Hello RPW!

I am posting here again because you all were so helpful last time I had a question.

There is a woman who works in the same office space as my husband, let's call her Sarah. She moved in to the space about a month ago. The day she moved in my husband came home to tell me how much I would like her.

The next few days he and she were talking more, he mentioned that I came down with the baby rabies last year and am really looking forward to starting a family. We had loosely decided to start trying to conceive in April.

She immediately started saying in no uncertain terms that everything we wanted to do is not good. She said that I would of course have to work because if we divorced I could screw him over for a lot of money. My plan was and still is to stay at home while the kids are young.

She said that 23 is really young to come down with baby rabies. She non stop talks about how expensive childcare is and how expensive raising a baby is (I am extremely frugal, only shop thrift). She tells him how hard it is to raise children and how if we knew how hard it was we wouldn't do it.

She says that anyone who wants to have a large family (like I do, always have, that's why we are starting so early) is crazy and ill advised.

And finally, my husband invited me to lunch with her and her husband where she said all of the above things to me directly. Every time I talked about being excited to have children she would say something nasty to me, even had the audacity to ask me how I planned on paying for all of my children and insinuating that me staying at home is a burden for my husband.

My husband has, since meeting this woman a month ago, cooled on the idea of starting in April, which we are ready for, so that I can work for an extra year. This may be irrational (I don't think it is) but I think she is telling him that me wanting to stay home with our kids is a burden for him.

So I walked back to my husband's office with her to drop hubby off and we haven't had a chance to talk. He does know that I don't like that he's joking about me having baby rabies with her and that the comment about us divorcing (seriously, what the fuck) is ridiculous. He also seemed very uncomfortable at lunch today.

My question is, how should I proceed respectfully. I am struggling to contain my frustration in this circumstance. I want to start trying in April like we had planned, and I don't want to fight bitterly about this.