Summary: This is a brief discussion about the type of love most of society’s men tend to develop for women and how it can be likened to drug addiction and withdrawal. The purpose is to garner a greater understanding of how dangerously seductive the concept of maternal love is to men and why men behave the way they do when the carpet is ripped out from underneath their desperate feet.


Recently I was discussing with a friend (who happens to be the one by whom I was lucky enough to come across the manosphere) his recent break up and consequent climb into the MGTOW realm. I asked whether or not he loved her, a rather misleading question if one considers his already-strong propensity for TRP philosophy. His answer, however, encouraged the post you are reading now:

“According to my definition, yes. I think for you to love someone, there has to be some element of them having control over you. It may be sexual it may not be. The fact that I usually put her first even when it would fuck me over demonstrates either her control over me or the fact that I genuinely cared about her well-being more than mine sometimes.”

Therein lies the uncanny resemblance to drug-like behavior: much like a stimulant or narcotic can become controlling and all-encompassing of one’s life, so can love. It is no secret that the feeling (or state of mind, which I find more appropriate) we call love releases numerous potent chemicals in the brain that directly affect our well-being.1 Furthermore, love begets dependency, which guarantees a withdrawal of some measure. This is why we have more men committing suicide after a bad break-up or divorce2 : per women’s hypergamy, they will make short work of their troubled state while men who dared indulge in maternal love will suffer devastating withdrawal.

My good friend makes another fine point:

"I acted irrationally because of her a lot. That’s how I know it was love, because to me if you’re still able to think rationally especially in situations including her or us or pertaining to her or us, that isn’t love. Love isn’t rational."

How many drug addicts can you instantly imagine behaving completely asinine to get their fix? The conclusion here is simple, as he eloquently put it: love isn’t rational. It is the suspension of reason and rationale, and by extension, a terrible addiction which generates poor results during and following its presence.

It occurred to me at this point that love, defined accordingly, would then necessarily be synonymous with danger - something to avoid at all costs. Sure, it has its benefits, much like the cost/benefit duality of the actions of adrenaline junkies. The risks, however, seem much more comparable to the hazards of drug addiction; thus, a true TRP man can only entertain a love relationship with trepidation.

What happens when this “love fix” is suddenly extracted from a man? Having indulged far too long in an incorrectly exploited type of love, men are shattered. Some of the most powerful chemicals in our brain, created by love, become scarce and create a withdrawal effect. I quote my friend one last time:

"They bargain and they fend and they do anything to get that ‘love fix’ back. They spend all of their time and money and resources and in the end both actual drugs and the love drug leave them empty and broken."

This likely isn’t news to any of you; I’m sure a majority of you have flirted with relationships before and after your discovery of TRP. The metaphor is the main takeaway here. It is a simplified illustration of the behavior and danger of men’s love - which I can only hope makes it easier to both understand and pass along.


  • Love behaves like a drug
  • Love is addictive and therefore dangerous
  • Men suffer greater withdrawal from love than women

Further Reading:

1 Chemicals of Love http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm

2 Disparity in Divorce-related Suicide http://www.newsweek.com/2015/02/20/suicide-men-305913.html