General question. I have a couple plates and there’s one I like more than the others. With the three I don’t give a shit about, I just ask them to hangout on a certain day. Don’t really provide plans. Maybe I’ll think of something the day before. Maybe not. Have no problems scheduling them.

Then with the plate I like more, I do things a little differently. I’ve asked her to hang out on certain days a couple times and she “couldn’t.” Who knows if it was a real obligation or not but that’s besides the point. I try to make concrete date plans with this girl in advance instead. But still having trouble scheduling her. She’ll agree roughly every other time.

My question is do you need to treat different plates differently like this? Or is the fact I’m treating her differently probably seeping into other behaviors, making me seem needy or desperate?