So I've recently decided that I'd like to spend my time seeking a true long-term relationship (LTR) to, theoretically, settle into my golden years with. It hasn't escaped my attention that I'm getting older, and if I'm going to go the route of marriage and family, now is the time to put the whores and plates aside (yes, sad face) and get serious with finding someone worthy of those tasks.

The first thought to cross my mind was, with everything I've learned in the past four years, how the fuck do I do that? With everything I know about female nature, Red Pill theory, feminism, female agency (or, the complete lack of...), hypergamy, modern promiscuity... the task seems daunting, to say the least.

The initial stage of crossing this bridge should be a total paradigm shift in thinking. The Red Pill, rightfully, advocates that if you're pursuing promiscuity and spinning plates, both low risk propositions, you should be aiming for a woman with the highest Sexual Market Value- after all, why not? It's low risk, so who cares? Hell, for a plate, there is such little vetting, you should be aiming for whomever the hell strikes your fancy. The weird girl with the black hair and the big tits? Sure. The aesthetically plain girl who gives the best blow jobs you've ever had? Go for it. The hot-as-hell blonde club girl who you gamed the living fuck out of and earned every bit of her hot, sticky pussy? You betcha.

There is very little vetting involved in hooking-up with a girl and making her a plate- it's essentially whatever you're into.

However, with the paradigm shift to a long-term relationship, suddenly you're tasked with conducting rigorous and extreme vetting. And, yes, it should be acknowledged that no woman can be 100% vetted- this is a risk you're taking if you decide to go the route of a LTR.

With that said, I believe this paradigm shift involves the acknowledgment that for a successful long-term relationship, the relationship dynamic must trump the aesthetics of the woman in terms of importance. I am not telling you to go dumpster diving, however, it's important to understand that the greater the discrepancy between your own sexual market value and hers- the greater the gap between the two of you- will inherently produce the highest degree of stability in your relationship.

So this begs the question, if aesthetics are not of primary importance in vetting a woman for a long-term relationship- unlike the low risk proposition of plate-spinning- what exactly should you prioritize?

  1. Femininity: This should be pretty close to your top priority, if not the top of your list. Most women have absolutely no understanding of femininity what-so-ever, and if you ask them they'll confuse it with the idea of being girly- a well-made up girl with hair, nails, P!NK etc.; this usually compliments the feminine woman but is not necessarily feminine in-and-of itself (a feminine woman usually, but not always, will embrace appearing like a traditionally attractive girl, however traditionally attractive girls are not necessarily feminine). In short, Femininity is the quality that a woman is willing to be submissive to the man whom she selects as her own; this is the opposite of the female ego which Feminism (itself the opposite of femininity) has infected the average woman with. The female ego looks to break down and triumph over the male, and the less feminine a woman is the more she will unconsciously attempt to destroy your frame, ergo sabotaging your relationship. Remember, Femininity is not an on/off switch- it's a spectrum, so do your best to find the most feminine woman you can. A crib notes way of getting a sense of a woman's femininity is to get a feel for how she treats valueless men (omegas); is she kind? Does she treat them with dignity and humanity? The average, unfeminine woman treats these types with disgust and it says a tremendous amount about her. Also, a feminine woman is typically very good with kids.

  2. Her family, her relationship with her family- most specifically, her relationship with her father: Quickly assessing these aspects of her life is absolutely crucial in vetting a woman for a LTR. Her family very likely says a tremendous amount about her character and values. Does she have good parents? Are they active, interesting, and productive? Is her mother feminine? Is her father masculine? Would you consider them respectable? Is she good to her parents? Better, is she good to her grandparents (if possible)? Does she understand the basics of being a good, respectful daughter? Does she respect her father? A good bet is if she only has kind things to say about her parents until you know her well (everyone has complaints, and I don't think confiding in you as a confidant is so terrible- as long as it's relatively deep into the relationship). Even if you're an OMMFG ATHEIST, if her family goes to church that's a big green flag.

  3. Fitness: Simply put, she must have exercise and a healthy diet habitually ingrained in her routine before proceeding. Not a New Years Resolution, not a Couch2Chad plan, not a looking good for the wedding plan; a genuine interest in fitness and diet- the more she knows, and the more authentic her interest is, the better. I don't care if she's an overall aesthetic five- you're interested in the long-haul here, and you sure as fucking hell aren't going to partner up with a fatass; remember, it doesn't matter if your plate is taking bong hits and sucking down cheetos, but it absolutely matters for a LTR prospect.

  4. Political Alignment:I always got a kick out of fucking dumbshit liberals, but, if I'm looking for an eventual harmonious household and children raised with a proper foundation of values, she must be in alignment with my political beliefs, and whether you, yourself, are on the left or right, I suggest you do the same. I value political alignment over intelligence, again, because it speaks to core foundational values.

  5. Chemistry/Charm: Female game, outside of the aesthetic arena, is charm. Yes, charm can be manipulative, but it works for a reason- a charming girl is alluring, sexy, typically feminine, and magnetic. A woman's charm is a kind of "spice of life"; a positive energy that can motivate and inspire. While aesthetics certainly hold value (again, I'm not suggesting you dumpster dive), I would absolutely take a highly charming five over a uncharming seven.

  6. How easily is she embarrassed? Are you able to (playfully) make her uncomfortable? This one may seem strange at first, but I have a thing for making girls feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. I believe it's an off-shoot of truly getting off on dominance and control (my form of dominance is predominantly psychological), and it occurred to me that the more able a girl is to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable, and susceptible to teasing, the more likely it is that she's fairly inexperienced and not very promiscuous. Experience creates a kind of callous to being embarrassed; feeling embarrassed speaks to inexperience- the more she's been touched, the more she's been promiscuous, the less embarrassed she's going to be able to feel. Think of it this way- what the fuck could embarrass a girl who's sucked off a stranger in a bathroom stall? Just an idea I'm working on.

For the best possible long-term relationship, you need a girl you can handle in the long-run; again, this speaks to the paradigm shift you'll need to undertake if you're interested in a long-term relationship. This is entirely different than gaming the best possible fuck for plate status. While you should always be willing to walk away from a damaged situation, if you're looking for a long-term relationship, you should be also willing to want to go, you know, long term with it. A girl you can game in the short-term may not be a girl whom you could handle in the long-term; while similar, long-term game is essentially hard mode, and if there's not a great enough discrepancy between her Sexual Market Value and your own, you may not be able to adequately hold frame in the long-term.

Again, aesthetics are important- don't dumpster dive- but I don't believe they are primary in what you should look for in a long-term relationship. The truth is that a more attractive girl will always have more options, and she'll absolutely know it. Even if she isn't willing to be a 15 min lay for Chad, it's possible that a more attractive girl may have an aging Chad willing to marry her up- and if there's too great a discrepancy between you and Chad, it's a wrap. A less attractive girl (not unattractive, relax) will have less men of high value throwing themselves at her with actual long-term intentions making the situation less high-risk (yes, there's always risk, welcome to real life).

TLDR: If you are serious about finding a long-term relationship with the intentions of marriage and family, the greater the Sexual Market Value discrepancy between you and her will make the relationship less high-risk and easier to manage; there are a lot of great qualities to look for that you may want to prioritize over aesthetics.

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