AITA for telling my brother to stop complaining about child support since he chose to have sex with a woman he barely knew?

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My brother (26/M) has a one year old son with a woman he was never in a relationship with, apparently they were friends with benefits.

Long story short she got pregnant, he wanted her to abort and she refused, she had the baby, he got a DNA test confirming he’s the dad, now he pays child support. They share custody.

I had dinner with him the other day and as usually he bitched about how child support is unfair, etc. I told him for the first time that it’s his fault. He chose to have sex knowing the risk of pregnancy. He got mad and said it’s not fair because women can abort but men can’t, I told him he knew that before he has sex with her but he still risked it. He called me an asshole, but I was just being honest.

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I just woke up and I’m surprised at all the hate messages I’ve gotten from other guys. I AM A MAN. So many of the hate messages assume I must be a woman because I believe in sexual responsibility. Wtf is wrong with men today... this shit is weird.