passion about anything! Why is it like this? It's incredibly frustrating.

vengefully_yours · 2016-10-18T20:20:36+00:00

Wait, you mean Facebook, cats, shoes, and phones aren't great hobbies? The 44 year old I'm seeing says she is into cars, and has always been. Heard that before. They say it because I'm obviously hard core into cars. This one, I dunno, she is going for broke with an old Cutlass, so maybe. They do enjoy riding with me in my vintage tin, no doubt there, but extremely few are into getting dirty.

That is part of why I'm still fucking her after almost two years.

karpathian · 2016-10-18T14:00:15+00:00

You'll notice them also take on words and phrases from previous exs, one thing you should watch out for is if they start using new things that aren't in anything they watch, that you use, or that they've used before.

[deleted] · 2016-10-18T15:44:00+00:00

I only met one in my life and she really had niche music / movie interests. I'm not sure how much it was social circle related (she's a photographer and was hanging out with all the cool kids) but she apparently was into niche music from a relatively young age. She has an aspie / autistic streak though, was never more than a 5, gave me constant shit tests and AWALT applied obviously. Ain't no unicorns out there.

One of her friends was totally into me and went to niche music parties later on to find someone like me (most guys at those parties are skinnyfat / neckbeard incels and the male to female ratio is like 90/10 or worse). I still doubt she really likes the music.

offthebeatmeoff · 2016-10-18T17:13:47+00:00

Damn, so I made my ex an outspoken, funny, insightful individual (these are things people have told me)? Now I feel worst for some odd reason. She was boring as fuck when I first got with her.

magic_carpets · 2016-10-18T18:31:50+00:00

Dude ill have to check if its you next time but this is the second time the same post pops up on MISC and TRP

[deleted] · 2016-10-18T20:14:12+00:00

Can confirm, my mom is now a hockey fanatic because all my dad does is watch hockey. She only watches the hometown team though

[deleted] · 2016-10-19T18:13:05+00:00

Musician Grimes was semenized by PicturePlane - had she never been who knows if she would even have the talent she does now

Trump_will_win_2016 · 2016-10-19T19:37:52+00:00

This is huge because it destroys the belief that you can't attract certain "types" or "cliques" (Hipster girls, artsy girls, fitness girls ect.) I've found that if you can run the underlying principles of game on a girl, and have the social skills to tailor your message to your audience, you CAN attract them.

offthebeatmeoff · 2016-10-18T16:07:58+00:00

This is so idiotically wrong that I have to assume it's a troll post.

aanarchist · 2016-10-18T13:21:11+00:00

Cool girl had sociopath ex boyfriend who made her suicidal, among other mental problems. do not want.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2016-10-18T13:22:23+00:00

Also if she's an amazingly good fuck... how do you think she got that way?

SickeningPiss · 2016-10-18T15:16:38+00:00

This is so accurate girls use you until they suck you dry literally and then move onto the next pansy. Sometimes its better to be a care free pizza eating chad then someone who has qualities a girl can use for herself.

offthebeatmeoff · 2016-10-18T16:33:11+00:00

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Stationarity · 2016-10-18T16:34:24+00:00

This is just a variation of an old saying:

If women ran the world, we'd still be living in grass huts.

RobertCarraway · 2016-10-19T04:38:30+00:00

This is why women can not be the creators of culture. They are vessels. They fill the empty spaces in the structure of male society, and are filled by male society.

Unknown to most - women are not even the vital force behind their own liberation. The big foundations created womens lib. The elites are separating society into it's component parts and they encourage strife between all parts. Divide and conquer. We are a conquered people.

Father and son. Man and Wife.

wiwe97 · 2016-10-18T13:10:47+00:00

The only issue I see with this theory is that if the cool girl learned it from her ex wouldnt the same apply to cool guys. Learning from their ex that is.

wesleyaaron · 2016-10-18T14:18:06+00:00

Fuck man, do people really believe anything "cool" about a female (probably) came from her learning from a guy? That's kinda fucked up. No, that's like, really fucked up. Have some respect if you're looking for a woman.

PS: Not trying to be all SJW, trust me. I just can't believe people actually think like this.

[deleted] · 2016-10-18T22:31:14+00:00

As the old saying goes, "...When she extrapolates on some cool obscure punk or metal band, it's the same as her belching up chad's cum bubble."

offthebeatmeoff · 2016-10-18T15:25:01+00:00

This is such bullshit ... guys and girls can be cool of their own volition.

Hipster_Hyena · 2016-10-18T08:18:26+00:00

I've met several girls like that, and they're usually lesbians.

How do I learn to not crush on lesbians when I know it's a fruitless effort. Always end up in an awkward friendship - I don't know how to be friends with girls.

oxykitten80mg · 2016-10-18T11:30:49+00:00

Genius hypothesis! It makes total sense.

Mojo_of_Jojos · 2016-10-18T13:23:18+00:00

Do you think women can't partake in interesting hobbies or behave beyond a stepford wife? I travel alone, partake in sports, read a lot, and I'm pretty sure I wasn't branded by an ex. BTW, not trolling your community, someone on my forum feels strongly about MRA issues, so I decided to take a look independently & see what this sub was about. I don't hate men at all, I love them, but I don't feel like this sentiment is reciprocated too much here. Some people are behaving in the same manner as the feminists who are disliked as well. I don't like them, either, for the record, but I don't believe one gender is cooler or smarter than the other. You get all kinds.

Original_Dankster · 2016-10-18T04:41:07+00:00

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offthebeatmeoff · 2016-10-18T14:32:33+00:00

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Title	There are no cool girls, just cool ex boyfriends
Author	offthebeatmeoff
Upvotes	490
Comments	200
Date	October 18, 2016 3:31 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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