I made the mistake of browsing PPD the other day. Out of morbid curiosity, I searched for ‘RPW’ to see how BP-ers ‘spin’ our little niche.

As I have noticed in my interactions with active PPD folks who come to post here, it seemed they were hell-bent on willfully misinterpreting and straw-manning what we stand for here. Most posts asking ‘What do RPW actually stand for?’ were answered with ‘Being abused. Plate school. Internalized misogyny. Sucking TRP mod cyber-dick.’ With few exceptions, these were answered by PPD-ers whose opinion was formed out of their own little circlejerk rather than actually participating here.

So even though I'm posting in RPW where I'm already preaching to the choir, and this won't be new knowledge to anyone here, I’m going to throw in my two cents, because I think I owe this place more than to sit by and let it be maligned.

I came to RPW because the blue-pill message I had received from the dominant culture had failed me.

  • “The right man will just fall into your lap when it’s time. Don’t worry about dating to try to increase your odds, you precious Woman. You never have to do anything that puts you outside of your comfort zone.”
  • “The right man will love you unconditionally exactly as you are, and if you’re fat and mean, well-- he’s just not Man Enough to handle you.”
  • “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. There is no value in male leadership. If you let a man lead, you're being abused. Watch out, all men are just trying to fuck you over.”
  • “Weight doesn’t matter. BMI is a lie. All sizes are sexy and healthy!”
  • “Men are most impressed by Spunky Women who are smart enough to verbally spar with them, and win by attrition, every hour of every day. So don’t worry about being positive, receptive, easygoing, or sweet. Be critical and competitive with men to show them you’re Just So Smart.”
  • “Having kids can always wait. Never prioritize family over career. You can just postpone these decisions indefinitely. Did you see that article about that woman who had a kid at 50?”

Given how often I heard these mantras-- and from the abundance of sources, from my Smith-educated pals to Buzzfeed to TV shows-- I figured, ‘They must be right.’ And even I was complicit in my own deception. I repeated these lies to myself when I felt a pang of anxiety. These lies were a great security blanket, because most of them required very little action from me. I could stay chunky and sad! I could avoid having to put myself out there and date in the dangerous world! I could stick my fingers in my ears and avoid the nagging sense that I was falling behind, that I’d really like a husband.

Ultimately, I had to take the much-maligned, oft-misunderstood Women’s Red Pill.

RPW helped me fix my body issues and my brief stint in what I can now recognize as depression. RPW helped me date rationally, intentionally, without anxiety, and without feeling undue pressure to put out and act unlike myself.

Since I knew what men ACTUALLY wanted-- a sweet, healthy partner who is receptive to their strengths as men-- I was freed from the pressure to act cool and aloof, constantly be on the defensive, and chase men. Since I knew how to vet for a wonderful man, I was freed from petty insecurities, from the fear that he was just looking for a quick nut, that he’d just string me along. I knew how to recognize men like that and what to do to protect myself.

Living out the ideas on RPW helped me find a wonderful husband, a better job, a healthier body, and a healthier mind.

And I’m still here, because I’m starting to see that it’s part of a broader picture. Even though sometimes we gotta roast the guys who post here for giving bad advice, I believe that the RPW readership (and the men who comment productively here) are the only group of people in the Pill-o-sphere that are focused on harmony between the sexes-- not just sexually, but in terms of our society.

I think the deepest BP lie, being propagated consciously or unconsciously right now, is that Men Are Bad. Men are cruel, men are power-mad, men hate women, men want to subjugate women. Yes, there are some men who are like this, just like there are women with equally evil qualities.

I think that the fundamental RPW truth-- the reason I read here even though I’m past needing to learn the SMP basics-- is that men are good. The sexes evolved to complement one another, not to scrabble in a power-struggle for eternity. I believe men are not emotionally stunted failed women-- they are stoic because they can’t afford to freak out and cry when the tigers come to eat our babies. I believe they aren’t sex-crazed monsters-- they are biologically wired to want sex just like any other type of biological wiring. I believe they are not evil chauvinists upholding the patriarchy by keeping women down-- they are leaders and protectors.

Thanks for reading this far lol.