I feel tired, lonely, and missionless, but deep down there is a hunger

kruxofthemimed · 2016-12-18T18:42:57+00:00

Don't take antidepressants. Huge mistake.

Humans have evolved to function in a specific environment. Our current society has drifted us very far from what is optimal for our physical and mental wellbeing. I want to explain this well so that my recommendations make sense lol.

Here are my thoughts on the issue: Humans did not evolve to be depressed. It would make absolutely no sense if humans had some inherent adaptation that would make us depressed, because that would drastically decrease our chances of survival. Therefore, we must look at what in our environment has changed in the past hundred years that has caused such a widespread amount of depression in people.

Stimulation: We are stimulated nonstop. No matter where you go, what you do, if you are living inside of a 1st world country your brain is constantly being bombarded by novel stimulus. Whether it be new billboards advertising some shit on your freeway, restaurants/grocer signs, colorful/interesting building architecture, or (mainly) technology via your computer screen/mobile device. We have never lived in a time with more immediate gratification. Every little bit of stimuli we take in releases a small amount of dopamine, and when we sit at our computer all day our dopamine receptors can become over saturated and no longer respond to smaller pleasures like socializing or walking in nature. My recommendation to fix this is reduce your overall intake of stimulation. Get off of your computer and meditate once in a while. Develop hobbies that don't immediately reward you, whether it music, art, writing, whatever. Just take time to let your mind reflect rather than observe new things. Let yourself sit and think sometimes. AND STOP WATCHING PORN.

Nutrition: Our diets have changed very rapidly as well. Many chronic diseases have started appearing in westernized countries as our intake of saturated fat and cholesterol have skyrocketed, and vital micronutrients have been neglected. Many people are vitamin and mineral deficient, while far exceeding a healthy amount of saturated fat and cholesterol intake (which for humans is incredibly low to begin with). Get your Vitamin D3, you are more than likely deficient. You only need 2000 IUs a day, so just one of those pills every morning. Secondly, increase your intake of vegetables, fruits, legumes, seeds, nuts, and whole grains. Consider the fact that what you eat is what you are. Most mainstream nutritional science is heavily influenced by financial interests. This is a great site to find out more about anything you need to know about nutrition. This is the current daily recommended nutrient intake for optimal health. Remember, diet and mental health are closely related and this only makes sense. Your brain has evolved to eat a massive volume of plant foods containing vital micronutrients, antioxidants, phytonutrients, and FIBER. Good physical health = happy functioning brain. Trust me on this one, I wake up every morning feeling great and exercising, and all I do is follow exactly what that site says. If you need any help at all, I urge you to send me a PM and I can help you out. I will provide research for everything I recommend and thoroughly explain it so that you don't feel confused, because shit can get confusing.

Exercise: Exercise cannot be overlooked. It sounds like you already exercise, but I would recommend incorporating weight lifting into your routine if you do not already do so. Weight lifting is a great hobby to build willpower, this is the routine I started 3 weeks ago and I've seen incredible progress already. I heavily recommend a full-body workout 3x a week to maximize gains as protein synthesis only occurs for 48 hours after a workout (unless you are on steroids), but this also requires a fairly good diet. Lots of beans and legumes (healthy carbs) are necessary to be able to keep up with the stress on all your muscles.

Socializing: It sounds like you might be lonely. I'm in the same boat as you right now, but I'm trying to get in contact with some old friends and force myself to socialize. Socializing is hugely important for humans, as it is for other social animals. If you are lacking in your social life it will affect you no matter how healthy and disciplined you are. Make some friends, or meet up with old friends, and give it a go. Most importantly, be open about who you are and what your goals in life are. Many relationships can get stuck at a superficial level because both participants are uncomfortable talking about themselves. Do not be this person. Let yourself open up, and tell your friends what your goals and fears are, and I can guarantee you will notice an immediate weight off your shoulders. If you can't find any friends right now, I'm more than happy to be a sort of penpal for you. Even simply sending a few messages back and forth every few days can make a big difference in how alone you feel.

TL;DR: Reduce your intake of stimulation/entertainment, meditate, eat healthy (not many people know how to, here is how to) exercise, and have a social life

lietruth · 2016-12-18T18:21:44+00:00

First of all, congratulations on graduating from your MBA, that's a huge feat.

I don't know what's going on in your life and this sadness could manifest for a multitude of reasons. Stop masturbating and watching porn. It's draining your masculine vitality. Get your vitamin d levels checked, iron levels, if your over 28 get your T tested as well. If you wake up tired, then book a sleep study. You could have sleep apnea, or another sleeping disorder that's causing this.

Read the book:* "breaking the habit of being yourself - joe dispenza"

Start speaking and thinking from a place of abundance and gratitude, instead of scaricity and self pity.

Title	I feel tired, lonely, and missionless, but deep down there is a hunger
Author	PranksterLad
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Comments	11
Date	December 18, 2016 6:14 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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