As the title states my bf (28) isn't a fan of his LTR wearing makeup. I do my makeup daily with foundation, blush, highlight, and mascara for work days. I do enjoy doing myself up to the nines on weekends with added little pops of color with eyeshadow and a nude, pinky lip. I don't think I overdo my looks and I don't even do my brows or wear false lashes, but my bf will comment on my"clown face" while I'm getting ready at my vanity.

He says whores do heavy makeup and his girl is not a whore, plus I'm apparently going to ruin my skin. I do struggle with hormonal acne and I get flare ups regardless if I'm wearing makeup or not, but he still attributes every outbreak I have to my makeup.

The thing is he's physically attracted to girls who happen to wear heavy makeup and he's probably not aware that girls who seem "natural" are in fact skilled at the no makeup makeup look. I take pride in my appearance and notice that he's more grabby and complimentary when I'm done up versus just hanging around the house in PJs with messy hair. I don't think he realizes it himself but taking time on my appearance does affect his behavior toward me on a subconscious level.

I get that he might be putting me on a pedestal with some kind of Madonna-whore complex. When he talks about the negative behaviors of other women (nagging, sleeping around etc), he tends to back track and note that I don't fall into that category of women. According to him I'm one of the"good girls." I'm having a hard time convincing him that I put effort into makeup not only to boost my own confidence, but to please him and him alone. When he makes comments about makeup I ask him if he would rather have a visually pleasing girlfriend who puts effort into her appearance or have me look frumpy.

He says he likes me better without makeup, but I'm hesitant to believe that based on his increased interest and advances toward me while I'm wearing it. I get that many men criticize makeup as artificially inflating SMV, but then watch porn featuring girls wearing pounds of makeup. Can you ladies share some insight on this? Makeup is almost a hobby for me and I want to understand how I can help calm his hostility towards me wearing makeup without becoming too defensive.