Summary: TRP is here to give you the tools to succeed, not to hold your hand as you try to find your way in the world.

So there's a lot of shit being flung by people at MikeHaines and his post about getting laid like a warlord. Whilst it's personally a little too PUA for my liking, the heart of his message is something we preach all the time here on TRP, and a tenet that you will find espoused over and over again: Frame is essential in order to succeed with women.

Your frame and your confidence are how you address the world and the terms with which you communicate. Is it more important than looks? Arguably so--and I say that as a man whose primary means of getting laid throughout his life has been a combination of looks and defying people's expectations. That being said, I know a number of men who are anything but lookers who don't struggle at all with getting women. These are men who have maximised the other aspects of theri life--their charm, humour,confidence and overall value--and have parlayed that into successful personal lives.

The primary difference between those men and a good chunk of the men here is that the successful men did not sit and agonise over the fact that they were short/fat/ugly/all of the above. They got up and did what was necessary to offset the importance of the things they lacked. They amplified everything else about them to the point where it balanced out with what they lacked to the extent that it was possible. Now don't get me wrong; even if you max out your potential as a base level unattractive male, you're always going to fall if a taller, better looking man comes along who has all the personality traits that you possess. The fact is that looks matter a whole lot, and they're often the difference maker in how certain actions and words are perceived. Heck, this guy basically acts like a social retard and yet still gets IOIs from quite a few of the girls in there because he's in the upper echelon in terms of looks. You're not getting away with that if you look like an oompa-loompa, no matter how rock solid your frame is. But that(running into guys with and insurmountable advantage over you) is very rare, and, honestly, if you're winning 8 out of 10 times and choose to focus on the 2 times when you lose, you need to re-think your frame of thinking.

You know what else matters? Confidence! And how do you get confidence? By acting. And there in lies the problem. See, your confidence is lies in the fact that, first and foremost, you're detached from the outcome of whatever you're doing. All your investment is in the action itself. Secondly, confidence comes from trying and failing, and trying and failing, and trying and succeeding. Every time you're rejected is an opportunity to improve. Remember to not take it personally, and to come away from the experience with a greater knowledge of your game than you had before.

But people don't wanna hear that. Instead, they want someone to come and give them 39 steps to foolproof sex with that hot bitch, and, if and when they come across something they disagree with, they'll moan about how it's all wrong. Because I can guarantee you that a significant number of the people who go against the importance of confidence do so because it casts a negative light on them. All of a sudden, the aspects that determine their success with women are in their control, which means they are responsible--and God forbid anyone take responsibility for anything anymore.

Rather than lament what you think is wrong with someone else's approach(and believe me, there are quite a few things I would caution against), go out there, improve yourself to saturation, and find out what has netter you the most positive outcomes. Most people wanna run it over in some theoretical engine of social interaction in their mind and decide that the methods won't work for anyone because they don't have the grit to pull it off. It really is that last stumbling block in your subconscious that sends you into auto-rejection when a less-than-positive light is shined at you. Shifting from that to the mindset of "How can I improve myself in this regard?" is an invaluable step for you.

Go out there and try and try and try until you succeed. Focus on the things you can improve, not what's out of your range of control.Who knows; you might actually become a man.