..and I don't know how to reconcile this. I am 5'9, average build, not packing, have been told I'm handsome but I've all but lost my hair.

I taught myself programming over about 5 years and isolated myself from society. Got a job and doubled my income and I'm now, at 29, focusing on getting the fuck out of slavery and being a slave to myself - building my own software business.

I've only been dating the last couple years. I found myself in a couple of short relationships, slept with about 10 women.. however, most of these women were from online dating (all casual), and most were approaching the wall. I did sleep with a couple of younger women, but my game wasn't tight enough to really make progress with the younger crowd.

I'm with a latin girl I've been with for about a year, but I don't trust her (met on Tindr and bedded within an hour).

I feel like I've missed out on a lot of fun and experience in my 20s, so I was planning to make up for it in my 30s and settle late 30s. But what I just cannot get my head around is WHY would a quality woman stick with me AND stay attracted to me when there are plenty of other, taller, funnier, more social guys she could date?

I feel like I'm destined to take their scraps. I want to eventually settle down with a family, but not for another 6/7/8 years, so I want to learn as much as I can before I do. Still.. I won't be any taller, my dick won't be any bigger. I'll still be a manlet and there will still be many better options for young, quality women.

Is money, resources, power, behaviour THE divider? Is that the only way I can compete with chad?