How To Consistently Be In A Great Mood When You Go Out
Does it ever feel like you can only have great conversations with people when you’re in a good mood?
For some reason if you wake up feeling great, the rest of the day magically opens up. Jokes come naturally... Abundance mentality flows freely...
It doesn’t feel like you even have to try that hard to be a charming, witty bastard.
But what happens if you didn’t get a good night’s sleep and wake up feeling horrible?
Well, here comes the pain...
Every conversation feels like a chore. And people don’t react to you the way they would when you’re in a good mood. Girls start putting up resistance right away. And you can barely even pass shit tests anymore, your brain feels 2X slower...
You just want to be left alone. You want to take naps to try to “rescue” the day.
You practically have to slap yourself across the face to even work up enough motivation to drag your grumpy ass to the gym...
(For some reason though, your lifts don’t suffer at all from being tired or in a bad mood. Anyone who’s been lifting for a while knows this weird phenomenon)
For the longest time, I tried to force myself to go out and approach every Friday and Saturday even if I was in a bad mood.
And surprise, surprise, it almost never turned out well. These were the days I’d go out and get rejected 10X in a row.
These were the days my brain felt slow as fuck, like there was a dense fog inside making me take twice as long to come up with things to say...
I had two possible choices. Either “listen to my body” and stop going out on days I felt like shit, or find some way to FORCE myself to feel good when I go out.
I’m a stupidly stubborn person so I chose to find a way to force myself to be happy. Lol.
The first thing I tried was just going out for runs in the local park because I heard that cardio releases feel good endorphins. I also figured being surrounded by Nature couldn’t hurt.
Maybe this works for some people but I couldn’t stand just walking or running around with no purpose other than to feel good.
I mean, it was worth a shot but obviously I wasn’t going to walk my way to happiness...
But I wasn’t about to give up... And the second thing I tried was meditation. It’s recommended so much on here, I had to give it a shot right?
So I tried clearing my mind of all thoughts, both positive and negative. Being present to the moment. Bringing all my focus to my own breath entering and leaving my nostrils...
Some days, I meditated for a full hour before going out to approach or picking up the phone and making an important sales call.
And this actually worked! Without fail, every time I meditated for an hour before making an important call or going out to approach girls, I’d always be on point in my conversations. Always be in a good mood.
The problem is, this strategy just took too damn long to execute... I tried meditating for shorter time periods (15 min or less) but found I didn’t get the same happiness boost as longer periods of meditation.
And as everyone knows, certain important calls... you just don’t have any time to prepare for. You have to be in a great mood. You have to be on point with less than 5 minutes to prepare.
So for the longest time, I was just stuck with the mindset that if I didn’t meditate for at least half an hour before an important meeting or date, it was doomed from the start...
And it continued that way until I took a trip to Miami with a friend.
All of a sudden, I felt great every single day. I couldn’t even explain why.
I mean, I’ve been on vacations before but never consistently felt great like this, so it can’t just be the change in scenery.
I put some pieces together from some reading I’ve done in the past to make the conclusion that our mood has a lot to do with the sunlight.
It’s why people find it almost impossible to be in a bad mood on a beach in the Bahamas.
It’s also why countries like Norway or Sweden have such high rates of depression - and even worse suicide - despite having extremely high living standards. People just don’t get enough sunlight there.
So naturally, my first instinct was to try taking Vitamin D supplements. After all, Sunlight = stimulates Vitamin D production right? Herpy derp derp derp!
Useless. Didn’t notice a single noticeable change in mood from daily Vitamin D supplementation of 2000 IU a day. Tried raising the dose to 4000 IU a day, still nothing. Maybe 6000 IU? Still no effect...
Instead, I found a rather unconventional solution. Using your imagination to visualize the Warm Sunlight around you.
You should give this a shot right now.
Imagine that there’s a ball of warm, orange light all around your head. The light feels so warm on your face, and you can barely keep your eyes open because the sunlight is so bright!
And... if you did this correctly, you should instantly feel great.
Congratulations, you are no longer a slave to your emotions. You can choose to be in a good mood whenever you want,
The true beauty of this Orange Ball of Light technique is that it barely takes 10 seconds to implement.
But every time I do it before I approach, I’m instantly happy, chill, relaxed, as if I was sunbathing on a beach in Miami without a care in the world.
I’ve tried looking up scientific literature about why this works but couldn’t really find anything definitive.
Maybe it works by tapping into the collective conscience of Western Civilization in associating Sunny Beaches with good vibes and relaxation...
Maybe since Einstein proved that at the fundamental level, we’re all just highly condensed energy, doing this orange ball of light technique raises your energy levels.
The important thing is it doesn’t really matter why it works.
All you need to know is that it is indeed possible to be in a great mood whenever you want.
Hope you have a great day!