I was a lifelong virgin until age 29, when I did hundreds of approaches, went through a grueling process of learning from my mistakes over and over again and finally getting good enough to sleep with dozens of women and get a few Friends With Benefits in the process.

If you’re grinding out there trying to get good with girls, remember to focus on one problem at a time. Devote all your energy to solving one step then move on to the other. Don’t make the mistake I made which was shiny object syndrome and trying out new techniques every night.

For example, if you can’t get girls to even have a conversation with you after the opener, then you need to do everything possible to solve this. For me, wearing elevator shoes, a blazer, getting a pompadour fade haircut, a nice watch, and having perfect body language and voice projection solves this issue and I found most girls are now willing to engage in conversation.

Then I reached the next sticking point. Girls aren’t willing to come with me when I tried to isolate them - move them to another part of the bar or go on an instadate with them. The solution was to sexualize the conversation strategically, sprinkling hints of sex throughout though being subtle enough not to outright talk about sex.

Then I reached the next sticking point. After isolation (date or bar) I wasn’t able to secure a makeout with the girl. This one was weird but it turns out I have a weird ass kissing style. I had to record myself kissing a pillow for practice and then watch romantic movies and observe what the difference is. It’s little small details like putting one hand on her lower back and cupping the back of her neck gently with the other hand that made the difference. Before I didn’t use any hands and just puckered up and leaned in which looked weird as fuck compared to the romantic movie scene kisses.

Finally, I reached the point where I could move a girl home but somehow sex just wouldn’t happen. I sometimes got a blowjob but no sex. The solution to this problem was to make sure there was some activity to do at home that allows for natural escalation. For example, one of my favorite things to do is make Sangria with the girl. It’s super easy and sexy since you’re both chopping up fruits in the kitchen and drinking together. Plenty of opportunities to make out and touch each other. Another thing that really worked was just taking my shirt off first and making out with her. Being the one to initiate the clothes coming off is a lot better than waiting for her to start taking clothes off. This applies to taking your pants off as well. Always take off everything at once, if your dick is out, it has the highest chance of actually leading to sex.

That’s all for now. Solve one problem at a time. Everyone has different sticking points so I can’t promise that what worked for me will work for you. But I can promise that you will learn significantly faster if you can identify which parts of the seduction process you are failing in and doing everything possible to fix that weakness before moving on to the next step. There should be active attempts to fix weaknesses every time you go out, not just mindless spam approaching girl after girl

And most important of all, keep going! You got this! Never give up until you win!