Alright so I've been in this situation countless times where I stand with my dick in my hand and consider which course of action is best to take. I need your take on this one so I can handle it correctly.

My first question: is it bad to ask directly what's wrong? I know already that you should downplay whatever she says. I.e "you called me a whore" "Haha stop being so sensitive over a joke, hell I'm a whore myself"

My second question: let's say you do something wrong, if you shouldn't ask what's wrong, what should you do? Next?

Any other information regarding scenarios like these are welcome, knowledge is king.