This sub is great. I have been saying this stuff for years, thank the Gods that there are other women around who are seriously interested in self-improvement and can call a spade a spade when it comes to men.

I've joined after lurking for weeks because this is an angle on these Pickmeisha-types which isn't often spoken of here. I can't take it anymore and I need to tell someone how these noxious attitudes have basically turned a friend who an extreme annoyance.

Here's some backstory: I'm in my late 20's, and I have a friend, whom we will call Lena, whom I have known since I was 12. Our lives have gone on different paths, as you would expect. I've travelled around the world and I'm a professional illustrator/designer, following my dreams. When we were 18, Lena had a relationship with a guy, we'll call Chris, who was 30, and whom prior to dating her had also been chasing/dating her older cousin. Warning bells, right? I gave her the standard advice - that the guy was 100% a loser. What kind of 30 year old chases an 18 year old virgin? She didn't listen, and so began five years of hell for her with this chode. Meanwhile, I packed up and went to live in China after graduating and getting my degree.

Fast forward to this year. My contact with Lena has been sporadic, given that I live in another country now and she has up until very recently been in our home city. Her relationship with Chris of course went bust, but she never told me about it. And over the past few years, our friendship has gone from very close to totally distant. She never messages me asking how I am or what I'm doing. It's always up to me to try and engage. She also has developed a serious narcissism problem, in my view. Lena constantly wants to brag about herself and her money, and, in particular, brag about the money and jobs of the various men that she is dating or lining up. I find braggarts in general to be utterly foul, so this has also kept me from messaging her because inevitably she will steer the conversation back to herself and materialistic concerns.

After months and months of no contact, I got an abrupt message from her. She wanted to try and move to the country and city I am in, and get a job. She asked if she could crash at my place while she goes for some job interviews and training. Since she she was in a jam, I agree.

Now, I want to say for the record that I have only ever had one boyfriend my whole life, who is now my fiance and I'm 100% positive the love of my life. He's the best person in the world, kind, generous and intelligent. If everyone had even half of his integrity, this world would be paradise. But I digress... As soon as Lena walked into the door to my apartment, she gave him a critical once over. I just knew she was going to make a negative comment about him because she has always been that way, judgmental and vain. Sure enough, when she and I were alone, she proceeded to insult his appearance, saying that he looked much, much older than his age. Of course, this isn't true...My fiance looks great and is exactly my age. I don't date old guys...unlike some...

Throughout the week she stayed with us, she continued to make critical jabs at us - she said that she was surprised that my job is so uncreative (very odd comment - I'm a pro designer, published illustrator, I'm always making creative stuff and posting it online. My career is in a great state), that our apartment is small, and here's a big one, she doesn't seem to like the fact that both my fiance and I are virgins. Sure, it's unusual in this day and age, but for us, sex is a serious thing and a private matter. We are waiting until marriage, and would have been married by now if it hadn't been for Covid-19 interrupting our plans. I nevertheless tried my best to avoid this discussion. Meanwhile, she has been dating a string of men who she has met on Instagram, culminating in her latest, some guy who lives in our city, who is apparently oh-so-rich, has an amazing job, is handsome and worships the ground Lena walks on.

I was a bit suspicious of this: how come she didn't stay with her lover instead of us? Apparently, he was away for work, but I immediately thought to myself that for him, it was a convenient excuse. Finally, the week is over and she leaves. Two months later, I get curious and send her a message asking how it went on. What do you know, she has moved up here and got the job - one whole month ago. Never bothered to tell me about it. And, of course, her Instagram boyfriend who she was bragging on and on about has dumped her. According to her, he has been feeling depressed and it 'wouldn't be fair to her' to keep on dating when he is so sad. Lena has accepted this and has immediately jumped into another relationship with someone else.

Now, how does this tie into FDS? Well, this person right here is an unusual example of the Pickmeisha, a certain type that thinks they know the game but actually doesn't know shit. Lena knows how morally bankrupt men can be. On the other hand, she's so narcissistic that she believes every single on of their lies. Men flood her Instagram page and call her sexy, beautiful and 'not like other girls' and she believes every word because her ego would not allow her to, for a single second, doubt that she is the greatest of all time. Meanwhile, she has been known to send nudes to old guys for attention (60 years plus, ladies, gross) and has quite clearly been pumped and dumped by a scrote. Instead of admitting that she got played, she is walking around town saying the break-up was all her idea. Seeing as she has already picked up another 'distraction' on Instagram, I imagine this trend will continue.

What's really infuriating, is the fact that my best friend, whom at one point I was convinced would be my friend forever and ever and ever, has become a truly unlikable Pickmeisha. It's infuriating to me that a woman whose taste in men is so abysmal would even dream of insulting my beloved fiance, in our own home. At this point, our friendship is finished. I highly recommend you ladies to read the 48 laws of power, and in particular, Law 10: avoiding the unfortunate and the unlucky. Pickmeishas of all stripes are absolutely the unfortunate and the unlucky, and if you let them in your orbit, they will insult you and bring you down. Just as we should avoid LVMs, unfortunately, we also have to occasionally vet our friends so they don't darken our skies.

END. RANT.