Yesterday I went back home from an night out. It was 4 a.m. and the railway station was busy because everyone tried to go home.
I noticed 3 arab / turkish men harassing a younger woman who clearly felt unsecure and was in fear. She tried to get away from those guys but they followed her and were really aggressive.
Literally no one had the balls to say something. There was a group of 6 "men" right beside me and they were talking about how it WOULD be the right thing to help her. Everyone noticed, but no one did something.
I went there and told the guys that they should leave if they do not want problems. I do not know but in my experience dogs that bark do not bite, so when stuff like that happens I try to counteract with being aggressive as well. They were older than me, but not as tall and definitely not as strong - but you never know in this town if they have a knife or whatever with them and I was outnumbered as well.
After telling them to leave one of them immediately went rage mode, shouting that he will fuck my mother and beat me up, stuff like that. Obviously drunk / on drugs. I just stood there holding my frame and smirking at him, telling him to just leave. Hoping that he wouldn't do shit :-)
He didn't. They left. One of them came back 5 minutes later and told me that I was insane and that I shouldn't mess with the wrong people, threatening me again and telling me I only had the balls to do it because I seem to be on drugs. I was sober. Still hold frame, not showing any fear.
The girl thanked me later, told me she was scared. A few other guys came up to me and told me they did not have the balls to do something and they thought it was a good act.
However:
Situations like those can quickly backfire. I do not want to get stabbed or whatsoever. On my nights out there are often aggressive drunk dudes and I wonder what is the best way to deal with those guys. Counteract with being aggressive and holding frame? Staying out of their way? What is your way to deal with aggressive men?
If I remember correctly there was a post on trp about how you should NOT help woman in situations like that, because your well being is far more important. But is that really the right thing to do? Do you guys look away at stuff like that? In this situation it was NOT about the woman, I did not care about her at all. I just felt that it was the right thing to do as a man. And that a man should not try to avoid confrontation out of fear. And it was a great way to practice to hold my frame.
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