A huge part of TRP is about "spinning plates" i.e. getting sex from multiple women and having plenty of sexual options. During sex, they say that men should be dominant and only care about their own pleasure. Because apparently if a man only focuses on his own pleasure, she will automatically be the most turned on. Focusing too much on a woman's pleasure is "beta" and "putting her on a pedestal". They also say that a woman's pleasure is completely unnecessary for reproduction.

However, women on PPD and elsewhere say that most men are "terrible" or "selfish" in bed. They say that they would be having more casual sex if they were guaranteed an orgasm and most men weren't so bad in bed. In the FemaleDatingStrategy sub, women say you should dump a man if he is selfish in bed. They say that a man will always have an orgasm during sex, so he should be focusing on the woman's pleasure and what he can do to get her off.

So should men be focusing on their own sexual pleasure, or the woman's? Or is there a middle ground between the two that is more appropriate?