Single moms learn early on that most men don't want their baggage, so many will hide the fact that they have kids hoping the man will accept them after getting to know each other. But when it backfires, the man is somehow the asshole. See the comments on the OP for insight into single mom mentality.

I split up with my ex around 2 years ago because I didn’t want children and she does (she was well aware I didn’t want children and she didn’t think she did, but as she got older her attitude changed and she admitted, tearfully, that she really wants children. It was a deal breaker for me and we split up amicably. We don’t keep in touch, but there’s no ill feeling, we wanted different things) I’m back on Tinder and due to my age (mid thirties) a lot of women on the app around my age are single mums. Now my profile explicitly states I’m child free, and I won’t swipe right on women that say they have children in their profile. However, I’ve been talking to two women who have recently admitted after a number of chats, video calls etc over the last few weeks, that they have children. I told them I wouldn’t date a woman with children and that it’s a deal breaker for me- and JESUS WEPT! The sheer fury they unleashed. Apparently I’m not a real man, I need to grow up, I’m a man-child, pathetic, insecure, lucky they even spoke to me etc etc all because I don’t want to enter into a relationship where children are involved. These women chose to have children, I did not, why would I want to raise their children when I don’t want to raise my own? And how does that make me less of a man? Is it that hard for them to accept that they may love their children but they are baggage and certain people don’t want to be in that situation? Are they angry at me or themselves?