LTR asked if I use her for sex.

drugtofuck · 2018-12-25T19:26:17+00:00

Most guys go through that phase when their women accuse them of wanting them just for sex. Just keep your frame and maybe give her a bit of comfort. Just not with your words but actions.

Be worried if I stop wanting you for sex.

that was very good response. Nothing more needed.

redhawkes · 2018-12-25T18:37:03+00:00

Remember one thing, if she starts using her pussy as a weapon, bail.

This is an attempt to make you an eunuch if played wrong. Maybe lack of comfort from your side since she’s your ltr, but many guys fail this shit and go full beta.

You should’ve gone with your line or ‘do you not’ right away to prevent DEERing. Anyways, keep slaying, this was just seeking comfort.

creating_my_life · 2018-12-25T18:45:03+00:00

"I use you for blowjobs, too"

"don't forget your cooking."

"I stole your netflix login too."

this is RP101 stuff. Agree and amplify.

It's also a comfort test, the opposite of a shit test.

she's also betafying you. don't fall into the trap.

"worry when I stop wanting you for sex" was good.

Ignore this one and move on. don't get sucked into the vortex.

King-Manlet · 2018-12-25T20:32:45+00:00

Half of the advise here is actually awful. You’ve been going out for 7 months. You don’t need to promise her the world but you don’t need to be a dick either. It’s alright to show emotion, she’s your girlfriend not a thot. I’d say you handled it alright to begin with. I’d just comfort her a little without being overly wet.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-12-25T19:03:46+00:00

Actually "Don't worry that I want to have sex with you a lot, worry that I might STOP wanting to have sex with you," is what I've used in the past.

Also, figure out which one of her friends is trying to fuck you over and cauterize that bitch. Never let a woman shame you for wanting sex. It's the male imperative.

2comment · 2018-12-26T00:53:21+00:00

I even gave her a gift for Christmas, why would I do that if I was using her for sex?

Eh, to get more sex?

xKo17 · 2018-12-25T20:28:54+00:00

Comfort her a bit, definitely do not respond like a red pilled robot. If you actually have feelings for her tell her like 25% of them. 7 months is a while man I would start to think of reasons your still with her and plan accordingly.

ohyesimthatguy · 2018-12-26T00:42:20+00:00

I would have turned it into a joke and said something like "really? That's funny because I was worried YOU we're just using me for my Superman cock... I'm a human not just a piece of meat you know"

[deleted] · 2018-12-25T23:58:59+00:00

Well, you do use her for sex, right? Like.... do you use her for cleaning your place? Is she a maid? Is she your personal chef? Is she your study buddy? Is she your therapist? Substitute mother?.....

.... or is she your playful cumbucket?

Flpgneves · 2018-12-26T00:52:00+00:00

This a situation I call "Testing for comfortable seduction".

It's a comfort test, but it's not about just make her feel "at ease" or "relieved" about you/your feelings towards you, like saying: "Yeah, baby, I love you". That's the way to familiarity and boredom in LTR, aka, path to Beta Avenue.

She wants comfort through seduction. It's seems minimal, but there is a crucial difference to regular tests. When you agree and amplify this kind of situation, it can work, but AA is way more about seduction, not comfort. That's why we use it to seduce girls at clubs, for example. I think is just a temporary solution, she will bring the same subject up after awhile. You actually need to combine both seduction and comfort.

It's basically givin yourself up a litte to comfort her, but in a way that, at the same time, INCREASES the dominant part of your frame to balance it out.

Very basic example:

"You should worry when I don't want you for sex anymore" -> Increasing dominance.

AND

You give her more hugs -> A little bit more comfort.

That's how I do it, it usually work pretty well.

Zanford · 2018-12-26T00:03:46+00:00

A&A is always the way to go with this shit test

"That's not true! I use you for sex AND the good liquor you have"

"Well I was planning to just use you for sex, but then we started watching [show] together so I guess I'll stick around to see how it hends"

chazthundergut · 2018-12-25T19:46:04+00:00

She wants you to validate her and tell her how much you like her.

Don't.

wawakaka · 2018-12-26T03:57:40+00:00

thats the six month LETS TALK conversation where she wants to know where your relationship is going. things probably been easy until now.

this is usually when you have to decide to cut and run or stay. she's putting the pressure on you to be locked into a relationship.

you gotta flip the script a bit tell her she's making you uncomfortable cause you thought everything was good between the both of you and now you think after everything you've done for her she's seems ungrateful.

Velebit · 2018-12-26T03:30:08+00:00

'Your selfesteem is so low you assume the only value you provide is sex'

'That is actually sad'

You wanna discipline them not to have retarded thoughts. I always try turning tests back on them as they always come from a position of weakness. If a girl is sure of herself and you there is never any reason to make any measurements.

If you feed into that weakness you are being betaified into a provider, in this case of emotional crap. If you deflect, you are playing a game and the issue will arise again.

By throwing it back at her, you train her mind that Doubting him=ends in feeling like shit.

thatboyjeff · 2018-12-26T00:33:04+00:00

So did you say yes?

/thread

RomeNeverFell · 2018-12-26T00:37:24+00:00

You handled it well so far. Stop engaging and let the thing drop.

bikermonk · 2018-12-26T02:30:31+00:00

Why don't you tell her to stay away and sort her shit out. This is a test of how much you want her and if you show an iota of need your value goes down by a factor of a million.

She should feel replaceable and should be on her toes. Tell her you have been the way it's apt to be like around her and if she had issues she can take time off to think about it, you neither have the time nor energy for such unquantifiable metrics

Also, ask her to not get fat

wereworm5 · 2018-12-26T04:12:14+00:00

Thank you for posting this. I am exactly going through the same issue. I dint realize it was a comfort test. All I have ever read was about shit test. I’ll do a bit more reading in this and hopefully clear it

bradtwo · 2018-12-26T04:35:02+00:00

Sounds needy.

jenovajunkie · 2018-12-26T05:24:20+00:00

7 months, is a long time to be with someone just for sex. Staying together in a relationship requires work.

I mean if it were just sex, wouldn't you have moved onto another girl that offered you a different sexual experience. At least that's how I would tell her, that if it were just about sex then you would just move on to a new girl to get your rocks off.

drugtofuck · 2018-12-26T09:08:12+00:00

What I'm going to tell her today if she says something on that topic:

I realize that this comes from a place of insecurity and weakness. Look, by saying this you seem very ungtateful for everything I have done for you. I've given you a lot of my time and attention and by saying you directly offend me. Also if I didn't like you as a person, I wouldn't be with you for that long. I would like to end that topic now.

What do you think guys? Also thanks for all the responses!

hopelesshotel · 2018-12-26T09:41:43+00:00

never give validation, always try to find an excuse not to give it to her, Always imply it. e.g. “you know how i feel about you”

SwoleyMoleyFrijoley · 2019-01-16T18:18:04+00:00

My GF asked me this shit once, I said "I cuddle as hard as I fuck, when I get home I'll show you"

Fucked her when I got home, but made sure to cuddle, pillow talk her a bit after while rubbing her ass/back.

walawalawa · 2018-12-26T00:22:02+00:00

This is a shit-test. Part of this is coming from a position of snatching frame.

Once this starts to happen you have to have iron frame or be prepared to dump her or for her to walk.

Where this is coming from could be a number of places: frame control, loss of attraction, comfort or possibly some other guy hitting on her and this shit test is her way of rationalizing all this.

Agree and amplify. Make yourself less available and start to consider the prospect this is slipping out of your control and if you don't seize it, she'll walk due to loss of attraction.

A few Red Pill Truths:

Always keep 2 in the kitty,

have your own interests,

make yourself your mission,

women should complement your life

be prepared to lose her

I've been in this position far too many times I care to remember and it's only been recently that I've been better at managing this.

The two cases in which something similar happened---the girl I was banging tree-branched to other guys. My reaction was to ghost them the second I received a message like the one you describe.

salamchik · 2018-12-25T19:01:29+00:00

That’s I guess a comfort test. So I guess you should give her a statement which is going to make her feel comfortable. Say something cocky, funny and meaningful at the same time.

Just an example:

Babe, if I used you for sex only, I wouldn’t be still with you. Kiss smile.

Something like this. It’s not a shit test where she is trying to test your frame. She probably feels like a piece of meat for fucking. If that’s a LTR material then give her a validation here. You are don’t going to lose your frame because of that.

el_Technico · 2018-12-25T19:24:58+00:00

"that's not true, I also want you to make me a sandwich"

And then ignore of she wants to keep pushing the question

fuggetboutit · 2018-12-25T20:50:55+00:00

I'd say deflect the question. Try to make her lead you on to exactly what she wants to hear and say it. But those are only words, dont change your game. If she starts changing she loses the LTR status.

To put it practically: Use her words, say "I don't use you as a fucktoy", and continue doing it until she exausts herself. Back to sex.

AA would be wrong in my opinion since its more risky and might add fire to the flame.

If something doesnt go to the plan, be insulted by the question and go from there.

Title	LTR asked if I use her for sex.
Author	drugtofuck
Upvotes	108
Comments	104
Date	December 25, 2018 6:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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