Summary - Women are indecisive because they've already made the decision that matters to them.
Body - I used to get pissed off by women's lack of decisiveness (circa my 18-21 blue pill days).
Her: I'm hungry, what should we get for dinner?
Me: Well what kind of food do you feel like?
Her: I don't know...
Me: You're hungry for dinner but don't know what you want to eat? WTF?
When I graduated college, I simply came to terms with it--telling myself women can't help it--and just started making all the decision on dates or in relationships.
Red Pill 101 teaches us that this is a two-fold strategy: first, it's a fitness test for us as the pack leader. Do you want to make the decision and stand by it/defend it? Or would you rather sit there with a thumb up your ass and try to talk through it like women deciding what shoes go best with a dress. The second part of the strategy is to distance themselves from responsibility: if you pick a restaurant and it sucks, it can't possibly be her fault.
I was working under this framework for the better part of a decade, but then a Red Piller in disguise dropped some serious knowledge on me and made me re-evaluate.
A little background: I work in a sales role working with affluent and high net worth clients for one of the big financial firms. One of my clients is an extremely specialized physician making boat loads of money.
He's currently settling a fairly large estate, and there are a few sisters that he must distribute to. Think of it as a feline/hamster civil war.
While incredibly intelligent, he comes off a little sheepish but is handling this settlement like a fucking boss. We were having a casual conversation about life, money, and the fact that he was named to settle the trust by the deceased specifically because women are A) catty and will fuck each other over and B) cannot make a decision and stand by it.
I, of course, attribute this to their biology and lack of accountability. They can't help but not make decisions. I bring up the "Where should we eat?" example.
And, always the deep thinker, he pauses for a moment and then drops this gem on me:
"Well, legedu, it's true that they have a hard time deciding a lot of things, but the "What's for dinner?" example shows something else. In her mind, she's ALREADY MADE her decision: she chose you. That was a difficult decision for her, and now she feels she doesn't need to make any more. That's your job."
Mind fucking blown.
Take Away - When a woman chooses you--whether it be for the night, for a month, or for life--that's it. She has made her decision, and her biology will tell her to stick to her decision unless you give her reason not to. You are the pack leader and the shot caller unless you give her reason to feel otherwise.
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