So I’ve been texting this girl for a couple weeks and our schedules don’t match well so we haven’t been able to meet for drinks. She has shown high interest, like initiating most texting, picking a restaurant, sexually flirtatious texts, etc.

So I told her let’s make it happen this week (meeting for drinks) and I’m getting a “not sure when I’ll be free”. In other words another maybe. And she genuinely intended to meet up at some point cuz I’ve had to turn down a time she proposed before, cuz I wasn’t free.

So the question is, do you force a yes or no at this point? Or do you just withdraw attention and maybe she’ll hit you up a few days or weeks down the road? I could tell her point blank that it’s a turnoff to keep dragging this out and if she’s interested she should find time this week. This would cut straight to the point and lead to either escalation or elimination. But it can also come off as needy/beta. By just withdrawing all contact until she initiates a time to meet, you leave the door open in the future but you’re also dependent upon initiation from a woman which they typically don’t do. So what’s the best play here?

This may sound like a petty question but I guess I’m wondering at the broader strategy with women here. By temperament I’m less inclined to soft nexting in general with women, and more inclined to be highly assertive in getting her compliance, until I either get a yes or break the plate. I don’t mind the plate breaking openly as opposed to just soft nexting.