I was browsing r/Christianmarriage and I mentioned that I was saving myself for marriage and that I wanted a wife who shared those values with me. Immediately, I was attacked as judgmental, misogynistic, selfish, and even an untrue Christian. Having premarital sex partners is directly linked to divorce rates, unhappy marriages, and unstable households so what’s wrong with wanting the best for myself and my family when the Bible specifically states that there are earthly consequences for our sin?

Yet these same people deny that such consequences exist. Some even went as far as claiming that the Bible ACTUALLY condones premarital sex. It’s one thing to attack me for sharing an opposing opinion. But propagating literal heresy, now I have a problem with that.

The funny thing is that it seems like the only people who have issues with my viewpoint are non-virgin women, or married women who have had premarital sex. I always ask them and never have I ever encountered a virgin woman who had hypocritically judged me for “judging” non virgins. I am convinced that this entire self-righteous opposition to pure Christian men wanting pure Christian wives is one massive cope. I’ve even noticed that stating this viewpoint elicits the same kind of angry response that porn addicts react with when they hear about Nofap or the fact that porn is bad for you.

I ask them why my desires are misogynistic and judgmental and they claim that they are so because a “true Christian” should be willing to look at a woman’s past. But when I ask them, “Would you be okay with your daughter marrying a truly repentant Christian man with a history of domestic abuse, drug addictions, or even rape? Does a pure Christian woman desiring a pure Christian man make her judgmental and misandrist?”

And their way of avoiding the response that exposes their blatant hypocrisy is that they are “apples and oranges” and thus incomparable as if they do not share the common thread of the entire premise of their original argument that a Christian should be willing to look past someone’s past. Needless to say, they almost always end up hurling insults before blocking me.

I support all my based brothers who have to experience the hypocrisy of modern women.