I (m 21) have been talking to a girl (22) for about a month. She has all the important qualities I'm looking for (strong Christian, same beliefs as me, living a life that reflects God's love, etc). We get along really well, we have a very similar sense of humor and hold very similar political beliefs. I definitely want to keep talking to her and go out on dates and see if it works out between us. She would also like to, but one thing is holding her back: I'm going into law enforcement. She said that before she has told herself that she would never date or marry someone who is a cop or going into law enforcement, but she's rethinking that. She said half of her doesn't want to pursue this, but the other half really wants to keep talking and see where it goes. I understand that law enforcement is really hard on marriage, but at the same time I fully believe that as long as God stays the center and the focal point in the relationship that through God marriage would very well work, which I have voiced to her. We both would like to take it slow, and I fully Intend to wait at least a year of being on the force before getting married, because I know the job changes you in ways you don't know until you go through it. Anyone have any advice as to what I should do? Also, anyone in law enforcement have any advice on how to handle a relationship while in law enforcement? My intention was to not date until I was on the job for about a year, but then I met this girl and she's awesome, so I would be a fool not to pursue her, but at the same time I want her to be happy and not to get hurt.
Edit: Apparently I violated rule 2, I thought I didn't need to put down things that didn't have anything to do with the question. So here's the fix. I am 5'7", 125lbs (I'm a runner and have a stupid high metabalism, sue me). I accepted Jesus as my savior when I was 5. I am currently finishing out police academy and have a part time job as a security guard. I also joined the Navy Reserves as a Master at Arms and I ship off in September.
Edit: The reason why my height, weight, physical build does not matter in this situation is because we have not physically seen each other. She has a compromised immune system and has a heart condition worsened by hot days, so now would not be a good time for her to be going out and socializing. That being said, the value of working out is not lost on me.
I have not bent any of my rules. When I said my intention was to not date, I worded that poorly. What I should have said is I do not intend to actively be looking for someone to date, but if someone came along that I like then I could see where it goes. Hopefully that clears up some confusion.
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