Of all the predictors of infidelity, N count is brought up more so than any other predictors, but only about the woman's history and never the man's. The literature on it suggests one's number of prior sex partners is correlated with higher chances of infidelity. In fact, studies suggest high number of short term partners leads to higher chance of infidelity for men than for women.

"A person's history of sex was a predictor of infidelity, too. Men who reported having more short-term sexual partners prior to marriage were more likely to have an affair, while the opposite was true for women."

Even if you have some distorted version of a healthy relationship where it's okay for a man to cheat but not for the woman to, revenge cheating is a significant predictor of infidelity as well. In other words, the woman is more likely to cheat as well if the male partner is also unfaithful.

Some questions:

Why isn't male n count discussed as much?

Do you think it is reasonable and consistent to expect low n count partners while not remaining one yourself? Is this just about those who want to have their cake and eat it too?

Should women care about n count as much as men do to vet for potential partners?

Does the n count obsession reflect more about a certain insecurity or feelings of missing out more than predictors of a strong relationship?