I just got done reading this article over on The Family Alpha. I found myself noticing many of the same or similar behaviors that my husband does that drive me wild and keep me bouncy and happy. I began thinking about what I do to keep him strong, confident, and happy and came up with my own mini-list. I would love to hear what some of you ladies do.

My List

  • I have started wearing dresses to work and am slowly figuring out ways to wear them at home and on the weekends as well

  • I play. I run around, I twirl, I laugh, and try to bring whimsey into our house

  • I defer to him. We mostly agree on subjects, but when we have a topic we disagree on I defer to him.

  • I have grown my hair out and keep it a very natural auburn-red. When we met my hair was very short and unfeminine, he begged me for years to grow it out, and dropped hints that he liked redheads.

  • I foster femininity in our daughter. I was the oldest of two girls and my father desperately wanted a son, but my brother was still-born. My mother could not handle another pregnancy and so was brought up as a tom-boy, hunting, fishing, rough and tumble play, encouraged in basketball, and got my first short haircut. Since discovering my femininity I let my 3 year old play and experiment with my makeup (brushes and 'lipstick'), I let her wear as much pink as she wants and encourage feminine traits.

  • Within this I also encourage her to see my husband as the alpha. I vocalize to her that he is strong, and in charge and other such things. When a choice is made by him I validate it for her saying that "Daddy takes care of us" or "Daddy always knows best" types of things.

  • I cook the food he likes, or when going out, suggest places we both enjoy, and where I know he can drink a good beer.

  • I have been working at being a better house keeper. I admit it, I suck at cleaning! When its just me there is no mess to clean up, I am a generally clean person putting stuff away and cleaning as I go. But this is NOT my husband. So I have needed to learn a new way of doing things. I'm getting better, seeing it as my contribution/responsibility has helped out a lot, but I still have room to grow.