This has been a difficult time for my SO (22M) and I (22F). We're transitioning from living in the city with roommates to a rural shack but just for us. Right now I'm financially stuck with my current roommate situation till the end of this month and he's commuting daily for work and school. It's expensive for him due to me not yet paying bills at the new place. He's of course stressed and even though I am too, I am doing my best to just be as soft and understanding as possible. Shortly before he got off work he began to text me, being kind of aggressive and blaming me for him having to commute and his credit card debt (that's definitely not my fault tbh).

I guessed he was probably just using the money issues as a scapegoat for him being tired, angry at his boss for having him stay late, and not wanting to commute and sleep alone. I begged him to come over to my place and snuggle me, we'll make a pizza, and get to bed early so we'll both feel well rested and much better tomorrow. He will be able to sleep in nearly two extra hours.

I explained to him how he may feel stressed but I'm here for him and soon we'll be living together, my job will transfer, and we'll both be much better financially. We'll pay off his credit cards and begin saving finally. I reminded him that he is very fortunate that his college education is of no financial cost to him. I also reminded him that we chose the new place together, to be alone and without distractions of my needy friends and cheap rent so we can start saving our money. This was a decision we made together, not just me.

He later said he was so grateful for me not giving in to his very obvious baits for an argument. In the past I would have simply exploded with anger and hurt at him accusing me of not caring about us or him. Instead of defending my position with argument, I showed him how I felt and spoke softy of my dedication to him and our future.

Sorry it's so long, I'm just really proud of my progress because in the past, and you can ask him, I was an awful woman. I keep telling him how incredibly patient he was to wait for me to stop being so crazy! That I'm grateful he didn't give up on me. We're honestly so much happier now! He's such a good man, dedicated, and he deserves a good woman who doesn't treat him like he's a failure. This sub has helped us so much, thank you!