After getting a lot of requests on the topic through PM, I will no longer keep you guys waiting. In my past thread called "Chasing Chad", I talked about how guys who miss out on sex, relationships, and success with women in their adolescence and even early 20s tend to go wild once they do have some success with women. A lot of these guys don't actually want to get laid a lot, they want to be perceived as guys that get laid a lot. You see this among some PUA gurus who are obsessed with game to the point that their lives revolve around it and with guys who throw all of their life goals aside, dedicating their entire life to getting laid and chasing women.

On a deep level, many of these guys who got into the game late are trying to overcompensate. A lot of them don't just want the sex with lots of different women, they want the same recognition, respect, validation, and fulfillment that comes from being the guy who has success in the game. Unfortunately, as you leave a school setting and hit the real world where people could give less of a care about you, this becomes tough to get so many of these guys end up chasing something they might never get.

So how do you get over a sexless past and live a fulfilled life to where it rarely bothers you as much?

I admit that after the your 20s, it can be tough to do. Guys in their 30s reading this will have a tougher time in this process because some of the things I list will just feel kinda odd in your 30s but then again, I think with enough effort they too can overcome. Now here are the steps:

1 - Acknowledge it and accept that it affects you.

The past is powerful in the sense that it affects how you feel about life and how you carry yourself. A sexless past will either have you clinging on to whatever woman gives you a chance (betabuck!) or desperately trying to get laid a lot so you can prove to the world that you're an alpha male (PUA gurus). Don't go around telling yourself how high school and college hookups were so overrated and how Chads at those ages are losers, how you're so much better off in your 30s, that won't help. Just accept that there is a problem and that you are willing to make some changes.

If you've taken the pill, you should obviously be maxing out your looks and learning game anyways.

2 - If you haven't already, get laid.

If you're a virgin, fix that ASAP. I think seeing an escort is cheating so do whatever you can to attract a girl and lose your virginity before you move past step 2. Just sleep around a bit and get with various types of girls that you always wanted to get with. Whether it is a young 22 year old girl fresh out of college or a good looking MILF, go ahead and live it up. Don't tie yourself down to an LTR, just get with enough women to the point where you feel better about yourself.

One catch, don't let it completely affect your life goals. Do not throw away a year of your life and sacrifice your career in order to fix the problem, that is not what you want to do here. I also recommend keeping it all to yourself, don't brag to your friends about it just get laid to the point where you feel like it is not a major issue in your life.

For some guys, this alone will fix the issue and they can stop here here BUT a lot of guys will tend to want to make up for lost time in a serious way and be the guys that want to be seen as alpha male studs as opposed to just enjoying the intimacy.

3 - If you find yourself seeking validation and obsessing over the game, realize that what's hurting you isn't just your lack of success with women in the past.

Chances are, your sexless past was telling of something deeper than just a lack of sex. Maybe you were bullied, a social outcast, had hobbies outside of the norm for your society, family problems, and just didn't have a solid friend circle. In that case, the issue you want to address is social life and respect.

Now respect is different, we don't respect a heart surgeon the same way we respect a football team captain in high school. We respect "successful" men in adulthood with words like hard working, honest, stable, and nice. For those that have taken the pill, this means "betabucks". You have to align your life goals (even if they involve being a surgeon) yet at the same time not come off as a boring betabuck to the world, a lot of this is going to be left to you.

This is where it gets really tricky and difficult. If you're serious about truly improving your situation, you will need to work on building yourself and your image. Whether it is your job along with a social hobby (bartending, acting, improv, etc.) that you like, you build that image of yourself. Now if the hobby is LAN parties and videogames, sorry but you're kinda screwed there. For the misanthropes here, this is going to be a tough one so if you're such a guy, you should probably stop reading past this step and accept that the past will always bug you to some extent.

If you're serious, then continue forward. Location will have a huge say in all of this btw.

4 - Building your circle, brotherhood, and finding a decent one.

You don't have to make friends with model photographers and celebrities, that will be tough to do and unrealistic for most of you anyways. On the other hand, you don't want to end up being the guy whose social circle mainly consists of MMORPG players or bitter neckbeards either. You need decent friends and that means respectable men around your age range who aren't married as well as even some cute girls. A lot of this will depend on who you are how well your mindset and hobbies correlate with the circle you run in.

Now this is not so easy to do and a lot rests on your location and your lifestyle but it is doable. What worked for me was finally getting a second job as a bartender at a nightclub, I made some amazing friends that I could have great conversations with. After talking to many of these guys who ranged from former high school Chads to guys that were having a fun time in college, I found how not only how overrated some of these experiences can be but also how you can have an amazing experience with women, relationships, and social life well past your school days.

I also realized and experienced how in the end, I was really stressing over nothing and that life doesn't end at 25 in terms of having fun with girls and relationships. Me telling you this is one thing but you have to go out there and experience it. You will also have more options in terms of social events and not waste so much time depressing about the past.

I found that my second job filled a social life gap in my life and I was finally making friends with the kinds of guys I could chill with, unfortunately I do feel the burn out from it. A part of me always wanted to work at a nightclub so I went this route, it might not be doable for most of you.

Wish I could help you guys more here but the options vary. I think sports teams (intramural) are a decent place to start but you have to go where decent respectable people (as opposed to angry neckbeards) congregate.

5 - LTRs, don't dismiss them at all, and treat some girls as more than just plates and flings.

I get it, ONS are fun but get into some LTRs if you can. Now don't do something crazy like getting married or anything, just put yourself out there and see which of the girls you have been with are cool for an LTR. You will find that being a couple, making friends is going to be easy and your social life will become even more broad. I am sure that some of your plates are going to be decent girls that aren't batshit crazy, get into that LTR with them. Date a girl for a while and go through those motions of being in a relationship and having her meet some of your friends. A lot of Chads in high school and college had girlfriends for some period of time.

6 - Experience "intimacy" but always keep the red pill in mind.

You don't get married or anything, you just find a girl that you click with and get into an LTR with her. Put up those cheesy photos on Instagram of you with your cute girlfriend, get those likes and phony comments. Naturally, your confidence will rise as others take note of how you're with a cute girl. Date her for a bit and do things that couples do but always remember the red pill, you don't marry her or anything of the sort. Ideally, a girl like this should be around your age so it feels more normal.

If you're one of the lucky few who dates a hot girl, show up to the bar or an event with a hot girl by your arm and see how much respect you get from it. Slowly, your past memories are going to go away and you won't care so much about the game.

7 - Have a blast, live it up, get it out of your system, and experience life but do so with friends and your girlfriend; ESPECIALLY if you are younger than 30.

If you're older than 30, this can get more difficult as people get more "serious" at that age, maybe other 30 somethings can help here. Now if you're younger than 30, then put some time aside to have a great time with your girlfriend and friends. Go out together as a group to bars and enjoy a fun night, go to Coachella together when you get the chance, or maybe spend some fun time on vacation together as a group. You take your girlfriend on the trip as your friends bring theirs along, obviously you're not married (well at least you're not).

I dated a cute girl one time and one of my best nights was when she was dressed real well, so was I, and a group of our friends who were couples went out bar hopping in a big city late at night. It was a hell of a feeling, it definitely beats being the loner that just goes out to bars to pick up girls.

Throw up pics of you out with your group and crowd, put them on social media so you can look back and smile on them one day, and truly enjoy those precious moments before you turn 30 because after 30 it will undoubtedly get tougher to do this.

8 - Move on, you'll naturally want to, find your fulfilling life.

After a couple years of normal socializing, making lots of friends, and a decent LTR; you'll move on. So far you have slept around a bit, made great friends, gone to great social events because of the friends you made (assuming you made quality friends and not neckbeard friends), found your hobbies that make you desirable to the world, dated a cute girl, and gone to social events with her and your friends. People see you in a different light now and you didn't have to be a PUA guru in order to find fulfillment.

Now, you move on, you're over it. You will naturally be drawn to your life purpose now after having had those fun experiences with your girlfriend and some amazing friends.

Some of your friends might get married (you should obviously be careful about that path) and some will go their own way, friendships work like that in the adult world. Now you're over it and now you will find yourself focusing more and more and more on your life purpose and less on validation. When other guys talk about wanting to be the next Hugh Hefner, you laugh a bit on the inside because you've experience it all.

Now you will want something much more than just sex, women, and validation. As you progress, you will be drawn to whatever life purpose you wanted to be drawn to. You're going to be over it and you're going to move forward in life, truly hitting whatever goal you wanted to with 100% focus.